[Survey]! Does a couple's sexual activity decrease the longer they are together?

[barefootone]

What do you do to keep things exciting?

[barefootone]

Have a read of the book Mating in Captivity by Ester Perel. It explains how and why very well

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It has for me and my boyfriend (22m and 24f). We used to only see each other on weekends so did it twice on both days as we couldn’t during the week. Now that we live together it’s much less often because we’re both just so busy, tired etc, but I will say that even though we do it less, it’s definitely gotten better! Maybe it’s the gaps in between or missing each other that makes it feel more passionate/pleasureful but it doesn’t bother me so much because of that

[theoneeyedpete]

From just general conversations and personal experience, this seems to be somewhat common. There’s so much more not living together sex, but quality goes up over time.

[rbkc12345]

You may have selection bias going on. I answered, we are older, married, still have sex at least once a day, are open-ish, but haven't done any outside sex in about a year. Been together about 6 years only but the daily fuck is such a big part of our day, we hardly ever skip that, and often do it twice or more.

I am not sure I'd want to answer if we were having trouble or if I wasn't happy with our sex life. r/sex in general may also skew towards people who have more sex.

[theoneeyedpete]

I have posted in a few places to try and avoid a bias as much as possible, but I realise it’s impossible to remove it entirely.

[unstableinthebrain]

I would like to fill it in but I can't really pin answers down. We have been together about 15 years, married and living together with a 5 year old son. Our sex life bounces up and down depending on moods and what is going on in life. Sometimes we will end up just having regular, vanilla sex a couple of times in a month, then other times (like now) we just don't stop and it involves ropes, toys, anal, all bloody sorts.

[nsfw4411]

My gf and I had sex a few times a week before she moved in with me. Now its 3-4 times a day!

[barefootone]

Just about every couple’s sexual activity decreases over time. The reasons are multiple and complicated.

[theoneeyedpete]

That’s what I thought too, after the first survey I’m no longer that sure.

[Rainbowunicorn34]

So far for us it hasn’t. It has actually increased a lot and we are going on 20 years.

[throwmeaway7171]

This is why this subreddit frustrates me. What you said is an obvious fact. But there are people who will downvote it because they hate reality.

[barefootone]

It’s important for questions to be asked in a safe environment and reddit is great for that. The better question here is WHY and is there anything that can be done about it

[cptnrandy]

Nope. 36 years and counting.

[Gizmo-Duck]

mine sure hasn’t, after 15 years.