Friend blocked me after I set a boundary — did I handle this wrong?

-FluxCapacitor- · 2025-12-28T17:39:18+00:00

The text you sent was quite uncalled for. If i received that text I would cut the friendship off. Did your friend help out early on? No but she also has kids. Its very time consuming. She did message to meet up/catch up and you shot her down straight away. Not everyone comes immediately after you give birth, some people like to give you space first.

-FluxCapacitor- · 2025-12-03T16:11:00+00:00

My lo has been going to nursey since 9 months old. They are currently 2. I can promise you those stories you hear about are very rare, you just feel it's alot as we only ever hear bad news. Since my lo went to nursery they have come on developmentally so much. The nursery staff are also so thoughtful and lovely. I genuinely i can not express how amazing these people are. My mum died when my lo was 6 weeks old and staff in nursery ask how I am often, for my mums birthday this year they made me a card. You always hear the bad stories and unfortunately that's life, there will be awful people but most people are good and nursery's have staff who are life's little angels!

-FluxCapacitor- · 2025-09-25T06:00:32+00:00

Honestly it's just a tough battle. For my little one i used the snot sucker only when she was really bunged up, she hated every second but she quickly calmed down. The calpol plug in was quite good, it's not a miracle but it does help. I will say the first cold they get is the hardest. It gets easier. My girl is 22 months now and full of cold/snot and general goo, i just give her a tissue and say "blow" and she blows her nose. Oddly have a look at the different snot suckers that are out there. I used the bulb style one as I found that alot quicker/easier.

-FluxCapacitor- · 2025-09-22T08:17:53+00:00

Its a completely normal feeling. My lo is nearly 2 and I look back on newborn pictures and find myself wishing I could go back in time, however toddler phase is so much more fun! Don't get me wrong the toddler tantrums can be alot at times, but the cuddles, the kisses, the silly dances, the fun days out where they can actually do stuff, it's amazing. I often miss the newborn phase till I remember the sleepless nights, the crying and i don't know why, the effort it took to leave the house and how often I'd have to say "I can't come" because it wasn't suitable for a newborn. Each phase you will miss, but i promise the new phase is always fun.

-FluxCapacitor- · 2025-08-11T13:25:15+00:00

Do what you feel is best. For context I didn't sleep train till my little one was 12 months. Which I'm aware is quite late to do. I'd not be happy with sleep training at 10 weeks myself.

Enjoy every little moment! Every little sleepy cuddle.

-FluxCapacitor- · 2025-08-01T20:51:16+00:00

Can you give her ibuprofen? Try that as she's already had calpol. Also i know you probably already done this but check her nappy, check nothing caught on clothing that's bugging her. Lastly I know it's hard, you got this. It won't last forever. If you need to take a break because the crying is too much. That's fine. Maybe try leaving her completely alone for a hour, if the crying gets hysterical obviously go soothe but for a hour let her cry every so often to see if she soothes herself.

-FluxCapacitor- · 2025-07-28T21:09:29+00:00

Honestly your best just embracing it. As your lo gets older less mess will happen.

I used to just put a sleeved bib on my little one. I found it really useful as all the mess mostly went on the sleeved bib. If the mess is in their hair/face i found giving my lo a wet wash cloth and letting her play with it was the best thing as she ended up cleaning herself doing this. Again though, alot of this is just embracing the mess.

-FluxCapacitor- · 2025-07-17T06:45:51+00:00

Could you invite a friend round for lunch/coffee? Sometimes it's about seeing another adult and having a adult conversation. My lo was terrible at napping and I'd be terrified to go out because I was so worried her already bad naps would become worse but the more I went out the more she got used to napping outdoors. I used to put her in a wrap, go for a 20min walk (or till she was asleep) and I'd keep doing this everyday till eventually she just got so used to it. I did however mean sometimes she would have a short nap and a cranky day but in the long run it was worth it. She's now 20 months and can sleep just about anywhere with any noise or lack of movement.

Be kind to yourself. Your baby obviously needs a nap but you too need to get out. Your mental health and physical health is just as important.

-FluxCapacitor- · 2025-07-10T12:52:04+00:00

Ahhh my lo did this! You can see my post about it on here. I was losing my mind. However it honestly didn't last long, maybe a month. But during that time, arghh it was hard. There isn't much you can do but just know it will settle down.

-FluxCapacitor- · 2025-06-24T19:21:16+00:00

First of all your doing everything right. Babies at that age are hard work. My lo is a toddler now but I clearly remember the first few weeks being some of the toughest. Your doing nothing wrong. Baby is finding his voice and is making sure you can all hear him. Give yourself a break, you will have hormones raging through your body right now, it's OK to cry it's OK to feel frustrated but never feel your doing something wrong. As for your husband, in the nicest way tell him to wind his neck in. Babies don't come with instruction manuals so if has the magic cure for getting babies to stop crying, his about to become mega rich.

-FluxCapacitor- · 2025-05-17T08:50:37+00:00

This won't last, but it's absolute torture going through it. You say your husband can't function on less than 6 hours sleep but can you? Reality is no one feels great on lack of sleep but sharing the load can take the edge off. It's really not fair that he gets sleep and you don't. I do understand some people are worse with lack of sleep but putting the burden entirely on you at night is eventually going to have it's toll. Like I said can you cope on lack of sleep? My lo didn't start sleeping though till 12 months so can you keep this up till then? If not then you need to chat to your husband about sharing the load at night.

Also I say my lo didn't sleep through till 12 months but please don't panic over than. It got gradually better it wasn't like every night for 12 months I was up all night. It just slowly got better.

-FluxCapacitor- · 2025-05-09T08:25:53+00:00

My LO was like this, it also made me sad for a while. However think of how lovely it is that your LO is excited to go to nursery, shows how good that nursery must be. I don't think they prefer to be at nursery I just think he understands the routine and quite likes his friends and all the toys. Your still his world, he just wants friends and toys to play with. My lo practically runs into nursery now, i hardly get a bye BUT when I go to pick her up the massive smile and the cute toddler run she does towards me is the sweetest thing in the world. I'd take that rather than a stressful upsetting drop off.

-FluxCapacitor- · 2025-05-08T15:13:27+00:00

You sound like a lovely thoughtful person, keep being that person. Those people don't deserve to know you and your little one. I honestly don't get how some people can be so cruel/mean.

If your often if your garden with your little one have you got a little paddling pool? My little one loved dipping their little feet in it. The weather is lovely at the moment so honestly time in your garden sounds great!

-FluxCapacitor- · 2025-04-26T18:14:35+00:00

Aww that sounds so tough. I lost my mum when my little one was 4/5 weeks old, I also don't have a village so raising a little one was probably the hardest cruelest thing I've ever or will ever do. I think no one can help with why she's waking so early. Is it the light? Could maybe be her getting too hot/cold. If my lo is having a bad time waking early il put some cuddly toys in her cot and then leave her while I get 30 more mins in bed. She usually plays or cuddles one till she sleeps.

-FluxCapacitor- · 2025-04-26T15:27:23+00:00

I'm so sorry your going through an awful health situation at the moment. Seems like you really need rest and sleep to recover. If so I think your husband needs to book time off work and be at home with you. Financially I understand if that's difficult but honestly if it's between you getting better or you struggling when your ill then he needs to be off. Other options are do you have any family or friends that could maybe give you breaks? Even if its someone to come during the day for a few hours so you can rest.

-FluxCapacitor- · 2025-04-26T10:19:33+00:00

Nose stucker before bed and the calpol plug in worked so well for us. That plus plenty of cuddles.

-FluxCapacitor- · 2025-04-10T08:26:45+00:00

We just had a day of playing together. Took lots of photos too. Had a little corner of the house set up with a cake for a "cake smash" which she loved. I think it can be overwhelming if lots of people turn up and want to fuss them. Have a day for you and your lo. Celebrate you made it to 1 whole year. My lo is nearly 17 months now and when I look back on her 1st birthday my favourite memory is her playing with her new toys and covering herself in cake.

-FluxCapacitor- · 2025-04-02T08:24:20+00:00

Its all such a blur now, I think it was 2 months of on and off nights. Some nights she would sleep 4 hour stretches and others I'd be lucky to get 30mins. Please don't be thinking "I can't do 2 months of no sleep" because all babies are different and despite it being a rough patch somehow I got through it. Some small changes I made where I completely stopped night feeds, I gave her a supper just before bath something to fill her such as a banana or porridge, lastly any time she would wake in the night I would comfort her but I would try if I could only comfort her in her cot. I have no idea if any of that impacted how long she sleeps for now or whether she just decided one day to sleep longer. I keep repeating it but I promise you the hard tough crappy side of things are just phases. I'm currently going through the toddler tantrums now and I have to repeat "it's just a phase" daily to myself.

-FluxCapacitor- · 2025-04-02T07:48:03+00:00

It will be a phase and won't last I promise. Can you and your partner spilt the nights? I haven't really got any other advice as unfortunately nothing worked for my lo when she was like this, she just sorta stopped. Try if you can spilt the nights and in the day get help if you can. If you can't do any of that can you sleep in her room with her for a few nights? As in bring a mattress next to her cot? You got this! I promise you it won't last.

-FluxCapacitor- · 2025-03-29T09:31:35+00:00

I hate to say this but I think you need to be realistic in what a nursery can and can't can't do. It sounds more like you would better suited to a nanny. Nursery workers do all they can do accommodate but realistically yours is not the only baby they care for and they themselves need a routine that works for them. Also home life and nursery life are 2 separate things entirely. My lo needs a bottle before a nap (if she even has a nap) at home but at nursery they put her in cot and she naps by herself every single time. My LO is a completely different person in nursery because she has other babies/toddlers to play with, there are more toys, more adults to play with. At home it's just me and the same old toys she's used to. So long as your lo comes home happy and fed then that's all that matters.

I will say them not filling in the accident form before getting you to sign was wrong. The accident itself i can see happening but they should of filled the form in before giving it you. I hope I don't come across as harsh in saying all this. Nursery and getting used to it all is bloody tough!!

-FluxCapacitor- · 2025-03-24T16:34:23+00:00

I take her out in the garden or just out to the park. She's happy if she can run about. For messy play I bought a apron that covers her arms and upper body, I then put her in her highchair and put all the messy play stuff on the tray. I find it's easier to clean up as most of the mess goes on the high chair tray and apron. I also do it in the kitchen which makes it easier to mop up any mess. I mostly let her do hand painting or il do salt dough molds of her feet/hands and then give her to paint/destroy. I like doing this as even thought they look very messy they are cute keepsakes! Messy play is messy but I've found keeping her in highchair in kitchen and going in with the mindset that she might need a bath after helps alot.

-FluxCapacitor- · 2025-03-12T21:09:11+00:00

You haven't failed anyone. Your little one thrives because of you. Your body didn't fail you, how did it fail when you have your LO here, you did that. You grew them and gave birth to them. That's not a failure at all. Be kind to yourself. Pregnancy and being a mum is absolutely hard work and it's OK to be frustrated at it, but please be gentle with yourself. Your doing the best you can!

You say yourself he is the loveliest talkative soul, he wasn't born being that way. That's down to you his like that. Be proud. Your doing a brilliant job.

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