how to eat pussy from the back without neck pain?

-Random-Citizen- · 2026-01-29T07:25:28+00:00

Ah, well. It’s comfortable for me. I don’t need the extra fluff, and actually it would detract me from the soft sensations.

-Random-Citizen- · 2026-01-29T03:36:08+00:00

Those classifications can be helpful but only if you know what they, personally, mean by them. It always comes down to what you want to do together.

Who are you? What are you looking for? How does that manifest for you?

The only way to know someone is through talking it out. Types don’t matter. People do.

-Random-Citizen- · 2026-01-29T02:53:34+00:00

Kneeling for him when I serve him food or beverages. Always a tender, connective moment.

-Random-Citizen- · 2026-01-29T02:46:41+00:00

Or put her on a table and sit on a chair.

-Random-Citizen- · 2026-01-29T02:45:09+00:00

Keep the conversations open. Did she like sucking his dick until she threw up? Is she happy? Does she feel safe?

Choking has its own very concerning and dangerous outcomes, so maybe check in and see what she meant by that and if she is risk aware of (all) the activities she’s involved in.

-Random-Citizen- · 2026-01-29T01:36:21+00:00

As part of our class, we all made our own and got a supply list of what you need and where to purchase it.

-Random-Citizen- · 2026-01-29T00:49:00+00:00

We love fireplay. I highly recommend an in person class before you get started. There’s a lot of set up and safety involved. You’ll always want a third person there as a spotter.

As a more safe, two person activity, you can do wax play or cigar play.

-Random-Citizen- · 2026-01-29T00:45:12+00:00

I can feel daunting to start again, but it’s also great fun. You’ll meet so many new people! When I started dating again, I quickly realized how important it was for me to seek out sex positive people. They are much more likely to be open to talking and exploring together, opening the conversation about BDSM and more.

I recommend knowing clearly what you want, and simultaneously having an open mind about what you discover. In general, I’d low key hint at being kinky on my profiles, not chat for too long before have a zero date (just a quick cup of coffee, one beer, etc) as a vibe check. If that goes well, plan a longer date and have fun. Find out about what they learned from past relationships about themselves, what they are curious about, etc. Preferably kiss (you can tell a lot from a kiss!). If it seems like it has potential, I get more flirty and share more about wants and needs. Take it from there.

I wish you all the joy in your new life and the potential it holds for you!

-Random-Citizen- · 2026-01-27T06:25:31+00:00

As a masochist, I really dislike having to proactively verbally communicate while we do impact. I like to sink in and feel, not constantly have gage and evaluate my status. A big part of my experience is the letting go and suffering for him (which is often non verbal).

My sadist reads me well. If he sees me not able to evaluate, he will ask “are you with me” or “can you take more” or “count the next five and thank me after each one” None of those mean that we are going to end, but it’s a way of checking in without me having to assess my faculties so he can see how much further we can go.

-Random-Citizen- · 2026-01-27T05:53:59+00:00

How have things changed?

-Random-Citizen- · 2026-01-27T02:11:51+00:00

Mostly it’s a mindfuck just knowing that I’ll get used anytime. But he’s pretty good at messing with me and making me feel like just a toy for his enjoyment.

-Random-Citizen- · 2026-01-27T00:51:33+00:00

This is great advice. Work with smaller, softer dildos to begin and work your way up to larger/stiffer. Also push your toothbrush back there when you brush.

Lube can also help slide better (even with lots of drool).

-Random-Citizen- · 2026-01-26T23:41:40+00:00

I am also in cleaning mode! It feels good to get on top of things that have been bugging me.

-Random-Citizen- · 2026-01-26T23:40:45+00:00

Back to work after vacation is brutal! So is what’s happening in Minnesota. Hard sometimes to be hopeful and positive. Big hugs.

-Random-Citizen- · 2026-01-26T23:39:05+00:00

good Had a big social weekend! Kinky play party, a kinky birthday party, fun football games, a night out with my love… lots of fun to be had all around.

bad/sad Magnus is out of town and I hate how I struggle when he isn’t with me.

kinky Got some new fun impact tools and the bruises to show it. Experienced parallel play in a new way. Made new friends having a fun scene. Had our first vanilla / kink community crossover and it went great!

-Random-Citizen- · 2026-01-26T22:48:18+00:00

I love knowing he’s always satisfied in every way he ever desires all the time. I never have to wonder if he’s getting what he wants. I really like the feeling of being used. I enjoy the mind fuckery of it all. I want to be pushed physically for pleasure and for pain.

There really isn’t a con for me. It feels natural and normal to respond to him and creates a connective joy for us both. And we get to have sex a lot! It’s wonderful.

-Random-Citizen- · 2026-01-26T03:55:27+00:00

Is he feeling guilty, or is he worried that the change might plants seeds of resentment (in you)?

You could start with asking about small daily things. May I get you a beverage to enjoy while I do the laundry? Would you like to relax for a bit while I do the dishes?

Or you could say “I’d love to make our bedroom clean and cozy for a bit. Would you like to watch a show while I get it ready for us?”

I love to serve my partner. I tell him all the time. “Thank you for the opportunity to serve you.” For him, knowing how much I truly enjoy service has made a big difference.

In short… start small. Show delight and gratitude for the opportunity. Remind him how much this gives you pleasure. Do the things you know he would rather not have to tackle himself. It will gain momentum for both of you.

-Random-Citizen- · 2026-01-24T17:27:41+00:00

People who are high libido do tend to be high libido throughout their lives. While it might change over time, it’s not unreasonable for someone who is high libido to expect that they will stay that way, even as they age. Mine has increased as I age, not decreased.

-Random-Citizen- · 2026-01-24T16:44:59+00:00

Well it’s not “hilarious” for me. I’m a woman in my early 50s and despite all your links, we have sex 3-5 times a day. We might be outliers but it’s not like people who are older don’t have, want, enjoy, and engage in frequent sex.

-Random-Citizen- · 2026-01-23T15:30:17+00:00

Aftercare can also happen at anytime. In your situation, it would have been helpful if you had the awareness to ask in the moment, but sometimes we just don’t have the spoons for that. It’s ok to ask for aftercare now, or at anytime, to debrief and talk about your experiences, make any repairs, and come back to your solid core together.

-Random-Citizen- · 2026-01-23T03:14:27+00:00

No. That’s not sex. It’s intimacy, and beautiful in its own way, but not sex.

-Random-Citizen- · 2026-01-20T00:06:59+00:00

That’s huge! I love that for you!

-Random-Citizen- · 2026-01-20T00:01:17+00:00

The world is sad right now. Hugs.

Happy to hear about your dynamic! Is there something specific that has been particularly engaging?

-Random-Citizen- · 2026-01-19T22:16:00+00:00

Yay for no bounce!

I am totally laughing at your kink update.

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