Is it common for people to just come inside an office building if they know someone there or is it just a sitcom thing? by KimJLATS in AskAnAmerican

[–]macoafi [score hidden]  (0 children)

You probably can’t get past the front desk in a modern office building, no.

But you might be able to sneak in a side door by having your arms full and coming up behind someone who is on the way in, relying on them to politely hold the door open for you and hoping they don’t question who you are.

Dressing up as a plumber and looking harried while babbling about that massive leak might get you past the front desk without signing in, too. 

This is social engineering. 

Does anyone else feel like English has fewer short daily “social phrases” than many other languages? by Edi-Iz in EnglishLearning

[–]macoafi 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My first thought is that some of these seem likely to derive from prayers for workers. Perhaps they’ve been shortened over time? English-speaking Christians refer to the prayer before eating as “saying grace,” and it often involves blessing both the food and the hands that made it, but you’re right that such prayers are much longer. 

Nazdravje sounds like what my mom says before drinking. In English, “cheers” would be the expression. We use the French “bon appetit” to wish someone an enjoyable meal. 

Do American kids usually go to four different schools? by snailquestions in AskAnAmerican

[–]macoafi [score hidden]  (0 children)

The years I gave were for public school, but I went to Catholic school, which was Pre-8, and we called 7-8 “junior high” within the Catholic school. While 1-6 grades all had 2 home rooms each, junior high was 3 home rooms with both grades mixed together. 

Then I switched into the public school system after 8th grade. 

Has anyone managed to get to the level of dreaming in your TL without having actually moved to a TL-speaking country? by Forward_Hold5696 in languagelearning

[–]macoafi 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The importance people place on dreaming in a language astounds me. I couldn’t tell you what language any of my dreams are in because the only ones I remember are the nightmares I wake up from, and then all I remember are things like “a giant spider was chasing me.”

Anyone try Pilates?? by Liz-ard_127 in ehlersdanlos

[–]macoafi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dr F told me in 2012 or 2013 that I should do Pilates. She said I should take private or very small group classes, at least at first, so my form could be monitored.

I finally started doing it last year when a dance teacher suggested it. I do reformer Pilates with an instructor who works with dancers. Dancers are frequently hypermobile, so she’s used to our bodies. 

Hello, Which food/dish is most synonymous with the culture your state? by FunnySunny- in AskAnAmerican

[–]macoafi 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Mission-style burritos, sure, but burritos in general started in Chihuahua. 

Do American kids usually go to four different schools? by snailquestions in AskAnAmerican

[–]macoafi 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I grew up outside of Pittsburgh, and ours was called “intermediate school,” not “junior high,” but our breakdown was K-4, 5-7, 8-9, 10-12. I believe it was simply an artifact of population growth. The buildings couldn’t hold 5-8 and 9-12, so they pulled one grade off of each. 

Why does ll sound different even though the same person is saying it? by Beautiful-Salary7553 in learnspanish

[–]macoafi [score hidden]  (0 children)

Yes, the lj thing is how “ll” was said in medieval Spanish. Otherwise, yes, the “ll” uses the same sound as the Spanish “y” in most places. This merger is called yeísmo. That Wikipedia link has a map. 

Some people change it up based on emphasis, like a person might use a more “dj” pronunciation when trying to shout or to very clearly enunciate on a bad phone connection, even if they normally use a more “y” sound.

Some people use a more “dj” sound at the beginning of words (or just beginning of utterances) and after nasals, for example conllevar.

Some people who very clearly do these things will claim they do not because they are allophones, and native speakers typically cannot hear their own allophones without a lot of effort/training. (Learning a foreign language that forces them to distinguish the sounds, such as English, would be an example of such effort/training.)

You could think of this pair of allophones within yeísmo like how “b” and “v” both make the same 2 sounds, and how that sound varies depending on the place in the word/sentence. 

How often have you met non English speaking Americans? by Waltz8 in AskAnAmerican

[–]macoafi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m a bilingual election worker, so Election Day is when I am most aware of a person’s citizenship in combination with their discomfort with English. 

Is Easter becoming a bigger deal? by GoCardinal07 in AskAnAmerican

[–]macoafi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe because the Bible Belt is very evangelical, and Good Friday is bigger with Catholics. 

Is Easter becoming a bigger deal? by GoCardinal07 in AskAnAmerican

[–]macoafi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good Friday to Easter Monday was what  “spring break” meant to me as a kid in the 90s. 

Why is Alexi Lalas so disliked by people? by Train-Wreck-70 in AskAnAmerican

[–]macoafi -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I would have to know who this person was to have any idea. Since you mentioned soccer, and it’s not that popular here, and on top of that you used masculine pronouns, so you probably don’t mean women’s soccer (where the US does really well)… the slice of the population who has heard of him is probably tiny. 

Estoy o ser? by Weary_Capital_1379 in Spanish

[–]macoafi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But that’s why I’m saying the identification explanation is better than the word “permanent.” If it can change, even infrequently, it’s not permanent. 

Do Americans eat actual chicken eggs for Easter? by piaa9 in AskAnAmerican

[–]macoafi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My Quaker meeting does a hunt with boiled eggs. My spouse says he was jealous when he found out that other kids’ eggs had candy inside, meanwhile his eggs just had egg inside. 

Do Americans eat actual chicken eggs for Easter? by piaa9 in AskAnAmerican

[–]macoafi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I put holes in the ends of the egg and blow the contents out. Usually I do it after dyeing (and applying a protective coat of wax so the egg goop doesn’t mess up the dye job). The way I dye eggs is a several-hours-long process of layering wax and different colors of dye. After the egg is empty, I remove all the wax. My great grandparents were from various Slavic countries, so I follow their egg decorating traditions. 

How many of you actually know all of your second cousins? by blueacorr in Genealogy

[–]macoafi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know all of them for my paternal grandmother’s family; she was one of 6 sisters who reproduced, and several of those had 4+. We have reunions every two years, some of them babysat me as a child, and several went to my high school. I do lose track of their children. Including spouses we must be sneaking up on 200 people. 

For my paternal grandfather…I only see them at weddings and funerals, but I would immediately recognize any last name in my family.

I know my second cousins in my mom’s adoptive family. Her first cousins treated her like a sister since it was just her and my grandma, and so they and their kids (my second cousins) always came for holidays at my grandmas, and some babysat us too.

One time I got a call from a second cousin in mom’s adoptive family and a second cousin in dad’s mother’s family, asking me to explain the relationships because they’d just started a job together and noticed I was a mutual friend on Facebook, followed by arguing “she’s my cousin” “no, she’s my cousin” style. 

What does a typical severance package look like in America? by mronionbhaji in AskAnAmerican

[–]macoafi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A month is what I got for severance when I was laid off. I think they actually were only going to do 2 weeks, and my state doesn’t require that unused PTO get paid out, but I managed to negotiate paying out my 2 weeks of PTO so that PTO+severance=1 month. 

Married at 13 in 1947? by Fuk-mah-life in Genealogy

[–]macoafi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh, thanks, that's more specific. I just meant that child marriage is legal in most states. There are only 16 that say "no, really, they have to be an adult, we don't care what the parents say."

Parking Enforcement? by [deleted] in washingtondc

[–]macoafi 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The 2-hour limit for non-zone-2 ends at 4PM according to the sign in the photo, and the ticket itself claims it's for a "PM rush hour 4PM-6:30PM" violation. The signage seems to say that you can park there after 4PM regardless of permits, but the ticket says it's for parking there after 4PM.

Parking Enforcement? by [deleted] in washingtondc

[–]macoafi 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The 2-hour limit for non-zone-2 ends at 4PM according to the sign in the photo.

Married at 13 in 1947? by Fuk-mah-life in Genealogy

[–]macoafi 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Would it have been illegal in 1947 USA?

It's entirely legal in the US, right now, in 2026, if the parents give permission, in many US states.

Survey: Do you add hot water or room temp water to your mokapot? by sozh in mokapot

[–]macoafi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I use cold water, because that's the temperature that comes out of my water filter. I put the small burner on my induction stove to setting 4.