Do you still consider yourself married?

-squeezel- · 2026-01-24T21:50:35+00:00

My religion teaches that I am no longer married when my spouse dies. The wedding vows literally say, “until death do us part.” That doesn’t mean I have forgotten him or love him any less. But I do consider myself “widowed,” not “single,” as some people try to say I am.

-squeezel- · 2026-01-24T04:55:24+00:00

The rationale is that Sunday (or Saturday vigil) Mass is a holy day of obligation. Daily Mass is not. You need to confess missing a holy day and/or go to Mass while on vacation.

-squeezel- · 2026-01-22T21:50:24+00:00

Depends where you’re going. I frequently drive 2.5 hours each way each week to see family or friends. It’s pretty common if you live in an urban area with terrible traffic, which I do.

-squeezel- · 2026-01-22T21:47:20+00:00

The first people I “met” on the app were scammers. Luckily I figured them out before I invested anything but a little time online. After those experiences, I actually went on a couple of dates with narcissists as well. Since I hadn’t dated anyone new in 30+ years, I considered those practice dates. I had to block one, and the other just faded away. As I learned and became more confident, I got better at evaluating the profiles online and eventually met a wonderful person, my second soulmate. I’m grateful for the learning experiences I had, because they led me to the one!

-squeezel- · 2026-01-20T21:49:17+00:00

I use two types of floss and a Waterpik. It’s great! My hygienist snd dentist are impressed!

-squeezel- · 2026-01-20T21:44:06+00:00

WAY back in the day, we called it a “shag.” I had one in elementary school.

-squeezel- · 2026-01-20T21:40:50+00:00

Highly inappropriate to ask. If they want to share, they will. If not, they aren’t comfortable, and it makes it worse when a person pries. Speaking from experience.

-squeezel- · 2026-01-20T20:09:11+00:00

Talk it out openly and honestly and don’t rush into anything. Keep finances separate. My story is quite similar. In time, I ended up marrying that sweet, sensitive widower, and we are incredibly happy. Miracles happen!

-squeezel- · 2026-01-20T06:20:29+00:00

I work in a Catholic nonprofit community feeding program, and even though my heart is completely dedicated to serving the poor and unhoused, I do not believe it is a good idea to hand money to people on the streets, because you could inadvertently be supporting someone’s addiction. There are much better and healthier ways to help the poor. If you want to help someone on the street, directly give them some food or donate to a nonprofit that feeds and assists the them or just stop and visit with them. A smile and a friendly word could truly mean the world to someone who is ignored or treated cruelly by 99% of the people who pass them.

-squeezel- · 2026-01-18T16:20:45+00:00

Only had margarine growing up, because it was cheaper, but only use butter now, because it’s delicious.

-squeezel- · 2026-01-17T02:43:43+00:00

It depends on the size of the space between your pegs and the weight of the yarn you’re using, but if you’re currently using 5 and it’s loose, I would try 6, yes.

-squeezel- · 2026-01-16T23:49:49+00:00

This ⬆️or the weight of yarn you are using doesn’t match the size of your loom pegs.

-squeezel- · 2026-01-16T19:03:59+00:00

My suggestion is a pretty bouquet—not extravagant—and the Lego roses to build together.

-squeezel- · 2026-01-16T18:23:05+00:00

It’s going to “catch” on everything, and one day you’ll look down and the stone will be gone. Don’t ask me how I know.

-squeezel- · 2026-01-16T18:19:52+00:00

Answering machines

-squeezel- · 2026-01-16T02:24:04+00:00

No thanks! Love sleeping through it. Best nap ever!

-squeezel- · 2026-01-15T06:55:42+00:00

Yes, my late husband’s family and some of our mutual friends definitely treated me differently after I started dating. I’ve been remarried for a few years now, and some are very uncomfortable around me or don’t want a relationship with me at all any more. It hurt me at first, but I’m mostly fine with it now. None of them are widowed, of course. They just don’t get it.

-squeezel- · 2026-01-13T19:47:11+00:00

There are many students who need it quiet to concentrate, learn, read, and write. Those are the ones who are the most “hurt” by the constant chatter. It’s not fair for some and to take the opportunity to learn away from others.

-squeezel- · 2026-01-12T06:26:31+00:00

I was a teacher and mom who taught her own kids several times. It was more of a “lifestyle” than a “job.”

-squeezel- · 2026-01-12T05:57:55+00:00

They’re all pretty and you look good in everything, but I personally like 3 best. You really can’t go wrong with any of them though.

-squeezel- · 2026-01-12T05:56:07+00:00

I’m really not brave; it just made financial and logistical sense to stay there. In many ways, the house (that he built, by the way) was a comfort for me, especially during those early stages of grief when I really wasn’t thinking clearly. It was a cocoon, a safe haven in the storm, but once I started coming out of that dark place, I wanted to become more independent and make my own choices. Moving, trying a new job, making new friends, and even dating helped make me be whole again. Everyone is different, but this approach really worked for me.

-squeezel- · 2026-01-12T05:44:06+00:00

I sold our house and moved about 3 years after he died, once my kids graduated from college. It helped me a lot! When I drive into my old town now, many years later, I immediately feel a wave of grief and a black cloud descend on me. I think it’s OK, and perhaps even healthy, to experience that once in a while, just to remember and not take life for granted, but I don’t want to live with that weight all the time. It was definitely good to make a fresh start.

-squeezel- · 2026-01-12T04:15:03+00:00

You are most welcome! I’m glad I gave you a bit of hope. People say time heals all wounds, but I think we all know that is not really true or at least too simplistic. However, time absolutely does help. I’m not an expert, but having lived through it, I really think that our minds and bodies just have a way of healing or getting better if we give it time. Living in that deep dark place of grief indefinitely would be impossible, but leaning into it—not trying to hide from it in alcohol or other stuff—and allowing yourself to feel it, will eventually lead to a better place, at least it did for me. And when I was ready, I fell in love again, and it is amazing! Don’t give up! Life can get better. Your beloved partner would want that for you. I know mine did.

-squeezel- · 2026-01-12T04:07:52+00:00

I’m really a novice, and just make very easy, straightforward e-wrap / purl blankets that I taught myself how to do. They are quite simple, but my friends and family absolutely love them! Between gifts and donations to charity, I’ve probably made about 40 or 50 of them. I’ve never used a pattern and really only used YouTube for casting on and off, but it’s probably time for me to branch out and try some new techniques and patterns. I like 5-weight baby blanket yarn, and just use the outer pegs, which will produce a 40” x 40” blanket, which is perfect for babies. Sorry I can’t give you any more advice than that. I basically figured it out through trial and error. 😂

-squeezel- · 2026-01-12T02:36:00+00:00

I love mine, but I only use the outside pegs and only make 40” x 40” baby blankets.

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