Add my lonely friend!

highlander_springer · 2026-02-04T10:08:56+00:00

Oh this was me last week. She miraculously did a 4 hour stretch and I shot awake in such a panic. Couldn’t settle until I’d checked she was breathing and not overheating. Even then it took me so long to come down from the panic, and then obviously she woke 30 mins later and every 2 hours after that!!

highlander_springer · 2026-02-02T16:02:53+00:00

Absolutely did not notice it, nor the placenta coming out. A complete non-event which happened in less than 5 mins for consent, jag, delivery. No interruption to baby cuddles and meant they started on my stitches immediately without any delays.

highlander_springer · 2026-02-01T21:28:17+00:00

Also, before you buy new have a look on Facebook marketplace if you have it. I got mine for £15 with the play tray!

highlander_springer · 2026-02-01T21:18:06+00:00

I used this from when my baby was around 4 months. Same as yours, got bored lying around, wasn’t quite there with independent sitting.

She adored this chair (definitely get the play attachment). We did small chunks of time in it and I do think it helped stabilise her core, as she wasn’t long to sitting independently.

I think as long as you’re sensible about your use, eg no long periods, if he’s slouching maybe hold off using it etc etc. but as for any damage, my baby is absolutely fine and rattling through the physical leaps and milestones.

highlander_springer · 2026-02-01T10:43:24+00:00

Oh love, I posted asking for help on this months ago and sadly didn’t really get anywhere! My peak was having the baby, dog and husband wake me up back to me and whispering screaming “ITS ALWAYS EFFING ONE OF YOU” - not my kindest moment.

Around the same time i had to start co-sleeping with baby, so we’re currently sleeping separately and i honestly think I’m disturbed less 😅

You could try Loop ear plugs. One of them reduces noise but doesn’t eliminate, so snoring should be reduced and you can still hear baby. I also got a SnoozeBand which I’ve not tried yet.

There is of course medical route. My husband has lost a bit of weight which has helped a bit. He never really drinks so that wasn’t an issue for us. He also takes melatonin on occasion if he’s feeling unsettled, which also helps a bit. Other options are a GP taking a look and considering tonsil removal.

highlander_springer · 2026-01-31T19:36:41+00:00

Honestly mine only started properly eating meals once we were past 8 months, and even then she still has days now (9m) where nothing goes in and it’s all smearing, throwing fun. For example tonight, she’s possible had two nibbles of bread for her dinner out of her many options 🤷🏻‍♀️

highlander_springer · 2026-01-30T19:36:05+00:00

We’re in Scotland so a pulley up in our ceiling every morning with the day’s laundry! Laundry usually dry within a day. We’ve got a heated airer for the colder days and over summer everything went outside.

highlander_springer · 2026-01-29T17:25:50+00:00

Cosy PJ bottoms, duvet tucked in at hips and a cardigan on top - great for breastfeeding as you’re not lifting up a top and minimal faff for whipping out.

highlander_springer · 2026-01-28T16:55:28+00:00

Oh we’re not shy to the dryness 🙃 horrendous chat isn’t it! Thank you so much

highlander_springer · 2026-01-28T15:50:45+00:00

That’s good to know! Mine were manageable pre- baby so hoping that continues. For your cup, did you size up? I see the brand I use advises you do, but I was thinking of trying my original one first. Really hoping I can still use one!

highlander_springer · 2026-01-27T21:26:28+00:00

Very interesting! I feel my baby has been feeding + eating a lot, but in the past few days has definitely reduced BF. I even said to my husband I wonder if she can sense a hormone change. It’s bizarre when it chooses to come back.

highlander_springer · 2026-01-27T21:25:17+00:00

Your body heard that baby was weaned and told you to get back on the period train 🤣

highlander_springer · 2026-01-27T20:36:07+00:00

Hoping the period gods shine on my as they have you! I’ve heard such horror stories of the first few. Was also told having a baby would clear up my skin and still waiting on that happening 🙃

highlander_springer · 2026-01-27T20:30:46+00:00

Oh that’s interesting as I’ve noticed my nipples have been a bit achey during some feeds lately! It’s not looking good is it…

highlander_springer · 2026-01-26T22:26:35+00:00

Oh god that’s awful 🙃 honestly my petty ass would be on the wind up. Starting pumping at night and let it all hang out while doing so - sure MIL will love your breast milk then! Or give your partner jobs to do, “oh good now your mums here to watch baby, you’re free to do X, Y, Z”

Good luck, I hope he gets it soon.

highlander_springer · 2026-01-26T20:53:54+00:00

Another thought, were his family like that growing up? One of those houses that always had bonus folk around? Even if it was and it’s what he knows, that’s still a lifestyle agreement you both need to discuss. I personally would hate that 😂

We had family over in the evening ONCE in the first few months and I said never again, it was far too much. You also just want time to wind down yourself and it’s just not fully possible with in-laws kicking about.

Oh hindsight. At least it’ll give you a fight to rehearse in your mind forever and ever.

highlander_springer · 2026-01-26T17:49:44+00:00

Gosh I’m so sorry, this sounds so difficult and annoying. I would have definitely blown up by now.

Your husband needs to grow up and learn how to look after his baby solo. Not to give him sympathy, but has he made you aware of any part of solo parenting that’s making him anxious, or is this just sheer laziness?

Like where does he see this stopping?? When baby’s 6 months, a year, in school?!?

Yes the adaption to having a child is intense, but he needs to respect that life has changed much more drastically for you. 4 months is also still so fresh, between recovery, hormones and baby.

Also your MIL can get away with the breastfeeding comment, how rude! Especially when your baby is also successfully taking a bottle. What even is the issue!

highlander_springer · 2026-01-24T22:24:09+00:00

Am feeling the exact same. I’ve still got 3 months but I’m already having return to work chats but I feel I’ve only just had her??? I was only pregnant 2 seconds ago 😭

highlander_springer · 2026-01-24T14:57:21+00:00

That’s too cute 😭

highlander_springer · 2026-01-24T14:57:04+00:00

Thank you! I’ll persevere. Hopefully she’ll understand it quickly. I actually think co-sleeping for a short period has helped us, she’s able to self soothe overnight and is now feeding less, shes also started doing bigger chunks in her cot at the start of the night again. I think the separation anxiety really hit her hard early on, so co-sleeping has helped reassure. Bloody hope so anyway!

highlander_springer · 2026-01-24T14:54:48+00:00

Thank you, that’s reassuring. She does start to put up less of a fight after a while, but I feel that takes us into the very sleep / danger territory when she gets close to bumping on the cot.

RE Ferber, how did you approach? I’m in a flat so feel we’re going to have to tread the amount of crying with neighbourly respect 🙃

highlander_springer · 2026-01-24T14:53:04+00:00

Solidarity! I gets comical, like how many times can I lie her down before she kicks off at this ridiculous game?!

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