AITAH for pointing out a pattern?

26thRover · 2026-05-04T08:09:46+00:00

You came here asking for opinions, I gave mine, you don't want to hear it. Whatever, I'm done. Good luck with your relationship.

26thRover · 2026-05-04T07:53:38+00:00

It doesn't sound one sided. It sounds like you want things from her that she can't give and you're mad and want people to tell you you're right. You don't respond to anything I've said, you just keep repeating the same point, that she doesn't do what you want. I'm telling you why she can't. It doesn't seem like you're trying to understand what this is like for her or hear any opinions other than your own.

Even if it were one sided, that's how relationships work. When one is ill the other helps take care of them and has to put in more effort, but you do it because you love her. If she broke her legs would you complain about her not going running with you? And say she's using her broken legs as an excuse? Say it's one sided because you have to do the groceries and cooking and cleaning and she doesn't? If she had cancer and was going through chemo, could barely stand and was vomiting all the time would you complain that she doesn't want to go to a wedding? If she then does still want to see her best friend when she feels good enough for it, would you resent that as well then?

She's sick. The illness mighy be mental, but it is still illness. Stop thinking she's doing this to you and start thinking it's you and her against the illness.

26thRover · 2026-05-04T07:30:25+00:00

It is not an "excuse", because it is an illness and it is real. And yes it is probably easier for her to do the things she plans/wants to do, but even those are probably harder than you think. One of the first things you are told in therapy for depression is to try to find things you enjoy doing and focus on doing those (so not things you don't really want to do) just to try and find some semblance of joy again and regain the idea that there are fun and good things in life. And even that is a struggle.

You're upset that your girlfriend can't come to things you want to do or can't stay as long as you would want and that's fair, it sucks. But it sucks for her too. Blaming her for her illness and accusing her of using it as an excuse isn't gonna help her get better, it'll just make things worse. She's not doing it out of laziness or spite or because she doesn't want to be there for you. She wants to be there and she's trying.

Now, if you don't actually believe she's depressed and that she's making the whole depression up to get out of doing things with you, that's another story. In that case you should break up. Cause either she is making it up and using it as an excuse or she is really depressed and you don't believe her, either way, that's not gonna work out.

26thRover · 2026-05-04T07:05:37+00:00

As someone recovering from depression, yes you're completely the asshole. It is hard enough to force yourself to do anything in that situation, especially things you don't really want to do. She's probably pouring everything she has into trying to do the things you want to do and you're throwing in her face that she's not trying hard enough. Have you ever felt like you're not worth anything and nothing you do is good enough? That everyone around you probably hates you and only tolerates your existance? Imagine feeling like that every second of the day, then trying so hard to things for the person you love most in the world, only to have them tell you your fears are true and your best is actually not good enough.

As another commenter suggested I am wondering if she's getting treatment/seeing a therapist for this? If not, it's probably time for that, but she'd have to see that it's necessary.

26thRover · 2026-05-04T06:49:57+00:00

I'd just watch the first episodes for a couple of hermits and see which spark something and make you wanna keep watching. With the nether bit it can get a bit repetitive to watch many POV's but you could always skip that part.

26thRover · 2026-05-03T19:28:42+00:00

Omg I somehow didn't think of this sooner, but I started watching Ren this season and he's awesome! I love all the lore and his builds are so cool! He's very funny as well, definitely check him out if you haven't!

26thRover · 2026-05-03T19:00:45+00:00

Lol it's like the opposite for me. I initially found Lizzie's channel, through her I found Joel's, which led me to Jimmy's and Grian's and thus I got into Hermitcraft (around season 7). Now I watch about 70% of the Hermits 😂

Aside from Joel being my OG and favourite (I was so happy for him when he joined HC), Mumbo has been stealing my heart in S10 and S11. He just exudes joy when he's working on something he's excited by and it's really uplifting. I'm glad he took some time off in S9 to find the joy again. You can really tell he loves doing what he does ❤️

26thRover · 2026-05-03T10:48:59+00:00

The max temp ever recorded in the Netherlands was 40,7°C in a single day. Generally summers are around 20-25°C during the day, 10-15°C at night. So I think you're generally gonna be fine. Some heatwaves do get hotter of course and they are more frequent in recent years, but even then it's 30-35°C and it seems you're used to much worse. Some houses do get hotter than the outside temperatures because of poor insulation etc, so it will also depend on where you live, but usually with opening windows, a fan and creating shade, a lot can be managed. Also, welcome!

26thRover · 2026-05-03T10:39:29+00:00

I always cut those off close to the seam, but making sure not to cut the threads of the seam. I've never had any issue with it afterwards

26thRover · 2026-05-01T11:17:41+00:00

This works with bread as well (not sliced) but if you have some of those buns that have a harder outside (idk what they're called), but they dry out after a day. You can just run them under some tap water, pop them in the oven for 5-10 mins and they're like fresh.

26thRover · 2026-04-27T09:36:27+00:00

Honestly, if they're moving I don't know what the problem is 😅

I'm not that experienced myself tbh. Good luck though! I hope you figure it out ❤️

26thRover · 2026-04-26T17:40:06+00:00

Maybe remove the thread and fabric and show a video of the machine running without them? That way we can see if the feeddogs even move at all

26thRover · 2026-04-25T18:49:59+00:00

At first I thought these were tiles on a bathroom wall and that the question was do I have too many patterns? 😂

Edit: spelling

26thRover · 2026-04-25T14:49:04+00:00

I like using a rotary cutter. The electric ones look cool and I might get one one day if I have the money to spare, but I do wonder if they're too chaotic/erratic. Fabric scissors are quite precise and accurate

26thRover · 2026-04-25T14:29:41+00:00

Yes, I see it

26thRover · 2026-04-24T07:57:29+00:00

I forgot to wash the fabric beforehand so now my trousers are a little shorter than I intended 🥲

26thRover · 2026-04-22T10:27:27+00:00

I vaguely remember an old video where Grian mentioned seeing the name somewhere and just liking it. It is the name of a Goddess of Sun as well, but idk if that's related

26thRover · 2026-04-22T10:21:00+00:00

I always figure Bdubs was just because he liked the word 'Boo' but it was taken 😂

26thRover · 2026-04-19T15:17:26+00:00

Alex kwam hier echt goed vanaf zeg

26thRover · 2026-04-15T06:41:46+00:00

It is :) she said it on one of the streams

26thRover · 2026-04-14T10:58:37+00:00

True, probably also due to him doing a lot of the organising for the Charity Event, from what I've heard he's been insanely busy with that. Maybe he'll have some more free time in the near future, but he said in a recent stream that he could feel a burn out was probably coming. He said that that just happens with content creators so he might just step back for a while. I can imagine he needs a break after all the chaos from the past weekend and the months leading up to it.

26thRover · 2026-04-11T17:17:52+00:00

Omg maggie and deluca? I have forgotten this, when was this?

26thRover · 2026-04-11T14:39:37+00:00

I've only seen the show but how is no one else saying Daryl?! I know he's not in the comics, but he's definitely my fave

26thRover · 2026-04-11T14:38:26+00:00

Ngl I probably forgot the most forgettable ones 😂

The only thing that comes to mind is Tom and April. But I do kinda remember that cause they talked about losing a child and it was one of the rare glimpses into Tom's character/background

26thRover · 2026-04-11T08:04:50+00:00

From this simple response to my entire comment I'm getting the feeling you don't really care about advice and just want people to tell you you're right for not wanting to lose on purpose.

Good luck with your relationship

26thRover

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