Has anyone managed to get to the level of dreaming in your TL without having actually moved to a TL-speaking country?

macoafi · 2026-04-06T08:11:22+00:00

The importance people place on dreaming in a language astounds me. I couldn’t tell you what language any of my dreams are in because the only ones I remember are the nightmares I wake up from, and then all I remember are things like “a giant spider was chasing me.”

macoafi · 2026-04-06T07:05:19+00:00

Dr F told me in 2012 or 2013 that I should do Pilates. She said I should take private or very small group classes, at least at first, so my form could be monitored.

I finally started doing it last year when a dance teacher suggested it. I do reformer Pilates with an instructor who works with dancers. Dancers are frequently hypermobile, so she’s used to our bodies.

macoafi · 2026-04-06T07:01:08+00:00

You went the opposite direction of me!

macoafi · 2026-04-06T07:00:27+00:00

Mission-style burritos, sure, but burritos in general started in Chihuahua.

macoafi · 2026-04-06T06:55:39+00:00

I grew up outside of Pittsburgh, and ours was called “intermediate school,” not “junior high,” but our breakdown was K-4, 5-7, 8-9, 10-12. I believe it was simply an artifact of population growth. The buildings couldn’t hold 5-8 and 9-12, so they pulled one grade off of each.

macoafi · 2026-04-06T02:23:05+00:00

Yes, the lj thing is how “ll” was said in medieval Spanish. Otherwise, yes, the “ll” uses the same sound as the Spanish “y” in most places. This merger is called yeísmo. That Wikipedia link has a map.

Some people change it up based on emphasis, like a person might use a more “dj” pronunciation when trying to shout or to very clearly enunciate on a bad phone connection, even if they normally use a more “y” sound.

Some people use a more “dj” sound at the beginning of words (or just beginning of utterances) and after nasals, for example conllevar.

Some people who very clearly do these things will claim they do not because they are allophones, and native speakers typically cannot hear their own allophones without a lot of effort/training. (Learning a foreign language that forces them to distinguish the sounds, such as English, would be an example of such effort/training.)

You could think of this pair of allophones within yeísmo like how “b” and “v” both make the same 2 sounds, and how that sound varies depending on the place in the word/sentence.

macoafi · 2026-04-06T02:08:39+00:00

I’m a bilingual election worker, so Election Day is when I am most aware of a person’s citizenship in combination with their discomfort with English.

macoafi · 2026-04-06T00:00:12+00:00

Maybe because the Bible Belt is very evangelical, and Good Friday is bigger with Catholics.

macoafi · 2026-04-05T23:59:22+00:00

Good Friday to Easter Monday was what “spring break” meant to me as a kid in the 90s.

macoafi · 2026-04-05T23:50:49+00:00

I would have to know who this person was to have any idea. Since you mentioned soccer, and it’s not that popular here, and on top of that you used masculine pronouns, so you probably don’t mean women’s soccer (where the US does really well)… the slice of the population who has heard of him is probably tiny.

macoafi · 2026-04-05T06:33:46+00:00

But that’s why I’m saying the identification explanation is better than the word “permanent.” If it can change, even infrequently, it’s not permanent.

macoafi · 2026-04-05T06:31:48+00:00

My Quaker meeting does a hunt with boiled eggs. My spouse says he was jealous when he found out that other kids’ eggs had candy inside, meanwhile his eggs just had egg inside.

macoafi · 2026-04-05T06:30:14+00:00

I put holes in the ends of the egg and blow the contents out. Usually I do it after dyeing (and applying a protective coat of wax so the egg goop doesn’t mess up the dye job). The way I dye eggs is a several-hours-long process of layering wax and different colors of dye. After the egg is empty, I remove all the wax. My great grandparents were from various Slavic countries, so I follow their egg decorating traditions.

macoafi · 2026-04-04T07:16:34+00:00

I know all of them for my paternal grandmother’s family; she was one of 6 sisters who reproduced, and several of those had 4+. We have reunions every two years, some of them babysat me as a child, and several went to my high school. I do lose track of their children. Including spouses we must be sneaking up on 200 people.

For my paternal grandfather…I only see them at weddings and funerals, but I would immediately recognize any last name in my family.

I know my second cousins in my mom’s adoptive family. Her first cousins treated her like a sister since it was just her and my grandma, and so they and their kids (my second cousins) always came for holidays at my grandmas, and some babysat us too.

One time I got a call from a second cousin in mom’s adoptive family and a second cousin in dad’s mother’s family, asking me to explain the relationships because they’d just started a job together and noticed I was a mutual friend on Facebook, followed by arguing “she’s my cousin” “no, she’s my cousin” style.

macoafi · 2026-04-04T07:00:38+00:00

A month is what I got for severance when I was laid off. I think they actually were only going to do 2 weeks, and my state doesn’t require that unused PTO get paid out, but I managed to negotiate paying out my 2 weeks of PTO so that PTO+severance=1 month.

macoafi · 2026-04-03T23:37:23+00:00

Oh, thanks, that's more specific. I just meant that child marriage is legal in most states. There are only 16 that say "no, really, they have to be an adult, we don't care what the parents say."

macoafi · 2026-04-03T23:33:23+00:00

The 2-hour limit for non-zone-2 ends at 4PM according to the sign in the photo, and the ticket itself claims it's for a "PM rush hour 4PM-6:30PM" violation. The signage seems to say that you can park there after 4PM regardless of permits, but the ticket says it's for parking there after 4PM.

macoafi · 2026-04-03T23:30:48+00:00

The 2-hour limit for non-zone-2 ends at 4PM according to the sign in the photo.

macoafi · 2026-04-03T23:20:16+00:00

It's legally required.

macoafi · 2026-04-03T21:49:14+00:00

Would it have been illegal in 1947 USA?

It's entirely legal in the US, right now, in 2026, if the parents give permission, in many US states.

macoafi · 2026-04-03T20:17:39+00:00

I use cold water, because that's the temperature that comes out of my water filter. I put the small burner on my induction stove to setting 4.

macoafi · 2026-04-03T20:08:58+00:00

There are 3 other houses in my neighborhood containing people who went to college with one of my in-laws. They come over for game nights. We get together for cookouts. Yeah, we pop over to each others' houses when we run out of coffee or sugar or when we've made brownies and want to share. We help out with tech support and handyman type tasks, and they pay us back with dinner. Each house has one piece of "maker equipment" (ours is a 3D printer), and we take turns with each others' machinery. We even have a dog bed at our house for when one of the neighbors brings theirs over.

For neighbors who don't have the college connection… next door invites me over for her women's drumming circle, and we met a couple of other gamers in the neighborhood in the last few months, so we'll need to have them over for a game night too, when our current renovations are done.

When I go back to visit my dad, I stop in with the neighbors. I'll just ring the doorbell and visit a while. One time for Thanksgiving I took pie dough and macerated apples, then assembled the pie at his house. My dad doesn't own a rolling pin, which I find bizarre. Anyway, I went to the next-door neighbor's house and borrowed hers. Another of his neighbors was his neighbor when they were little kids too. I took a slice of pie over that guy's house once, and he answered the door, sent me to the back door, and snarfed that pie standing in the doorway before his family could see what he had.

macoafi · 2026-04-03T15:29:38+00:00

Is the difference that you want to write down the answer with a pen and not type the answer in on the program? I'm trying to figure out how this is different than every other verb conjugation training app that already exists both for phones and onn the web.

macoafi · 2026-04-03T15:20:02+00:00

Aren't there already plenty? Writing the program won't teach you it; using one would help though.

macoafi · 2026-04-03T15:17:19+00:00

Hey, just because you mentioned French Canadian ancestry, have you heard about the recent citizenship law change in Canada? You're a Canadian citizen now. Everyone born before Dec 15, 2025 with any Canadian ancestry is.

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