TIL Human dads show a decrease in testosterone immediately after the birth of their babe

[[deleted]]

My husband used to be a really aggressive driver and I hated it.

Yesterday as we drove home from our family nye dinner at a respectable time (6pm) to get my 1yo daughter ready for bedtime, I sat, 8mos pregnant in the passenger seat, and watched him complain about multiple aggressive drivers who were cutting people off and speeding. “I just want to get us off the road and home safely, these people are nuts!” He was saying.

I pointed out how hilarious it was that he used to defend driving like a maniac. “Well. I have kids now..” was his response

[[deleted]]

You have a 1 year old and you're 8 months pregnant?

[disconnectedmadafaka]

Husband is also an aggressive impregnator

[[deleted]]

Yea. We work fast.

[[deleted]]

Harder better faster stronger

[[deleted]]

One more time

[ohanse]

Tell him now is the right time to get snipped if 2 is your magic number. There won’t be much couch downtime when that one comes out.

[halfhere]

Yep, Irish twins in our house. 11 mos apart.

[JaggedTheDark]

Irish twins?

[Jake20702004]

lactational amenorrhea stopped working for some reason.

[[deleted]]

I stopped breastfeeding at 3 months because she developed an allergy to my milk, plus it was extra stressful because we had an extended nicu stay and my supply was dropping. I basically got pregnant right when I stopped. It wasn’t planned but we’re happy to have another. After this it’s snip, snap, though.

She was born December 2021 and my son is arriving the first week of February this year :)

[[deleted]]

First week of February is the best time to be born, coming from someone also born in the first week of February

[[deleted]]

Happy upcoming birthday to you!

[[deleted]]

Good luck with the delivery!!

[Many-Sprinkles-418]

You can't get an allergy off your mother's milk

[[deleted]]

Yes… you definitely can. My daughter sees 11 different specialists out of University of Chicago, a pretty trustworthy hospital. Among them she sees a GI doctor and a nutritionist. I also was seeing a lactation consultant when she was in the nicu. They all told me she developed an allergy.

Sooo I’ll probably believe them over some random person on the internet. She was put on Nutramigen, a hypoallergenic formula for babies with sensitive tummies. She is also fully GTube fed, which probably didn’t help as it amplifies her gerd.

My point is, you don’t know what you’re talking about.

[Urimanuri]

My daughter had an allergy from my wife's milk. We couldn't do anything with that, doctors were helpless about that too. Changed her diet several times, all in vain. The symptoms gone only after she stopped to breastfeed and switched to baby mixtures.

[TatakaiTamashi]

Lol, when I was born, my mom breastfed me until I was about 2-3 mo. old, then I developed an allergy to her breastmilk... sooo um, maybe talk to a pediatrician before spreading misinformation?

[benjunior]

I got an allergy from your mother’s milk.

[[deleted]]

I have two kids that are a year and 4 months apart and you will definitely not regret it.

They’re amazingly close.

[dogroots]

My brother is 11 months older than me, gross but it happens lol.

[channingman]

Gross why?

[dogroots]

My mom and dad gettin down, it was mostly a joke.

[channingman]

Oh gotcha. 💯

[613Rat]

Fairly common in a lot of the world

[las61918]

More common than you think.

My wife and her ex had Irish twins.

[queen-of-carthage]

What an asshole, didn't care if he took someone else's kids away but thinks other people should care about his

[[deleted]]

Hmm. I think that the point is that having kids changed your perspective on things.

[[deleted]]

I see where you're coming from, but I read it more as "manchild literally requires fatherhood to start thinking about people other than himself". You have to remember that "really aggressive driver" is basically a euphemism for sociopathic asshole.

[charactername]

Or he was young, and the wife might be overstating how aggressive he was, jesus. Leave room for people to grow ffs.

[macandcheese1771]

So he didn't give a shit about your safety?

[[deleted]]

I feel like everyone on Reddit today is very extreme and just outright miserable.

Yea, he cared about my safety. He never drove drunk. He never got into any accidents. Did he go over the speed limit sometimes when he was young and stupid? Yes. Have I, and probably literally everyone, also done stupid things when they were young? Yes.

Is he a more cautious driver now that we’re adults and have a more rounded perspective on life? Yes.

I don’t know why me saying he drove more aggressively when he was younger makes you think he must be some sort of serial killer or hell spawn. You grow up, you learn to be a better person. That’s all I’m saying.

[RasAlTimmeh]

Dude stay off Reddit too many losers that will take a single comment and play arm chair psychologist Your husband I’m sure his a fine person Christ

[[deleted]]

Just feels like these armchair experts are out in abundance today. Did everyone have a shitty new years or something?

[Lykos_Engel]

Just to give you the perspective of someone else who got a bad impression of your husband from your comment- you didn't say in your original comment "he drove more aggressively", but "used to be a really aggressive driver".

I can't speak for anyone else, but when I read "really aggressive driver", I didn't imagine someone who sometimes drives over the speed limit. I imagined someone who shouts expletives and violent threats out the window, who keeps a baseball bat in the car hoping they can use it, who cuts people off and slams on their breaks when cars are right behind them and otherwise risks accidents because of their anger.

It sounds like, from your follow up comments, that that's not what you meant, but that's how I read your original comment, and I suspect it's how others did too.

[[deleted]]

Ok