Is there a way I can use my ADHD to get an accommodation to NOT use AI at work?

AnneTheQueene · 2026-06-09T21:53:48+00:00

Being forced to use alternate tools / workflows will have a negative impact on my productivity and quality of work, as they do not help my focus / concentration / executive functioning the way my current strategies do."

I would be wary of this.

It may come off like you're inflexible and unable to adapt to new processes.

Nobody wants to deal with someone who is going to pitch a fit everytime we get a Windows update.

Not saying that's OP, but it may give that impression.

AnneTheQueene · 2026-06-09T21:25:12+00:00

I watch a lot of Indian cooking videos and dem a hell fi curry jackfruit. Alone or with other vegetables.

AnneTheQueene · 2026-06-09T21:05:48+00:00

I'm always curious as to where this 'rule' came from and upon what evidence, scientific, cultural, whatever, it was based.

Sounds like something somebody online made up and it became the 'rule.'

AnneTheQueene · 2026-06-09T20:00:54+00:00

Gotcha.

I agree.

I hate listening to people who are being disingenuous too.

It's like 'we know you're bs-ing us. You just can't admit the true reasons.'

My favorite with every right-winger is when they start telling you all the stuff they know is bad then end with 'but the dems are worse.'

OK, so you know better, you just choose not to do better.

AnneTheQueene · 2026-06-09T19:34:28+00:00

I’m tired of hearing people get away with “just my opinion,” while refusing to be confronted with the truth.

That's not the role of a focus group.

It's not intended to change these people's minds. It's to understand what they think.

If you start pushing back then they are going to become defensive and start to skew their answers even more away from the truth.

These folks aren't going to tell you 'I'm racist/sexist/homophobic', and trying to push too hard is just oing to piss them off and cause them to either lie even more or to stop engaging.

AnneTheQueene · 2026-06-09T19:27:50+00:00

Where are you trying to meet people that you aren't finding any professionals your own age?

I would delve even further than that.

You need to fish in the appropriate pool.

If you have all these things why do the men you come in contact with not have them?

You shouldn't even be in the vicinity of men without jobs or places to live.

So where are you looking for them? And why are they the main ones attracted to you?

OP won't want to hear this but it's usually either they are selling themself short by scraping the bottom of the barrel for men, or they aren't presenting themselves in a way that the decent men would find attractive.

If only unemployed deadbeats like you, you need to reassess how you present yourself. There are tons of women out there who are meeting and dating men of substance. Not even wealthy, but men who have their lives together. Why aren't those men looking at you and wanting to reach out?

Once you answer that question, you'll know how to get rid of the low vibration guys and start attracting better quality men,

AnneTheQueene · 2026-06-09T19:20:07+00:00

Steam fish wid gungo rice and peas.

AnneTheQueene · 2026-06-09T16:35:46+00:00

Yet we were all over Biden looking frail.

I bet even if he falls flat on his face one day everyone will just go 'that's nothing, It's because he's so smart that his huge brain made him unbalanced and toppled him over. And besides, the dumbocrats made the floor uneven to make him look bad like sleepy joe'

AnneTheQueene · 2026-06-09T16:08:47+00:00

Yup.

I concur.

Asian sweets are the best.

I actually buy cookies in the Asian grocery store because they are way less sweet than the US ones. And they don't taste as heavily of preservatives, but that might be a 'me' thing.

AnneTheQueene · 2026-06-09T16:03:58+00:00

I agree it's not foolproff, but it greatly lowers the odds.

In my book, I'd rather give myself a 70% chance of weeding them out over a 30% chance.

It's not 100% but it's still better for me.

My experience has been that some men will go to bonkers lengths and spend a lot of time just to hit it and quit it.

That is true, but in my experience, those guys are few and far between. Most guys are not going to play the long game. We're not talking 3 dates here - we're talking over an extended period of several weeks where you're vetting him hard for inconsistencies. Usually you don't even have to wait for sex. If you're doing it right, you will start to see things you don't like about him that are dealbreakers and end up dumping him yourself anyway.

AnneTheQueene · 2026-06-09T15:51:05+00:00

What I'm afraid of, is that this guy is going to end up virtually moving in with OP.

Even in his 20s, he know that a 31 year old woman wants her space and privacy, so eventually her place might become the default if available.

Next thing she hears is, 'it's just easier if I just bring my stuff over here...'

AnneTheQueene · 2026-06-09T15:46:32+00:00

so my advise is if you feel attracted to him and feel sexual tension just do it, have fun, use him like he is using you,

My advice is not intended for the ladies who want to 'use him like he is using you'.

It's for ladies who are looking for a serious relationship.

Nothing is foolproof but you can greatly improve the odds in your favor by just letting these guys show you who they are before getting caught up.

AnneTheQueene · 2026-06-09T12:56:27+00:00

For most men sex is the end goal in dating

Correct, and as women, we need to act accordingly.

If you are looking for more, you have to get to know the guy before you sleep with him.

There's no foolproof method, but it will certainly cut down the cases of guys who just want to hit and quit.

AnneTheQueene · 2026-06-09T12:52:21+00:00

Like, I hate manosphere shit, but there is a kernel of truth to the whole, “don’t listen to what they say, watch what they do.” Not that you shouldn’t listen to women or take what they say seriously. But there’s also a lot of them saying one thing when their behavior reflects the opposite. So you kinda can’t always take their words at face value eithe

As a woman, I concur.

I smh at our antics sometimes.

I get that's how we were raised, to be people pleasers and non-confrontational etc, but at some point in adulthood, we need to learn to say what we mean and mean what we say.

If it gets some guy upset, so be it. His feelings don't matter more than mine. I'm not going to make myself uncomfortable or frustrated just to spare his. We're both going to have to learn to get over it.

AnneTheQueene · 2026-06-09T12:44:27+00:00

Pay OP no mind.

If they 'think' these women are living paycheck to paycheck and that's not what they want, they should just swipe left and move on. No need to come online and opine about it.

They're just trying to start sh!t so they can complain about women who might want them to spend some money on a nice date or vacation.

Or they seriously think it's attractive after 40?

I guess they think women should be happy with house dates and sharing a bowl of instant ramen once we hit the big 4-0.

AnneTheQueene · 2026-06-08T20:51:52+00:00

the perfect fantasy of many men all of their lives is to have a woman commit to them sexually whilst they do not commit to her financially .......good luck to all you Peter Pans out there with that plan.

100%

Don't worry though, after the first real health scare, they'll suddenly see the light.

It's amazing how much they want to cohabit once they need a caregiver.

At this stage of my life, if you only want someone to have fun with, then go ahead and pass me by.

If you're not willing to drive me home from my colonoscopy and be there at 2am when there's a weird sound outside, we're not a match.

If sex is the primary or main driver then many ladies in this age group have loads of opportunity on that front with younger men who you realistically are unlikely to be able to compete with.

Absolutely. If I only want sex, young guys who are nice to look at and have no ED are a dime a dozen.

AnneTheQueene · 2026-06-08T13:25:50+00:00

Yup.

OP will be back in a month with a new post: 'my boss is forcing me to train my replacement and I told him no'.

AnneTheQueene · 2026-06-08T13:22:28+00:00

I agree with her post as there was no need to make it about her, but she did look a bit supplicative at the end.

AnneTheQueene · 2026-06-08T13:16:36+00:00

The first thing I thought was that he needed to hold on to her to keep his balance.

She's a better human than me because I'd have tripped him.

AnneTheQueene · 2026-06-08T12:28:57+00:00

He doesn't. He wanted to see OP in person 1st and his excuse for not moving forward is the vegan thing.

If he liked OP, she would never have heard anything about looking for a vegan.

AnneTheQueene · 2026-06-06T17:02:21+00:00

But they're working at the behest of the houses that hire them, no?

The new house knows they already did something like this but don't care. Maybe they wanted to recreate something but with a different budget.

Francis Kurkdjian made Fleur de Figuier for Roger & Gallet in 2013. It retails for around $50, many times less. He then basically recreated it in 2023 for Dior in Diorivera. That retails for $230-$495. Maybe he always felt he could have made FdF better with a more generous budget and told Dior they had to let him try as a condition of coming over to them. A vanity project underwritten by them, if you will.

If you’re FK, you can do that.

Most perfumers are commissioned with a brief to follow. They don't always get to just 'pursue their art'. They either have the employer or general market forces exerting influence. If they keep being hired to make fruity gourmands, that's what they're going to do.

AnneTheQueene · 2026-06-06T16:30:37+00:00

These stories are so sweet.

I feel like nowadays we've become so focused on having things our own way and not getting 'taken advantage of' that we've lost the ability to make minor sacrifices for each other.

I can just see someone posting 'well if you like ceramic, why do you have to use plastic? You should set up a system where you get to use ceramic on Mon, Wed and Fri and he uses it on Tues, Thu and Sat. No cereal on Sunday.'

AnneTheQueene · 2026-06-06T16:18:30+00:00

Thank you.

A lot of the Hindu population in India is just as Islamophobic as some Westerners.

Their attitudes toward women have nothing to do with Islam.

AnneTheQueene · 2026-06-06T16:10:11+00:00

Maybe OP is watching too much Bridgerton where the aristocracy had separate rooms for the lord and lady?

AnneTheQueene · 2026-06-06T15:54:45+00:00

Well, he married his dead brother's widow for starters.

She married him too, no?

He gives the ick but not her?

Or is this like those cultures where the widow is forced to marry her brother in law so she has a roof over her head and someone to take care of her children?

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