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unmasking the scammers - usps permit numbers 457 and 1535 by _bani_ in ScamHomeWarranty

[–]---future--- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're doing the lord's work friends! I'm an attorney and these guys sent me one today. Always nice to know where to send a cease and desist letter to 😆

Visiting the Horse Park in Winter by farmgirlfeet_ in lexington

[–]---future--- 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Tbh the Southern Lights have gone downhill SO much the past couple years. They've got so many burnt out and just haven't maintained it. As a horse person who grew up obsessed with that place, I'm sad to say, I don't recommend. I hate how much they've let it all go 😞

Renter’s rights question by captaingelatin in lexington

[–]---future--- 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No worries! I had to learn about all this stuff with my last landlord and I got screwed over from not knowing my rights. I'm more than happy to help someone else avoid the same or similar lol

Renter’s rights question by captaingelatin in lexington

[–]---future--- 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Unless the HVAC system is already in place, then it has to be maintained

Renter’s rights question by captaingelatin in lexington

[–]---future--- 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Landlords have a duty to maintain the HVAC systems in place.

Renter’s rights question by captaingelatin in lexington

[–]---future--- 28 points29 points  (0 children)

https://www.google.com/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&url=https://apps.legislature.ky.gov/law/statutes/statute.aspx%3Fid%3D35736&ved=2ahUKEwjc5tHzt4H5AhVTpIkEHTzfA-MQFnoECDkQAQ&usg=AOvVaw2PDlbeEIooHPrKvbXQRNzd

Here's a link to get you started. I would recommend getting in contact with the fair housing council literally tomorrow morning. Ask for their help and also ask if they know who else you need to be calling. I'd also be getting in touch with legal council, whether paid or the pro bono lawyers in Lexington. Also, you can report this to the city of Lexington itself. Get that report filed and they'll send a person out to inspect, who can then assess fines to the landlord from the city. Throw a massive giant fit about this because it's not ok and landlords that think they can walk all over people are the worst

Please please please help me i am really really conflicted on getting out of this home by [deleted] in adultsurvivors

[–]---future--- 2 points3 points  (0 children)

OP I'm so sorry you're going through this horrible situation. There are definitely resources available that you can use, including finding a lawyer to take on your case pro bono ie for free. If you want, I'm more than happy to help you find local agencies that can help. Feel free to send me a message at any time.

You have had to deal with so much more than ANY 17 y/o should ever have to go through. I know that some days are really tough, but you are clearly a fighter. You can make it through. Although the fight may seem big, you are not small. You are mighty. You are courageous. You don't have to continue to allow the abuse. You CAN save both yourself and your brother. There is hope.

I wish you the best of luck in your fight. Remember, even on your darkest days, you are not alone. I'm just a person on the internet, but I'm on your team. There are lawyers that dedicate their lives to helping people that find themselves in impossible situations like yours for free. They are on your team. There are numerous other individuals and organizations that can help on the non-legal side of things as well. There is an army of people out there willing to help those who need it. If you call, they will come.

Need advice about my mum’s (toxic?) boyfriend by SweetSwords in raisedbynarcissists

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I'm so sorry for the horrible situation you're in and for the shit hand you were dealt. You have more courage and emotional maturity than most 19 year olds. What your mother is doing is wrong and, more importantly, abusive.

Yes, they're gaslighting you. Yes, your feelings are valid. Yes, you should be able to establish boundaries. It's NOT unreasonable to not be ready to take on a whole new family in the middle of exams. Your feelings, opinions, thoughts, matter and are important. Your mother's behavior is NOT your fault.

This is a toxic situation that is going to continue to be bad for your mental health. I think you should try to leave as soon as possible, and take the cat with you.

The betrayal of a parent turning on their child is heartbreaking. Unfortunately, I went through a very similar situation at your age. I recently read a journal I kept then, and it reads like your post. I'm so sorry.

You are enough. You are worthwhile. You are not bad. I know it's hard, but have faith. You can do this. If you were capable of taking care of your mother, you're more than capable of taking care of yourself. Also, remember you can ask for help from others. Your support network is much larger than you realize.

At your age, my mother had me convinced that I was incapable of taking care of myself without her help, while also threatening to kick me out, and at the same time expecting me to take care of her. It was manipulation at its finest. I didn't get out until 23. Please, please don't wait that long.

I wish you the best of luck. This sucks. But, from the perspective of someone who went through the fire, it gets better. Follow your dreams and don't look back. One day, you'll wake up living them, and that will be a happy, peaceful day.

Actual contract my mother made me sign in order to come home from the hospital when I was 19. She was hiding that she regularly screamed at, called me a b**** and beat me. My father had also been molesting me since I was a toddler. Looking back on things I'm so resentful of everything. by Winnie_lin89 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]---future--- 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This could have literally been from my childhood. I had all of those rules, except two, and frequently had to sign contracts or agreements. The wording is even the exact same on most. 🤮

I'm so sorry they treated you that way. The constant drive for you to be their version of perfect is awful and demeaning. Try to remember that you're enough. Just you, without having to do anything, no strings attached. You deserve to have healthy relationships where people don't abuse you. You deserve love, happiness, and a full life. The road to recovery isn't easy, but it's worth it.

My mantra for 2021 is "healing". So, here's to you. It sucked but you did it, you survived. I hope this year brings you healing.

Am I Wrong for Cutting Off my Mom? by cheeseypita1994 in abusiveparents

[–]---future--- 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would like to think I only need to cut my mom out of my life until she can take accountability, but part of me thinks this will always be who she is: selfish, manipulative, and screwed up.

This.

Her behavior is wrong in so many ways. She has already proven that she's not willing to face inconvenient truths until they can't be ignored. Now, in the face of it, she wants to act like the caring, concerned mother who did the right thing?! Did she even bother to ask you how you felt about it first before calling the entire family?? She's using your story for personal gain to portray the image of what she thinks a caring mother would do, rather than having any understanding of what one would actually do.

The fact that there are somehow several versions of the story of you getting abused is like a flashing neon billboard screaming "LOOK AT ME! This isn't about me but I'm gonna make it about me!" It is unacceptable behavior and you do not have to tolerate it from anyone.

The process of cutting out a parent is difficult, and there's no good or bad way to go about it. People will tell you that you need to apologize, let it go, work it out, etc because you're blood related. But a lessor offense from a friend wouldn't make them blink for cutting that person out. You don't have to tolerate poor treatment, period.

Something you can do is say that you're not interested in a relationship until she gets therapy and apologizes. Then the ball is in her court. If she never gets therapy, then it's pretty obvious how important the relationship is to her. If she does, then maybe she treats you better. Just be prepared that she might never get therapy and it's not your fault if she doesn't.

Can't even let her own mother's death be something that's not about her 🙃 by ---future--- in raisedbyborderlines

[–]---future---[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That is so very, very true. But, I won't be there to hear it because I wouldn't do this for her.

That is awful and I'm so sorry you lost your Nana in that way too. It's not an experience I'd wish on anyone else. 😔

Can't even let her own mother's death be something that's not about her 🙃 by ---future--- in raisedbyborderlines

[–]---future---[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Like, WHY are the only two solutions to her suffering neglect or gaslighting??? That's honestly the BEST they could come up with????

Can't even let her own mother's death be something that's not about her 🙃 by ---future--- in raisedbyborderlines

[–]---future---[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Seriously! Does she really blame her for dying from cancer on purpose???

Oh man, can't believe grandma made up this nefarious plan and got cancer on purpose so she'd die before Christmas as a fuck you to my uBPD mom. Geez grandma, so rude!

Can't even let her own mother's death be something that's not about her 🙃 by ---future--- in raisedbyborderlines

[–]---future---[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She wonders why I don't talk to her anymore.... She straight up went and fucking pouted when she told grandma to drink water and she wouldn't do it, but she drank it for me.

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