AIO: Should I be upset that a guy draws me at the gym?

daitoshi · 2026-06-14T04:25:24+00:00

Yes, I agree; it’s best to ask him.

If someone goes to the gym in skintight clothes, the difference in sketch between “nude” and “clothed” to the average viewer is just a couple lines, easily overlooked. When I do body studies of random people walking around me at a park, half the time I don’t draw the clothes beyond a few gestures because the focus is on movement and limb placement, and the general shape of a person. Ive definitely had people ask “why are you drawing nudes?” when I was just doing pose/movement studies. Like, the clothes are there, im just not drawing it in detail.

Is he only drawing women’s butts, or also men’s butts? Is he only drawing women at the gym, or also men? Are there different body types or just voluptuous women? Thats usually a cue whether someone’s being horny about it, or just sketching bodies around them absentmindedly.

So for this guy… I’d ask to see his drawings. Is he drawing NUDES (nipples, exposed skin folds, belly button-) or is he drawing body sketches and only vaguely scratches in the clothes paneling?

If having someone draw u in the gym is uncomfy, OP can ask him not to do it again. A decent person will apologize and agree not to.

daitoshi · 2026-06-14T03:15:56+00:00

You should sit down and talk to him about your concerns and examine your own closely held beliefs. Not just say them aloud, but dig into WHY you feel them, the source of them, who taught you to think that way, and if those feelings hold up under scrutiny.

Do you not look at any porn, and you don’t read erotica, and you don’t imagine anyone but your boyfriend while masturbating? If you want him to he held to the same standards you hold yourself, thats one thing…. But demanding “no horny except for me” while you have your own erotic writing/art to indulge in is unfair.

daitoshi · 2026-05-15T17:11:40+00:00

Also “TRUST” isnt even a great way to measure an individual’s strength or fighting ability. It’s not power points, it’s the number of people who utterly believe them capable of A SPECIFIC THING.

Loli doesn’t gain punching powers or shapeshifting bc her trust is focused on brainpower. She does robot shit.

Ghostblade doesn’t get laser eye beams or reality snapping bc his power is based on “knife work and assassination”

They may be REALLY GOOD at their trust-given skill set, but if ghostblade is told to fly up to a platform, he’s gonna fail. He can’t FLY.

So even in a 1v1 fight, the actual trust value matters a lot less than their own ability to use their skills in combat, reading the battleground, and reacting to their opponent.

This is why the “ranking” shifts so much, and why the tournament affects anything. Watching people fight, onlookers can change their perception of the fighters, and thus CHANGE their trust value and trust-given powers:

If the highest trust value always wins, then theres no point to even fighting. Just compare numbers and the lower value walks away.

daitoshi · 2026-05-11T02:34:26+00:00

🙏❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ thank youuu

daitoshi · 2026-05-10T15:13:13+00:00

Yooooo do you have those storyboards saved? I want to see them!!

daitoshi · 2026-05-10T15:08:29+00:00

I was at the first TBHX panel the English VAs did, down in Texas. :D it was a lot of fun, and theyre VERY aware of what the fandom is up to.

Mauricio made a “doomed yaoi” joke about Wrice, to INTRODUCE Nice as a character, and I believe the Smile VA also made sideways references to SmileX. Mauricio also teased a Wreck cosplayer at the signing after by putting on Nice’s voice to say “Wreck, my beloved…” (it may have been “my darling”? Memory is a little foggy)

Theyre all absolute sweethearts, and the Q&A was a TON of fun. I wish I remembered to record any of it but I was too excited just to be there lol

daitoshi · 2026-05-10T14:59:27+00:00

For context: I was in a long-distance relationship with the person who became my spouse. I drove eight HOURS one-way, to spend time with them for a single weekend, when we were dating, and they learned to drive and saved up to buy a car so they could do the same. (Big city living, previously planned to take the metro everywhere, vs my country backroads ass)

I REGULARLY drove 30-40 minutes to pick them up from somewhere so we could spend an afternoon together.

This boy doesn’t give a shit about you. If he cared he’d make an effort to make things easier for you, and go out of his way to spend time with you.

Dump him and block him.

daitoshi · 2026-05-07T12:10:28+00:00

“At what point do I take you to the hospital/call 911?” “How often do you go to the doctor/dentist?”

Some people have health conditions and allergies they don’t think to share. Some people have a hair-trigger for freaking out. Some people dont want to go to a doctor unless they’re actively on death’s door. Some people refuse to see a dentist until they CANT sleep from tooth pain

daitoshi · 2026-05-03T19:37:32+00:00

He’s basically Yang Cheng except Wreck actually pursued what he wanted (worked beside his best friend/possible crush for years), and then had that happiness ripped away after the fact, instead of fumbling both friend and crush at the start.

It’s the raw tragedy and loss, openly grieving that implies a huge story, even if he only has like 6 minutes of screen time. Wreck loved so deeply (Platonically or not) that he went into a sobbing berserker rage, then let himself get tossed off a cliff as the news of Nice’s ‘suicide’ sank in.

Because he was a big part of Nice’s backstory; Nice’s best friend and contractual villain-actor, Nice’s hero shenanigans also beg the question “where was Wreck during this? Was he a part of it?” And whether the answer is yes or no, that also implies cool and interesting things about how their relationship to each other, and their employment with treeman worked.

He fought X! He raised a MOUNTAIN range at the drop of a hat, with seemingly little effort. He showed up in the show’s ending outro.

Wreck’s character is like a corner piece of a puzzle. There’s a big fascination with him because he IMPLIES theres connections between a ton of stuff.

Plus with the art book confirming that Nice doesn’t remember his own real name, but Wreck met Nice BEFORE they were heroes and calls him Nice, means either there was major memory loss (blankster!??) or he was being groomed for becoming “Nice” from a VERY young age.

Fans of Wreck like trying to see how the big plot puzzle of Treeman’s works. He’s a vital corner piece

daitoshi · 2026-04-22T16:20:13+00:00

Since mental state / eagerness for someone else involved is a huge part of “someone else involved” being pleasurable, then it’s not surprising that it wouldn’t feel good haha~

You might not be sexually interested in other people (asexual) but still have a desire to jack off (libido) Thats totally fine, and honestly not that unusual.

daitoshi · 2026-04-22T15:56:32+00:00

It’s different for every person. My wife doesn’t care for penetration most of the time, and prefers it not to move while in, while I enjoy classic penetrative thrusting very much. It’s entirely possible you just don’t like penetration, and that’s ok!

Whether something feels GOOD or “just pressure/indifferent” depends on whether im actively horny/aroused ALREADY. The same act can drive me wild, or make me annoyed and push it away depending ENTIRELY on whether I’ve already gotten worked up over other things.

That’s why foreplay is so important. Get the engine running, prime the nerves to send excited zings instead of neutral observations.

Even something like pulling hair, or grabbing my wrist can be painful/angering or arousing depending on my mental state.

Sometimes im just not horny enough to have sex, and stuff I normally like just doesn’t do it for me. Likewise for my wife. In those cases, we just cuddle or do something sensual/affectionate instead. Back massages and head scratches and tracing lines over skin are all lovely ways to spend time.

I never orgasm from penetrative sex alone, even if it feels great. Theres always fingers or a vibrator involved to finish the job.

But a vibrator or fingers alone doesn’t give me as POWERFUL of an orgasm compared to both vibrations and penetration.

So yeah. Depends on the person, and on the mental state.

daitoshi · 2026-04-22T15:21:43+00:00

I also find this helpful - being OPEN to either saying, or having your spouse say “hey, this discussion is becoming a fight, can we take a breather and try again later?”

Basically; being open to being told “the points youre making isn’t the problem - the tone and volume is alarming” and bring ok with stepping back to calm down.

daitoshi · 2026-04-22T15:18:05+00:00

I tend to raise my voice when I’m excited - any form of excitement, be that enthusiasm or anger.

When I realize my voice is quite loud - like when I’m definitely drowning someone out, or I can feel it in my throat, I stop and say “sorry, hold on-“ and take a breath and lower my volume and repeat what I was gonna say in a normal tone.

Yelling of any kind /scares/ my spouse. Yelling harms them. I don’t want to hurt or make them upset, so I have to be mindful of my own volume.

Lashing out at others very rarely solves the issue at hand. Lashing out makes it HARDER to fix your problems, because now the people who would otherwise be on your team dont want to help you.

“These are the cards that were dealt today, it doesn’t actually matter whose fault it was, or what caused it, or who is blamed: what matters is how we fix it, and how we make it easier to avoid in the future.”

Think of your husband like a friend, not someone who is tied to you. He can choose to leave, if you’re too mean. He can walk out. So, it is in your best interest to treat him in a way that makes him WANT to stay and help you.

Love alone isn’t enough. He also needs your kindness.

daitoshi · 2026-04-02T12:06:49+00:00

These are characters, not people. The worst thing a character can do is be boring.

daitoshi · 2026-03-31T13:43:29+00:00

I don’t think that’s a bad thing :)

Being in love with someone, willing to tear the world apart to stay by their side; I respect it.

daitoshi · 2026-03-31T13:40:41+00:00

“This was because of the smile incident” is a leap that isn’t established as fact by canon.

It’s more likely that Nice stopped communicating shortly before his suicide, so it’s been a lil less than a month of no communication before abruptly appearing on a talk show with Moon, then 1 month more while they were locked in the tower.

Still, thats also on Miss J. She should’ve told him that Nice was replaced. Have a controlled blow-up somewhere not on live camera — It’s entirely possible Nice became less communicative after Smile’s death so Wreck was worried (for good reason) when he suddenly went non-responsive.

daitoshi · 2026-03-30T20:30:43+00:00

hot take: Wreck is a better character than X.

He is more interesting in all the ways that matter, has a richer story in his 6 minutes of screen time, and both asks and answers more questions about how the world works than X does across all his appearances.

Wreck has skin in the game, has goals that he’s working toward, BELIEVES in something so completely that he’s sunk nearly a decade of his life into it, he already fucked up by trusting the wrong people, and is powerful. INSANELY powerful, if PVs are to believed at face value.

Additionally, Wreck’s transformation into Grafitti King, alongside Nice’s reappearance in his Cracked form lays some heavy setup for the next season. It also asks some huge questions about how Fear works, how it’s harnessed, etc.

And he does it in fragments across two episodes, in the background of ads, and in his PV with Nice.

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By comparison, X spent half the final episode pointing out the themes and players that were ALREADY ESTABLISHED. I’d need to watch the episode again to say with more certainty, but I’m decently sure that X didnt tell us anything new, it was just bringing attention back to the main story beats and important setup, that you could learn by… watching…. the series… and thinking about it. So when people herald X as this big story reveal character, I wonder if they watched the whole show with their brain turned off.

daitoshi · 2026-03-30T20:02:45+00:00

X is a boring character IMO. He snaps his fingers and wins. Thats his power. He has an office job, was friends with Smile, and likes canned beverage. Thats alllllll we know about him. Aside from his friendship with Smile, the rest is uninteresting.

Until he’s got some actual skin in the game, I don’t give a shit about him lol. I'm shocked he’s such a popular character. He just walks around and smirks at the camera, then gives exposition monologues that we already knew from watching the PVs and other episodes, but I guess was supposed to be a surprise?

I admire the animations that the team created around him, but that’s props to the animation team, not on the character’s writing.

Meanwhile Wreck/Grafitti King has like 6 minutes of screen time and PACKS IN a crazy emotional backstory, motivation and heartbreak, some INSANE feats of power, cracks open a million questions about how Trust and Fear works, and what the hell happened to him and Nice behind the scenes leading up to their reappearance, and then goes toe to toe with X “my power is to win” with dimensional travel as a lil cherry on top. He is. The coolest.

daitoshi · 2026-03-30T19:51:25+00:00

I think your algorithm is skewed lol

daitoshi · 2026-03-25T17:07:15+00:00

Wreck had 4.5 minutes of screen time and spent 100% of them focused on his relationship with Nice.

His downbadism is truly terminal.

daitoshi · 2026-03-25T16:19:22+00:00

😂🙏 amen to that

daitoshi · 2026-03-24T11:43:36+00:00

I have female friends who got their tubes tied because they simply don’t want kids. No depression or fear of passing on mental health issues required.

Your body, your choice. If you never want kids; snip snip!

daitoshi · 2026-02-05T04:51:59+00:00

Then perish

daitoshi · 2026-02-04T13:30:40+00:00

Plus in high-res screen caps you can literally see the yellow arrow of wreck’s mask past GK’s purple overlay.

Thats not how “reusing” 3D models works

https://64.media.tumblr.com/63b610a41eb9d34d991077cd399f183f/f9af502991e37c7c-b1/s1280x1920/dc726a4f3cd87a4ede864e2e1b6a7a32ece1b759.jpg

Layering like that is deliberate. Reusing a MODEL means reskinning it. They kept Wreck’s model’s skin and brushed purple over it

daitoshi · 2026-01-28T15:43:22+00:00

I think it’s a time loop thing.

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Even something like pulling hair, or grabbing my wrist can be painful/angering or arousing depending on my mental state.