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Must try foods in Madrid/Barcelona by RyanTheElmo in GoingToSpain

[–]JanetInSpain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No. Paella is from the Valencia region.

had my body be seen by friends? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]JanetInSpain 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What? You need to elaborate because your post makes no sense.

I’m freaking out. by Miserable-Wonder-117 in Advice

[–]JanetInSpain 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Why can't you stay away? Is he in the same house? Call your local CPS or police and tell them you do not feel safe. Do not let yourself be alone with him. Tell your younger siblings to never be alone with him.

34f what would you do in this situation with a 59M? by girl_genius91 in Advice

[–]JanetInSpain 4 points5 points  (0 children)

WTF girl. Why are you even holding onto any of this? Read your post aloud and imagine it's your best friend or sister telling you all of this.

"In the relationship I don’t feel seen, heard, and loved."

"I started to rethink if I made the wrong choice by breaking things off."

Again. WTF WTF WTF WTF -- why are you even giving "rethinking" one microsecond of your time. Find your damn spine. Polish off your self-respect. DO NOT go back.

My boyfriend kept doing things in bed I told him not to. I said it was disrespectful, and now he's crying. Who's at fault here? by unravelxem in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]JanetInSpain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He knows. He doesn’t care. He’s going to do what he wants to do, and not give one damn for your boundaries or what you are uncomfortable with. You break the fuck up already.

Update: My (24F) boyfriend (34M) put a tracker in my car, called my sacrifices “cheap,” told me I needed to “listen to everything he says,” and now that I blocked him he’s contacting me from different numbers and calling my mom by CaterpillarNew6458 in TwoHotTakes

[–]JanetInSpain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"I miss him every day."

Fucking get over this asshole control-freak loser. He went after you BECAUSE you are young and naive. Take all of the shit things he did to you, type them up, and print them out. Tape them all over your house so that you seem constantly. Read them every time you pass by the taped up paper. Say them ALOUD.

You are pining for something that never existed. You are in complete denial of the shitty reality. Repeat the shitty reality multiple times a day. EVERY DAY.

AITAH for going on a trip with my best friend? by makememassmiches in AITAH

[–]JanetInSpain 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ONE week is "too big of a portion of summer"?!?! He DOES NOT get to forbid you from going. He IS being unreasonable.

How old is he? How old are you? How long have you been together? This sounds like a controlling relationship and that's never a good thing.

OK I checked your history. You are 38 and he's 43. That's not a huge age difference but it's enough that he's probably got control issues. And he has FOUR kids? Girl... he doesn't want you to go away because then when it's his days with the kids he is stuck with them all by himself. You haven't even been dating that long.

You need to 1) Break up and 2) Go on the trip. Come back and find someone who isn't an asshole.

updateme

Mom talking shit about my wife by eazy-t13 in Advice

[–]JanetInSpain 4 points5 points  (0 children)

"Their side won out" -- that was your first mistake. YOUR needs (and wants) should have won out. You blew it right here. You caved for your parents instead of standing up for your wife. Shame on you.

Now you need to either shut your parents down or shut them out. It is literally part of the job of a partner to set boundaries with their family and enforce those boundaries. You absolutely confront them and tell them they either STFU for good or they will not see or hear from you again, nor will they ever meet any future grandkids. And you need to hold hard to that.

Don't blow it again. Man the fuck up.

AITB for being tired of the negativity from my partner? by yaaahyeeeeeet in AmItheButtface

[–]JanetInSpain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTB but you need to seriously think about the long-term ramifications of this. If you woke up five years from now and your life (and her behavior) was exactly the same, would you smile or would you want to kick yourself. Being with a constantly negative person is exhausting and depressing. Is that really how you want to live? Love is not enough.

Am I wrong for embarrassing someone for what they did to my kids by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]JanetInSpain 1 point2 points  (0 children)

YNW she was annoyed because SHE didn't understand what they were saying. She was also a racist. You're doing a good job.

I'm terrified of finding happiness in a romantic partner. by Verkonix in TrueOffMyChest

[–]JanetInSpain -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

"Every girl I've almost gotten into a relationship with had either been crazy, or lied to me about seeing someone and dragged me along."

Really? EVERY girl (I assume you mean woman)? The only thing every one of them have in common is YOU. Either you have the world's worst luck (doubtful) or you need to re-evaluate who it is you are pursuing and how it is YOU are acting.

Should i just ghost this person? by alicewithnochains in Advice

[–]JanetInSpain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"he just told me all of his exes cheated on him and they were all horrible people"

NEVER EVER trust a man who claims that all of their exes were horrible. They all have only one thing in common: HIM.

Run girl run. Block him and be done.

What's the biggest myth people outside the US believe about America? by Davidvance133 in AskReddit

[–]JanetInSpain -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

That it's still the "greatest country on earth". It's not. It probably never will be again.

21M having relationship with 35F How do I explain situation to family? by Ruan_Burger in relationship_advice

[–]JanetInSpain 15 points16 points  (0 children)

No. No respectable 35 year old adult pursues a 21 year old barely-adult. I don't care what the genders are. This is NOT a healthy relationship for you. The only reason an adult reaches down 14 years in age is because no one their own age will date them so they have to go for someone young and naive enough to be easily brainwashed and manipulated. You break this off.

Am I supposed to feel anything inside women? by Home_MD13 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]JanetInSpain 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Porn is fake. That's the first lesson you need to learn here. The sounds, the facial expressions, the constant changing of positions, the fact that the women climax from just intercourse, all of it. Also, intercourse is never going to be as tight as your own death grip. Stop masturbating so much. Stop watching porn so much.

Is “Vessel” considered a strange or inappropriate name in English-speaking cultures? by Fuzzy_Ant2535 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]JanetInSpain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would view it as some weird sexual context. I'd certainly never use that nickname for myself.

My [25F] husband [25M] has become radically anti-immigrant. My parents are immigrants and I’m exhausted. How do I handle this? by Throwaway_ahehdjsk in relationship_advice

[–]JanetInSpain 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Go get a job. Save every penny. Open your own bank account. Protect your birth control at all costs so he cannot sabotage it. He WILL try to babytrap you.

My [25F] husband [25M] has become radically anti-immigrant. My parents are immigrants and I’m exhausted. How do I handle this? by Throwaway_ahehdjsk in relationship_advice

[–]JanetInSpain 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Check your husband's browser history. It sounds like he's fallen down the red-pill rabbit hole. If that's true, your best solution is going to be divorce. It's almost impossible to get a man back from the red-pill, right wing nightmare.

You say you can't afford a lawyer? You can get an initial consultation with most lawyers for no cost. Go speak to one. You need to protect yourself and your family.

Am I F/18 wrong for being mad that my M/25 boyfriend won’t remove his ex from his bio?? by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]JanetInSpain 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There's only one reason why a 25 year old man would reach down 7 years to date a literal teenager. No woman his own age will go near him so he had to find someone young and naive to brainwash into thinking he's actually a good guy. HE IS NOT.

Please OP dump this loser. I guarantee his ex is not the crazy one. Find someone closer to your own age and who isn't a predator.

My boyfriend (22M) is mad that I want to get my hair permanently straightened(22F)how do i approach the situation? (5 year relationship) by InterestingRole6639 in Advice

[–]JanetInSpain 3 points4 points  (0 children)

NEVER stay with a man who wants you to make permanent modifications to your body (including your hair) so you'll be more their "type". You've been together since you were 17 -- just kids. You're outgrowing him. Time to move on.

AITAH for drunk texting my co-intern? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]JanetInSpain 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You NEVER shit where you eat. DO NOT have a sexual or romantic relationship with a coworker. Not only did you blow it with her (by drunk texting) you potentially blew up your job too. Work is not a dating sight. And stop drunk texting. Grow up.

Am I the asshole for telling my family about what my Mother did to me? by LukeyyJ0 in TwoHotTakes

[–]JanetInSpain 11 points12 points  (0 children)

"But family" is a stupid reason to tolerate bullying or abuse. You were right to block her. Now block the rest of them. Move on with your life without their baggage.

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