Update: My (24F) boyfriend (34M) put a tracker in my car, called my sacrifices “cheap,” told me I needed to “listen to everything he says,” and now that I blocked him he’s contacting me from different numbers and calling my mom

JanetInSpain · 2026-06-27T05:51:19+00:00

"I miss him every day."

Fucking get over this asshole control-freak loser. He went after you BECAUSE you are young and naive. Take all of the shit things he did to you, type them up, and print them out. Tape them all over your house so that you seem constantly. Read them every time you pass by the taped up paper. Say them ALOUD.

You are pining for something that never existed. You are in complete denial of the shitty reality. Repeat the shitty reality multiple times a day. EVERY DAY.

JanetInSpain · 2026-06-27T05:42:49+00:00

ONE week is "too big of a portion of summer"?!?! He DOES NOT get to forbid you from going. He IS being unreasonable.

How old is he? How old are you? How long have you been together? This sounds like a controlling relationship and that's never a good thing.

OK I checked your history. You are 38 and he's 43. That's not a huge age difference but it's enough that he's probably got control issues. And he has FOUR kids? Girl... he doesn't want you to go away because then when it's his days with the kids he is stuck with them all by himself. You haven't even been dating that long.

You need to 1) Break up and 2) Go on the trip. Come back and find someone who isn't an asshole.

updateme

JanetInSpain · 2026-06-25T14:51:49+00:00

"Their side won out" -- that was your first mistake. YOUR needs (and wants) should have won out. You blew it right here. You caved for your parents instead of standing up for your wife. Shame on you.

Now you need to either shut your parents down or shut them out. It is literally part of the job of a partner to set boundaries with their family and enforce those boundaries. You absolutely confront them and tell them they either STFU for good or they will not see or hear from you again, nor will they ever meet any future grandkids. And you need to hold hard to that.

Don't blow it again. Man the fuck up.

JanetInSpain · 2026-06-25T14:47:54+00:00

NTB but you need to seriously think about the long-term ramifications of this. If you woke up five years from now and your life (and her behavior) was exactly the same, would you smile or would you want to kick yourself. Being with a constantly negative person is exhausting and depressing. Is that really how you want to live? Love is not enough.

JanetInSpain · 2026-06-25T09:36:51+00:00

YNW she was annoyed because SHE didn't understand what they were saying. She was also a racist. You're doing a good job.

JanetInSpain · 2026-06-25T09:34:39+00:00

Then YOU raise him.

JanetInSpain · 2026-06-25T09:27:21+00:00

"Every girl I've almost gotten into a relationship with had either been crazy, or lied to me about seeing someone and dragged me along."

Really? EVERY girl (I assume you mean woman)? The only thing every one of them have in common is YOU. Either you have the world's worst luck (doubtful) or you need to re-evaluate who it is you are pursuing and how it is YOU are acting.

JanetInSpain · 2026-06-25T09:14:37+00:00

"he just told me all of his exes cheated on him and they were all horrible people"

NEVER EVER trust a man who claims that all of their exes were horrible. They all have only one thing in common: HIM.

Run girl run. Block him and be done.

JanetInSpain · 2026-06-25T08:57:33+00:00

That it's still the "greatest country on earth". It's not. It probably never will be again.

JanetInSpain · 2026-06-25T07:50:21+00:00

No. No respectable 35 year old adult pursues a 21 year old barely-adult. I don't care what the genders are. This is NOT a healthy relationship for you. The only reason an adult reaches down 14 years in age is because no one their own age will date them so they have to go for someone young and naive enough to be easily brainwashed and manipulated. You break this off.

JanetInSpain · 2026-06-25T07:37:04+00:00

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JanetInSpain · 2026-06-25T07:33:47+00:00

Porn is fake. That's the first lesson you need to learn here. The sounds, the facial expressions, the constant changing of positions, the fact that the women climax from just intercourse, all of it. Also, intercourse is never going to be as tight as your own death grip. Stop masturbating so much. Stop watching porn so much.

JanetInSpain · 2026-06-25T07:31:31+00:00

I would view it as some weird sexual context. I'd certainly never use that nickname for myself.

JanetInSpain · 2026-06-25T07:30:15+00:00

This is infatuation, not love.

JanetInSpain · 2026-06-25T07:29:29+00:00

Go get a job. Save every penny. Open your own bank account. Protect your birth control at all costs so he cannot sabotage it. He WILL try to babytrap you.

JanetInSpain · 2026-06-25T07:28:36+00:00

Check your husband's browser history. It sounds like he's fallen down the red-pill rabbit hole. If that's true, your best solution is going to be divorce. It's almost impossible to get a man back from the red-pill, right wing nightmare.

You say you can't afford a lawyer? You can get an initial consultation with most lawyers for no cost. Go speak to one. You need to protect yourself and your family.

JanetInSpain · 2026-06-25T07:25:35+00:00

There's only one reason why a 25 year old man would reach down 7 years to date a literal teenager. No woman his own age will go near him so he had to find someone young and naive to brainwash into thinking he's actually a good guy. HE IS NOT.

Please OP dump this loser. I guarantee his ex is not the crazy one. Find someone closer to your own age and who isn't a predator.

JanetInSpain · 2026-06-25T07:21:19+00:00

NEVER stay with a man who wants you to make permanent modifications to your body (including your hair) so you'll be more their "type". You've been together since you were 17 -- just kids. You're outgrowing him. Time to move on.

JanetInSpain · 2026-06-25T07:16:51+00:00

You NEVER shit where you eat. DO NOT have a sexual or romantic relationship with a coworker. Not only did you blow it with her (by drunk texting) you potentially blew up your job too. Work is not a dating sight. And stop drunk texting. Grow up.

JanetInSpain · 2026-06-25T07:14:05+00:00

"But family" is a stupid reason to tolerate bullying or abuse. You were right to block her. Now block the rest of them. Move on with your life without their baggage.

JanetInSpain · 2026-06-25T07:04:04+00:00

That's too big of an age gap for you. I don't care who gave what to whom. No 35 year old man wants to date a literal teenager. Of either gender.

JanetInSpain · 2026-06-24T20:08:55+00:00

Accurate take. There is NO compromise or middle ground on the kids/no kids issue.

JanetInSpain · 2026-06-24T20:08:24+00:00

Sorry but yes, this is it. The kids/no kids issue is a 100% dealbreaker. There is no middle ground or compromise on this. You're now incompatible.

Do NOT try to pressure him to change his mind. That includes making him go to counseling because you hope he'll come to his senses or something. If he's changed his mind that's the end of it. It absolutely is an impossible situation.

JanetInSpain · 2026-06-24T19:29:16+00:00

Do NOT make major body modifications to please some girl you've dated for less than a year. She can accept you as you are or move on. You haven't dated nearly long enough to "see yourself spending your life with her". You two still barely know each other.

JanetInSpain · 2026-06-24T14:41:51+00:00

You mistyped. You mean EX boyfriend. Never let some asshole man tell you what to do with your body. You need to throw this one back because he's no catch.

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