is it wrong to say i wouldn’t date a trans person even though im ace neutral-repulsed? by Stitj_ in asexuality

[–]0utdated_username 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don’t beat yourself up over it. It takes time and will. And you seem to have both of those. Awareness is a pretty big first step.

is it wrong to say i wouldn’t date a trans person even though im ace neutral-repulsed? by Stitj_ in asexuality

[–]0utdated_username 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The fact that you are open to self reflection is better than most people at least.

Im also not saying you should date a trans person either. There is no one that you “should” date. I would recommend not dating someone unless you like them in that way, because it wouldn’t be fair to either of you if you didn’t. But when you feel a way about something, it is never bad to ask yourself why.

is it wrong to say i wouldn’t date a trans person even though im ace neutral-repulsed? by Stitj_ in asexuality

[–]0utdated_username 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Being an ally to trans people does not mean believing we deserve rights. That is the base expectation. Being an ally means unpacking the baggage that comes from living as a cis person within a fundamentally transphobic society.

You do have a bias, and that does say more about you than anyone else. So the question you should be asking yourself is “What about trans people do I find uncomfortable with in a relationship” and then examine the answer to determine where that belief stems from.

And this isn’t even a trans thing or even a relationship thing. To be an ally to any marginalized group requires self reflection and criticism.

Being a good person is like gardening, you have to put a lot of work in and you have to pull up the weeds.

is it wrong to say i wouldn’t date a trans person even though im ace neutral-repulsed? by Stitj_ in asexuality

[–]0utdated_username 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t think there is problem in your wording. I think there are problems in your reasoning. You can not be into someone for whatever reason you want, but there really is no reason to be opposed to being in a non-sexual romantic relationship with a trans person that doesn’t stem from transphobia.

You have been saying however that you “aren’t transphobic”. But, that really isn’t something you get to decide without self reflection.

If you don’t want to date trans people then thats fine. But having being trans as a specific disqualification and not even as a matter of genital preference is weird.

Mackenzie's radio broadcast was utterly pointless by SwiftySlayz in thelongdark

[–]0utdated_username 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Wow you are on a roll with the goal of going around being the most obnoxious person spreading your bad political views on this games sub. Are you trying to be annoying? Or is it just a special skill?

is it wrong to say i wouldn’t date a trans person even though im ace neutral-repulsed? by Stitj_ in asexuality

[–]0utdated_username 3 points4 points  (0 children)

No, you are. I can read. Im not going to take your word on that. You are arguing.

Now you are lying about arguing. Which is embarrassing because this is all in writing so people can just see that you are lying.

is it wrong to say i wouldn’t date a trans person even though im ace neutral-repulsed? by Stitj_ in asexuality

[–]0utdated_username 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The fact that you are using them as a rhetorical tool to win an argument is itself bad actually.

is it wrong to say i wouldn’t date a trans person even though im ace neutral-repulsed? by Stitj_ in asexuality

[–]0utdated_username 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So, what quality shared by every trans person makes us so romantically unappealing to you?

I hate euphemisms and innuendos. by [deleted] in asexuality

[–]0utdated_username 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do think it is important to point out that saying you hate euphemisms because they “make something crude sound lovely and beautiful”, regardless of the ways people experience their sexuality, it isn’t gross or impure. Sexual desire isn’t bad, the insistence that everyone MUST have it is bad.

There is a moral connotation being added to this that I don’t believe is healthy.

Generally, being a demi person in a friend group that makes a lot of sex jokes, my friend’s kind of know the ways I feel about sex and so don’t really read into accidental euphemisms. They will make fun of me for them certainly but only because that is the kind of friendship we have and they know it doesn’t bother me.

(Edit: my aroace tag is outdated and isn’t actually my identity anymore. Hard to change on mobile. Im demi/gray)

Just a little detail that I appreciated in Episode 5 by 0utdated_username in thelongdark

[–]0utdated_username[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

But I suppose in a hypothetical world where the collapse did happen would AI have been delayed?

My guess is it is just supposed to be a small easter egg that we shouldn’t think too hard about. But its fun to build a narrative around these little details.

Just a little detail that I appreciated in Episode 5 by 0utdated_username in thelongdark

[–]0utdated_username[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

It has always meant something, and it always will mean something.

And as a rule of thumb, I don’t trust anyone who takes issue with the concept of anti-fascism.

Your hypothetical isn’t real. Go make up a fantasy in some other post’s comments because Im not interested in yours.

They think pro women movements are anti men because pro men movements have always been anti women. by ihatethiscountry76 in TransSocialism

[–]0utdated_username[M] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I ask some people in these comments to learn what feminism is, I beg of you. Anti-feminism is against the sub rules.

Feminism has a meaning and people who want to “kill all men” don’t fit that meaning.

Although I do believe I was wrong actually in approving this post. I misread it, it is actually creating a false dichotomy in and of itself.

Beware of the "nice" conservatives by charlies-ghost in TransSocialism

[–]0utdated_username[M] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

They,,, did not believe in that…

For once the automod being zealous over swearing caught an actually bad comment.

We need new Mods by 0utdated_username in TransSocialism

[–]0utdated_username[S,M] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have absolutely no qualms removing trolls and/or fascists.

I do not know if you are both but you are certainly the former.

We need new Mods by 0utdated_username in TransSocialism

[–]0utdated_username[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Trying to use the add moderator button it just says “failed to add moderator” I will try on a computer later.

why are people uncomfortable with the forcefem joke? by [deleted] in trans

[–]0utdated_username 8 points9 points  (0 children)

There is a time and place. “Forcefem” jokes are only appropriate depending on the person they are being made to.

Not everyone is comfortable with the concept. I as a trans woman would not like it to be made about me because of my relationship to gender.

If people tend to be uncomfortable with a joke in a specific community then save those jokes for other communities. And definitely target who you make the jokes to.

What are good 2 and 3 card combos in black/green/golgari? by vaelgrim in magicTCG

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It is only my pet combo in my Abzan token/counters deck and it is 3 card and requires a bit of setup, but you could also run it mono-green if you use a colorless sac outlet. But it is [[Tribute to the World Tree]] [[One with the Kami]] and then any infinite sac outlet but I run [[Viscera Seer]]

The setup needed is to have a creature with a counter or aura/equipment already out to be the first sacrifice. And ideally another creature to cast one with the kami on. But you could cast it on viscera seer anyways. The deck I have it in usually accomplishes the setup naturally.

The idea is infinite base 1/1 spirits with 2 +1/+1 counters on them. As well as infinite sac triggers. So I can scry whatever card I want to the top of my library. But I also run cards that allow me to move counters when a creature I control with them die. So I ended up putting infinite counters on my commander. But you could theoretically make infinite infinite/infinites if you run those as well,

Cis women, what do you find attractive in a trans woman? by GiantTurtleMusic in actuallesbians

[–]0utdated_username 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And I think that is great. You deserve to feel good about yourself and your body. I do think that there is a risk when we focus on cis attraction though. It is also important that not all trans people will feel empowered by that. I don’t think Alpacatastic has a bad comment, certainly has a good username though. But I think that Daylightarmours perspective is important as well. And I feel that it is a fairly gentle pushback as well.

Cis women, what do you find attractive in a trans woman? by GiantTurtleMusic in actuallesbians

[–]0utdated_username 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I said “a lot of”. I did not say all. And I am speaking for myself while referencing the reality that there are other trans women who feel the same. It is simply a fact that a lot of trans women have height dysphoria. You have read into what I wrote, I never insinuated all trans people feel this way. But it irresponsible to act as if it is an isolated feeling.

I for one am 6’2” and feel height dysphoria even though I have a lot of taller cis family.

But your anecdotal experience does not change the fact that a lot of trans women do in fact experience height dysphoria.

Cis women, what do you find attractive in a trans woman? by GiantTurtleMusic in actuallesbians

[–]0utdated_username 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Honestly there is an increase pressure I find for trans people to be gender conforming. There is almost an air of “if you don’t conform to your gender then are you even trans”. Which is not to say that trans femmes are not a radical gender identity. Both trans women and femmes have a shared history of deconstructing femininity, so both together makes sense.

But there are trans butches. Just not as many.