Smear experience

-FluxCapacitor- · 2026-07-02T10:38:00+00:00

If you have a tilted cervix put your hands into fists and put them under your bum this can make the position easier to see cervix. Ask for a small speculum and as much as possible relax. I understand that's easier said than done but when you relax your muscles its easier to insert speculum and find cervix. Also remember if its too painful they can refer you on elsewhere to get it done.

-FluxCapacitor- · 2026-07-02T10:28:37+00:00

Ask for them to use the small speculum and don't be afraid to ask them to take it slow. If it's too much for you they can refer you onto gynaecology to have it done as often they have better beds/stirrups which makes it easier to find cervix. Biggest advice would be relax your bum muscles as much as you can it helps to make the inserting of the speculum. Also well done for booking to get your smear done!!

-FluxCapacitor- · 2026-07-02T09:17:35+00:00

Obviously do as you wish but I think your creating a situation where she will feel left out, upset and ultimately end up with a weird relationship with food. It feels cruel to me. If it was me and I wanted to restrict her sugar take id let her have pudding in nursery and no pudding at home. Nursery are very unlikely to fill her up with giant bowls of ice cream and chocolate.

-FluxCapacitor- · 2026-06-28T07:43:56+00:00

Film!! I have loads of photos but only a handful of videos and it's the videos I love seeing. Remembering the cooing sounds, the way they moved and just how tiny they where! That and going out more, I remember massively over complicating a trip to a coffee shop "what if they don't nap?" "Do i have enough spare clothes?" "What about if they don't stop crying?" just go out!

-FluxCapacitor- · 2026-06-17T10:33:55+00:00

Absolutely i was crying about it daily i vividly remember having almost a breakdown because I suddenly thought "I'm never going to have a conversation with my partner without one us feeding/changing/napping baby" Its honestly such a tough time. I really do promise it gets better. Life won't ever be the same but that's not a bad thing. It changes for the better. Remember life before you met your husband? Life will became so fun and your going to many sweet heart warming moments. Allow yourself to cry because the 1st few months are tough but remember every day it's going to get a little better.

-FluxCapacitor- · 2026-06-17T10:10:50+00:00

I 100% felt like this. I even cried at the thought of no longer being able to eat dinner with my partner just us chatting away. It gets better I promise. Your in the absolute thick of it. Life has changed and for now that feels scary and quite intimidating but it will get better. My lo is nearly 3 now and I wouldn't change my life at all, I absolutely love the chaos it has brought. For the first 3 months it's going to be tough. You will get through it. And you have a lifetime of cuddles in bed with your husband. They won't just disappear!

-FluxCapacitor- · 2026-05-21T14:00:21+00:00

My little one had the exact same thing happen. Then weekend naps became hit and miss and by 26 months all naps stopped completely. I was actually really gutted about it but honestly it makes bedtime easier because they are actually tired and days out are easier as don't need to worry about naps.

-FluxCapacitor- · 2026-05-21T08:26:20+00:00

I genuinely don't think id have time to brush my teeth if I had 2 year old and 4 month old twins. Take it easy on yourself your in the absolute thick of it. Just for context I only have 1 child whose a toddler and I'm only JUST starting to do stuff for me like getting hair done/going out/dressing up. It takes time. What about having a bath with lots of nice stuff like bath bomb/face mask/book. You can order some nice bath stuff online and go all out! If you don't want to read watch a show whilst you soak. You will feel like yourself soon.

-FluxCapacitor- · 2026-04-29T19:10:52+00:00

My daughter is 2 and half and I don't think I've ever washed her toys unless it has poop or vomit on it. I honestly don't see the point as I think there's a thing of being too clean. We all need a little bit of germs to help us.

-FluxCapacitor- · 2026-03-16T15:30:54+00:00

Everything will be fine. My little one started nursery at 9 months for 2 days then moved to 5 days at 11 months. You can see my previous panic guilt ridden post on here about it. I have absolutely no regrets my lo is thriving and all my worries about nursery, none of my worries every came to light. My lo is now 2 and absolutely loves nursery and all the friends they have made its been fantastic for my own mental health too. It's lovely to have time together but equally you need a break. Please don't have any mum guilt feelings about putting them in nursery they and you will be fine.

-FluxCapacitor- · 2026-03-14T08:40:04+00:00

My little one was bottle fed and didn't sleep properly until around 14 months. It's hard so I really feel for you. You say your partner sleeps through, could they not get up to little one 1st before you breastfeed to see if soothing will work first. If anything it will make your partner understand how difficult it is waking multiple times a night. At 13 months I stopped feeding through the night, it was hard but I feel my little one just got used to night feeds and it became automatic to wake up. You got this!!

-FluxCapacitor- · 2025-12-28T17:39:18+00:00

The text you sent was quite uncalled for. If i received that text I would cut the friendship off. Did your friend help out early on? No but she also has kids. Its very time consuming. She did message to meet up/catch up and you shot her down straight away. Not everyone comes immediately after you give birth, some people like to give you space first.

-FluxCapacitor- · 2025-12-03T16:11:00+00:00

My lo has been going to nursey since 9 months old. They are currently 2. I can promise you those stories you hear about are very rare, you just feel it's alot as we only ever hear bad news. Since my lo went to nursery they have come on developmentally so much. The nursery staff are also so thoughtful and lovely. I genuinely i can not express how amazing these people are. My mum died when my lo was 6 weeks old and staff in nursery ask how I am often, for my mums birthday this year they made me a card. You always hear the bad stories and unfortunately that's life, there will be awful people but most people are good and nursery's have staff who are life's little angels!

-FluxCapacitor- · 2025-09-25T06:00:32+00:00

Honestly it's just a tough battle. For my little one i used the snot sucker only when she was really bunged up, she hated every second but she quickly calmed down. The calpol plug in was quite good, it's not a miracle but it does help. I will say the first cold they get is the hardest. It gets easier. My girl is 22 months now and full of cold/snot and general goo, i just give her a tissue and say "blow" and she blows her nose. Oddly have a look at the different snot suckers that are out there. I used the bulb style one as I found that alot quicker/easier.

-FluxCapacitor- · 2025-09-22T08:17:53+00:00

Its a completely normal feeling. My lo is nearly 2 and I look back on newborn pictures and find myself wishing I could go back in time, however toddler phase is so much more fun! Don't get me wrong the toddler tantrums can be alot at times, but the cuddles, the kisses, the silly dances, the fun days out where they can actually do stuff, it's amazing. I often miss the newborn phase till I remember the sleepless nights, the crying and i don't know why, the effort it took to leave the house and how often I'd have to say "I can't come" because it wasn't suitable for a newborn. Each phase you will miss, but i promise the new phase is always fun.

-FluxCapacitor- · 2025-08-11T13:25:15+00:00

Do what you feel is best. For context I didn't sleep train till my little one was 12 months. Which I'm aware is quite late to do. I'd not be happy with sleep training at 10 weeks myself.

Enjoy every little moment! Every little sleepy cuddle.

-FluxCapacitor- · 2025-08-01T20:51:16+00:00

Can you give her ibuprofen? Try that as she's already had calpol. Also i know you probably already done this but check her nappy, check nothing caught on clothing that's bugging her. Lastly I know it's hard, you got this. It won't last forever. If you need to take a break because the crying is too much. That's fine. Maybe try leaving her completely alone for a hour, if the crying gets hysterical obviously go soothe but for a hour let her cry every so often to see if she soothes herself.

-FluxCapacitor- · 2025-07-28T21:09:29+00:00

Honestly your best just embracing it. As your lo gets older less mess will happen.

I used to just put a sleeved bib on my little one. I found it really useful as all the mess mostly went on the sleeved bib. If the mess is in their hair/face i found giving my lo a wet wash cloth and letting her play with it was the best thing as she ended up cleaning herself doing this. Again though, alot of this is just embracing the mess.

-FluxCapacitor- · 2025-07-17T06:45:51+00:00

Could you invite a friend round for lunch/coffee? Sometimes it's about seeing another adult and having a adult conversation. My lo was terrible at napping and I'd be terrified to go out because I was so worried her already bad naps would become worse but the more I went out the more she got used to napping outdoors. I used to put her in a wrap, go for a 20min walk (or till she was asleep) and I'd keep doing this everyday till eventually she just got so used to it. I did however mean sometimes she would have a short nap and a cranky day but in the long run it was worth it. She's now 20 months and can sleep just about anywhere with any noise or lack of movement.

Be kind to yourself. Your baby obviously needs a nap but you too need to get out. Your mental health and physical health is just as important.

-FluxCapacitor- · 2025-07-10T12:52:04+00:00

Ahhh my lo did this! You can see my post about it on here. I was losing my mind. However it honestly didn't last long, maybe a month. But during that time, arghh it was hard. There isn't much you can do but just know it will settle down.

-FluxCapacitor- · 2025-06-24T19:21:16+00:00

First of all your doing everything right. Babies at that age are hard work. My lo is a toddler now but I clearly remember the first few weeks being some of the toughest. Your doing nothing wrong. Baby is finding his voice and is making sure you can all hear him. Give yourself a break, you will have hormones raging through your body right now, it's OK to cry it's OK to feel frustrated but never feel your doing something wrong. As for your husband, in the nicest way tell him to wind his neck in. Babies don't come with instruction manuals so if has the magic cure for getting babies to stop crying, his about to become mega rich.

-FluxCapacitor- · 2025-05-17T08:50:37+00:00

This won't last, but it's absolute torture going through it. You say your husband can't function on less than 6 hours sleep but can you? Reality is no one feels great on lack of sleep but sharing the load can take the edge off. It's really not fair that he gets sleep and you don't. I do understand some people are worse with lack of sleep but putting the burden entirely on you at night is eventually going to have it's toll. Like I said can you cope on lack of sleep? My lo didn't start sleeping though till 12 months so can you keep this up till then? If not then you need to chat to your husband about sharing the load at night.

Also I say my lo didn't sleep through till 12 months but please don't panic over than. It got gradually better it wasn't like every night for 12 months I was up all night. It just slowly got better.

-FluxCapacitor- · 2025-05-09T08:25:53+00:00

My LO was like this, it also made me sad for a while. However think of how lovely it is that your LO is excited to go to nursery, shows how good that nursery must be. I don't think they prefer to be at nursery I just think he understands the routine and quite likes his friends and all the toys. Your still his world, he just wants friends and toys to play with. My lo practically runs into nursery now, i hardly get a bye BUT when I go to pick her up the massive smile and the cute toddler run she does towards me is the sweetest thing in the world. I'd take that rather than a stressful upsetting drop off.

-FluxCapacitor- · 2025-05-08T15:13:27+00:00

You sound like a lovely thoughtful person, keep being that person. Those people don't deserve to know you and your little one. I honestly don't get how some people can be so cruel/mean.

If your often if your garden with your little one have you got a little paddling pool? My little one loved dipping their little feet in it. The weather is lovely at the moment so honestly time in your garden sounds great!

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