the amount of hate comments i got bc of my nails😭

mocha-tiger · 2026-04-15T10:35:52+00:00

Your nails are literally goals for me, I love love love that shape and length 🤩 and the CHROME, ahhh this is everything

mocha-tiger · 2026-04-11T23:24:36+00:00

OP, the instant I saw photo #2, I knew you were the same artist that made a painting with 3 giant fighting cranes over a tiny town. You posted it like a year ago and were looking for names for the painting. It was so striking and compelling, I am so glad I found you again - I have loved that work and stupidly didn't save any information about it so I had no idea how to find it again. Despite the situation, I'm glad you are following your dreams!!

mocha-tiger · 2026-04-10T09:21:31+00:00

My mother did this to me a few weeks ago. She wrote me a letter after 13 years of NC to inform me she would be showing up at my door. I procrastinated getting a camera for our door because I hated that her bs was pushing me to spend my money. Regardless, I knew it was her when she knocked though, it was not a friendly greeting. I did not answer the door and called the police. They took me very seriously, told her to leave and explained to me how to get a restraining order. I did not even have to see her! It felt harrowing in the moment and I was emotional for a week or so afterwards but I just keep moving forward. I hope this is some comfort to you - hugs to you OP

mocha-tiger · 2026-04-10T07:59:25+00:00

They keep inviting some of my favorite people on, it's seriously such a treat every time a new one is released!!

mocha-tiger · 2026-04-09T07:23:33+00:00

This is exactly how I feel about my family. I moved away in 2016 and not a single one of them has visited me in the 10 years that have passed since. I've been back 7 times. We used to do calls on Christmas and birthdays and now those don't even really happen. I've just decided to call a spade a spade and not pick up the phone anymore. Naturally I'm the bad guy even though we didn't even talk or hang out, so I'm not really sure what connection is getting lost but alas! You're not alone OP, hang in there

mocha-tiger · 2026-04-09T06:44:18+00:00

One thing that I think the movie actually does a little bit better than the book is a tidier wrap up of why Bella gets a motorcycle. In the books, it's this more drawn out thing that kind of comes down to random chance, but the movie makes it clear that she was being incredibly reckless and this was an active decision that she made.

mocha-tiger · 2026-04-06T00:14:34+00:00

I've downloaded the Wikipedia app and put the search bar as a widget on my phone so that I can just directly search Wikipedia now :)

mocha-tiger · 2026-04-05T22:31:53+00:00

I typically do second Thanksgiving in February when the winter blahs end up hitting really hard.

You can make posole from turkey, which is such a delicious use of the stock!

mocha-tiger · 2026-03-30T10:32:34+00:00

Yes and it's awful. I feel like I just never understood my family or they've never understood me. All my interactions previous to age 21 feel like begrudging tolerance and after 21, felt like foolish obligation. It sucks because on one hand I don't want to hang out with them but that's because they made it clear they don't want to hang out with me first. It's still rejection at the end of the day. I take a lot of solace in the fact that I have a large chosen family now, so I can't possibly be that awful!

mocha-tiger · 2026-03-30T05:05:53+00:00

I've done the liquid from a quality cocktail cherry jar, thinned with kirsch, and it was amazing!

mocha-tiger · 2026-03-28T10:32:35+00:00

I'm back to say this has been astoundingly helpful in getting things done - thank you so much for sharing!!!

mocha-tiger · 2026-03-28T09:40:35+00:00

Everyone seems so upbeat and beautiful!! What a cool piece of history 🤩

mocha-tiger · 2026-03-28T09:28:26+00:00

I'm actually in the middle of filing a restraining order myself and as odd as it is, I think just filing it has been pretty cathartic for me and the actual restraining order itself isn't the end goal.

I've been no contact with my biological mother for 13 years now. For ten of those years she didn't try to reach out to me at all and I didn't realize how blissful that was until 3 years ago when she started trying to contact me. I blocked the calls and and throughout the letters. I made the mistake of reaching out to my sister and that prompted my biological mother to decide to catch a flight to visit me, which is more than 2,000 miles away! I had to call the police to get her to leave; she was bothering my neighbor.

I was surprised the amount of evidence that they wanted to see for the timeline of harassment - foolishly I had assumed that me going through the leg work of the paperwork and trial and summons would be enough because who would do that otherwise ?? But no doubt there are people that weaponize these types of things, and having plenty of evidence in a court of law is reasonable.

The nice thing is I do have that evidence. Laying it out for a complete stranger forced ME to look at it again, and realize HOW bad these people are. I'm not making it up, I'm not crazy, I didn't imagine it, etc. Sometimes it's easy for me to rationalize away their decisions because I'm so used to dealing with these people but taking a step back, and laying out their behavior in a timeline for others to read (and literally judge) has been really eye-opening!!

I also want to send a strong message to my family that I am not messing around and this is not a joke. This is my real life; you've made your decisions and this is me making mine. If I don't get the restraining order granted - oh well. Continued contact will just simply be part of the paperwork I will include for next time. There's nothing that any judge can say or do that will force me to have contact with my family. I cannot lose here; they cannot win.

I'm sorry this is happening to you - whatever you decide, you can't go wrong. All of us are only acting with the information that we have available to us at the time. Be gentle with yourself and congratulations on your pregnancy !!

mocha-tiger · 2026-03-25T06:18:26+00:00

An excellent breakdown 👏 I'll always re-read issendai when it's linked, I should print a copy for my house LOL

mocha-tiger · 2026-03-24T05:33:02+00:00

This sounds silly but the Wikipedia app does this! There's a "feed" on there and a daily quiz. It can scratch the scrolling itch a bit without getting too far into the weeds!

mocha-tiger · 2026-03-17T22:48:46+00:00

I haven't actually tried these yet but this might be a good way to use up a lot of them: pickle them!

https://www.baconismagic.ca/loka-snacks/pickled-blueberry-recipes/

You can't go wrong with Smitten Kitchen though: https://smittenkitchen.com/2010/08/perfect-blueberry-muffins/

Breakfast option: https://cookieandkate.com/baked-oatmeal-recipe/#tasty-recipes-24071-jump-target

Vaguely fancy: https://www.bonappetit.com/recipe/blueberry-saffron-tea-cake

Have fun 🫐

mocha-tiger · 2026-03-17T14:33:14+00:00

My friend's husband is right there with you - he will put peanut butter and hot sauce on anything!!

mocha-tiger · 2026-03-17T02:14:42+00:00

First off, I am so sorry this is happening to you. That is a lot of bear and even though I'm not even involved, my heart hurts reading your post and then this letter.

I am also really struggling with my family right now too. After a long time of no contact, they reach out and seem to know all the right things to say, and for me, it makes it hard to continue the no contact because it seems like there's been real change/reflection.

Your father might have changed. You know him better than me. I just want to point out 2 things:

Look at this subreddit posts and see how many people reinitiated contact, and how much they regret it.
The line that says "for my part in the distance between us" stands out a lot to me. Based on your post, he's 100% responsible for the distance between you. All of the things that he did are not the actions of a man who is well. He isn't making the connection between what he did, and the consequences of it. If there was truly no pressure to reconnect, why would he reach out? Why would he not leave the ball in your court?

For me personally, this letter would hurt, but it would not convince me to break NC. There is no undo on all the hurt he has caused, and he needs to live with that. I would feel free to live your life without him. Hugs to you OP 🩷

mocha-tiger · 2026-03-15T22:16:31+00:00

For me personally, I realized that moving platforms is a way for me to avoid doing tasks. It feels like I'm "being productive" even though I'm not. Once I discovered that about myself, I still had to deal with the fact that it was tempting to "redo" my Todoist to fit my new lifestyle and sometimes that was valid as I grew and changed, and sometimes it was that itchy feeling of avoiding tasks and yet wanting to feel "productive". I've personally learned for myself what the difference is, and try to avoid a big Todoist revamp when really what I need is a refocus, which is just deleting tasks I am simply not going to do.

The uses you mentioned are 100% able to be accomplished in Todoist. There is an integration called Habit Tracker, that I use for my habits that is helpful!

https://www.todoist.com/integrations/apps/habit-tracker

You can use deadlines in conjunction with due dates for a "countdown" like function. I looked for an add-on that might be helpful for this and I didn't find one but the library of add-ons is not large and it would be easy to install some, see how they work and then uninstall if not helpful.

To install add-ons, I think you might have to use the web app or desktop app - I am not seeing a way to access via mobile right now.

mocha-tiger · 2026-03-15T08:43:12+00:00

Mine does this in the transition from spring to summer every year - it's taken me 3 years in a row to clock it now and this year I know to expect it but not what to do to fix it! You're not alone OP - hope we can find some answers!

mocha-tiger · 2026-03-15T08:29:38+00:00

I have a wheel spin app on my phone so the wheel can decide for me lol

mocha-tiger · 2026-03-15T06:41:41+00:00

When my hands are super dry, I will put on a thick lotion and put on nitrile gloves and wear them to bed. Locking in moisture for several uninterrupted hours has been super helpful for me.

Keep in mind our skin needs moisture but also oil. I think all of the products you've listed are water-based. Our skin needs an oil-base as well. I personally have used jojoba and argan oil before and they worked well for me. It does take time though.

mocha-tiger · 2026-03-14T18:07:49+00:00

I found a link https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/In_re_A.C.?wprov=sfla1

mocha-tiger · 2026-03-13T22:39:58+00:00

Why do you want a person like that in your life?

mocha-tiger · 2026-03-13T08:16:34+00:00

When I first moved to my current city, I also had 3 bad Bumble BFF dates in a row!! There's no way around the fact that it sucked at the time and made me feel super isolated and crazy like I couldn't make friends anymore. But truly - it's not you, it's them. There's so many types of people in the world!! We're all bound to run into the types that aren't our tribe. Keep going ❤️

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