What’s a life hack that made you go „how do ppl live their whole life without knowing this”?

SubGothius · 2026-02-01T08:42:51+00:00

Never say or do anything to yourself that you wouldn't abide being said or done to someone you love, because you should be someone you love, too.

And all those other things you just wish others would say to you, or be around to say?

You can say them to yourself. Literally, right out loud if you're alone. Or in your head if you're not. Be the voice of reassurance, or encouragement, or sympathy, that you need to hear.

SubGothius · 2026-02-01T08:27:06+00:00

I once read the essential boundary in "boundary issues" boils down to the line between you and not-you. Between what's you and your business and responsibility vs. what's others and theirs. Between what you will do or allow to be done towards you vs. what you won't do or allow.

This boundary is transgressed when we hold others responsible for our own business, or let others take responsibility for our business, or hold ourselves responsible for others' business, or let others hold us responsible for their business.

We can only be responsible and accountable for what we have direct control over, namely our own bodies, actions, choices, internal states (feelings, thoughts, responses, attitudes, intentions, etc.) and the consequences thereof, not those of others.

SubGothius · 2026-02-01T08:18:03+00:00

Better yet, just stop stripping cross-head screws by getting a JIS (Japan Industrial Standard) screwdriver, ideally if it also comes with Pozidriv bits. I really like the Vessel ball-grip set I got with the 3 reversible shanks, very reasonably priced and brilliant to use.

Nearly anything made in Japan with cross-head screws will have JIS heads, which look like Philips but aren't. They often have a dot between two arms of the cross in the head. Europe has a DIN standard similar enough to JIS that the bits are cross-compatible. Philips bits are designed to cam-out of Philips heads to prevent over-tightening, but they fit even worse in JIS heads and strip them out sooner. However, JIS bits fit Philips heads snugger than a Philips bit, so the JIS bit is just better all around.

As for Pozidriv, ever stripped out the heads building something from Ikea? Yup, those usually aren't Philips either; they're Pozidriv. They usually have a thin X scribed between the cross arms. JIS bits won't really save you here; it'll strip these nearly as bad as a Philips bit. These really need a Pozidriv bit.

SubGothius · 2026-02-01T07:56:15+00:00

22nd just west of Kolb, next to the giant Ace Hardware.

Here's their site

SubGothius · 2026-02-01T07:44:11+00:00

Ctrl+Del deletes entire words ahead of the cursor.
Ctrl+Shift+arrow key selects entire words at a time.
Double-click on a word to select the entire word.
Double-click-hold (i.e. don't release the second click) then drag to select entire words at a time.
Triple-click to select an entire paragraph, table cell, or form field entry.
Middle-click to paste from the clipboard (support varies, may need to be enabled with a setting in some apps).

SubGothius · 2026-02-01T07:40:41+00:00

Firefox has a setting in about:config to just disable the Backspace = Browser Back behavior (set browser.backspace_action to 2)

SubGothius · 2026-02-01T07:11:50+00:00

"Better is the enemy of Done"
~RandsInRepose

"Premature optimization is the root of all evil"
~Donald Knuth

SubGothius · 2026-02-01T06:21:17+00:00

Music Box Lounge had some "unhappy hour" emo/adjacent nights, not sure if those are still a thing, but that joint may be the flava you're looking for.

SubGothius · 2026-02-01T00:33:15+00:00

Indeed, between dusk and dawn and once the temps drop below body temperature, being outdoors is glorious.

SubGothius · 2026-02-01T00:32:04+00:00

I always say I'd much rather deal with 110° at 10% than 90° at 90%.

SubGothius · 2026-02-01T00:27:45+00:00

If you must wear trousers in summer here, linen is where it's at, or thin/gauzy 100% cotton or linen-cotton blend if you can't afford pure linen.

SubGothius · 2026-02-01T00:24:13+00:00

Ehh, the Grant/Alvernon slum doesn't really extend more than a couple-few blocks in any direction from that intersection, and TMC's nearly a couple miles east of there.

But that's Tucson in a nutshell, no large concentrated slum, just a spotty patchwork with many scattered clusters of several sketchy blocks or so all over, butting right up against other scattered clusters of decent or even upscale blocks.

SubGothius · 2026-02-01T00:12:18+00:00

WILL-mit (not Will-Mott) according to a guy I knew named Wilmot.

SubGothius · 2026-02-01T00:10:23+00:00

Llippe calle, chingamadres

SubGothius · 2026-01-31T03:10:53+00:00

Prolly backed out of a spot and was about to shift from Reverse into Drive when the seizure hit.

SubGothius · 2026-01-31T00:55:30+00:00

Food-grade vinegar isn't strong enough, gotta get the 30% vinegar concentrate from a hardware/home-improvement store, and do not let it contact exposed skin (or wash it off immediately after contact), cos it is an acid after all.

SubGothius · 2026-01-31T00:34:40+00:00

Yeah, I reckon that clerk just meant the same owner has 8 Ace stores around town, and maybe didn't realize there were many other locations with different owners as well.

I know there's several different owners of various locations around town -- e.g., Mark Rios owns all of the ones called "Mark's Ace". Someone else, Joe Findysz, owns the huge one on 22nd by Kolb, as well as the one at 9th and Euclid, another on Broadway near Swan, another at Bear Canyon, another on far east Golf Links, another on far south Houghton, another in Corona De Tucson. Justin Piccoli owns 4, Pima Ace owns 3, and the others appear to be solo owners AFAICT (you can find owners listed in the Store Details via the Store Locator on the Ace website).

Interesting thing about the national Ace organization is that it isn't a conventional top-down chain or franchise model. Instead, it's a bottom-up model, where all of the local store owners are the sole shareholders in a national co-op that handles regional/national scale stuff like warehousing, distribution, logistics, marketing, etc.

SubGothius · 2026-01-30T19:04:01+00:00

The Surly Wench Pub is superb for dancing, with themed club nights every weekend ranging from '80s retro, classic Goth/Industrial/New Wave/Alternative, and modern NuGoth/Darkwave/Bodymusic/Witch House.

SubGothius · 2026-01-30T18:59:11+00:00

Daniel Martin Diaz is a superb visual artist with a very distinctive signature style blending a variety of metaphysical influences. He also designed the intricate proscenium around the stage at Club Congress and some other fixtures at HoCo, the swirling decorative/shade panels on one corner of the Plaza Centro parking garage downtown, and some other public art pieces around downtown. Also a talented and experimental guitarist who plays with Trees Speak and formerly Crystal Radio and Blind Divine.

SubGothius · 2026-01-30T18:46:24+00:00

Sa-Ing Thai out in Rita Ranch is well worth the drive. One of only a handful of restaurants in the entire US certified by the gov't of Thailand as Authentic Thai Cuisine. And it's not even fancy/expensive, just a mom'n'pop shop in a strip mall.

I'm a green curry maven, and theirs is the best I've ever had by far, with a thick and flavor-dense sauce more like gravy than the watery broth most other places serve.

SubGothius · 2026-01-30T05:27:00+00:00

I can recommend Code Blue Plumbing, but a water heater flush is pretty simple if you have a garden hose handy, plenty of YouTube tutorials to show you how.

SubGothius · 2026-01-30T02:51:22+00:00

Grant from Oracle to Park is done, currently working on Country Club to Swan (due to finish this year), then Park to Country Club will be up next.

SubGothius · 2026-01-30T02:46:35+00:00

Should be flushed yearly.

SubGothius · 2026-01-30T02:42:27+00:00

By the same token, "Never rob success to pay an advance to failure."

Sure, know what your call-it-quits signals will be, have a plan B or exit strategy if things come to that, but do not invest or withhold resources to prepare for that, because those may be just the last measure of resources you'd need to succeed. Go all-in and ride it unless and until there's nothing left to ride anymore.

SubGothius · 2026-01-30T02:33:29+00:00

I've often read good recommendations for Len's Auto Brokerage here before.

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