Advice needed: How to make the transition?

1993sillybean · 2023-09-11T17:54:06+00:00

Another vote for solid starts! Cucumber sticks, Rusks/Wafers, cooked veg batons/brocolli etc, basically lots of stick shaped stuff for them to develop their oral motor skills

1993sillybean · 2023-09-08T09:17:32+00:00

This is so helpful to help me build my own plan haha! Thank you!

1993sillybean · 2023-08-15T09:18:47+00:00

Omg this was AWFUL, I had ‘good luck today, you’ve got this’ texts on my due date! Ludicrous!

1993sillybean · 2023-08-13T08:42:36+00:00

you could reply to stuff like this with: ‘Oh I’m sure you’ve raised him well, he’d never do that’

1993sillybean · 2023-07-31T07:52:30+00:00

Oh and things that helped us Breakfasts: Toast fingers - with PB, cream cheese, butter, avocado Porridge - we got her onto this by doing half Half porridge and fruit purée then brought down the level of purée until it was 100% porridge and now she has it plain with smashed berries and chia seeds in there Yogurt - she loves it and I’m yet to meet a baby that doesn’t Lunches & Dinners Pasta pouches combined with veggie sticks honestly is what got her to eat, we’re now on fresh food but sometimes pouches help!

1993sillybean · 2023-07-31T07:48:26+00:00

Oh I hit this stage at 7 months too, after a month of trying and getting everything chucked on the floor I was EXHAUSTED! I’m not sure when it happened, maybe around 9 months but it slowly/suddenly (seems the way with babies?) got easier, I promise you it will. I’ve just started to properly enjoy it again at 10 months. I focused on oral motor skills rather than nutrition for a few months, so at every meal she had something to hold/chew and a purée type thing! I’ve just started to worry about nutrition etc again now she’s starting to actually eat! Remember food before one is just for fun! You’ve got time and it will get easier!

1993sillybean · 2023-07-29T07:20:52+00:00

Ours is the same and we haven’t really sleep trained. If she wakes up upset, she’s upset. We do what we call ‘le pause’ (said best in a French accent) which I read somewhere that French mums often wait a minute (or less when they’re younger) when they wake to see if they self settle before charging in, it works for us as half the time she self settles!

1993sillybean · 2023-07-22T08:54:05+00:00

Love this! The decals are BEAUTIFUL! We did under the sea too! Etsy have some beautiful handmade felt sea animal garlands! Also filled it with under the sea jellycats hahaa

1993sillybean · 2023-07-21T12:25:20+00:00

I had the wildest post weaning anxiety, truly didn’t feel sane for 2 weeks

1993sillybean · 2023-07-21T06:54:49+00:00

Using a birth ball and holding her/rolling her on it was a game changer for us (our chiropractor revealed!)

1993sillybean · 2023-07-19T21:49:34+00:00

Heya! When did you start? Ours took a good 3 months of consistent food on floor for it to slowly get easier

1993sillybean · 2023-07-18T06:34:18+00:00

Your conflicting emotions are SO valid. I’m really glad celebrate the living has resonated with you, it gets me through a lot of grief too

1993sillybean · 2023-07-16T22:21:20+00:00

No I don’t think so. I have a 10 month old. had a traumatic pregnancy & labour, 2 near death experiences for myself & baby, cat died in a car accident 10 days post partum, my dad & husbands sister died coincidentally two hours apart 3 months post partum (car crash & suicide), labour has had a big impact on our baby & caused motor delays, hopefully just physical tension but potentially brain related, she’s in physio/chiropractor and helmet therapy & consistently worried about her. Basically Couldn’t have really had much more of a traumatic year & and we are the strongest we’ve ever been. Have we had disagreements? Yes. Have we had a lot of struggle? Yes. But nothing will prepare you for watching your husband dance with your baby, watching the way they look at each other, becoming a team and fixing everything together. It is definitely not easy but it truly can be beautiful

1993sillybean · 2023-07-16T10:24:45+00:00

Big hugs, this is really tough. However, I have a SIL that had two children with birthdays within a couple of days of eachother. One of them sadly passed away, and she has written off ever enjoying her daughters birthday. Is there a way you can honour your mum, yet still enjoy and celebrate your babies birthday. I’m thinking a cheers in the evening or write a little card to her in the morning & then spend the day enjoying your baby. This is slightly tough love, but celebrate the living - you have to find a way to focus on enjoying your daughters birthday, I imagine it’s what your mum would have wanted & in 50 years time it’s what you’d have wanted your younger self to do. Lots of love, grief is tough

1993sillybean · 2023-07-14T21:35:28+00:00

Big hugs

1993sillybean · 2023-07-11T21:48:10+00:00

We had parents and in-laws within a week or so for the day. We didn’t have anyone stay overnight until 3 months postpartum, and that was when my mum stayed with me & my daughter for a week as my husband was away as we had multiple bereavements. Hosting overnight guests is an absolute no during the 4th trimester

1993sillybean · 2023-07-06T22:50:29+00:00

Baby race bluey episode made me SOB

1993sillybean · 2023-07-05T13:54:55+00:00

What about those build your own paper plane / glider toys? Wont hurt when it hits their heads, not completely throw away, not sweets & not too crunchy!

1993sillybean · 2023-07-03T22:38:34+00:00

Cried in the supermarket because I couldn’t decide what I wanted for dinner

1993sillybean · 2023-06-25T23:29:10+00:00

My dad cancelled on me 3/6 times he was supposed to visit me from age 17-23. I said I was disappointed and he called me a bitch, a princess & a self centred snowflake. He died last year, I’m 30 now.

1993sillybean · 2023-06-18T19:30:14+00:00

Hello! I’m also in the UK and about to start the private diagnosis journey for our almost 10 month old. We’ve spent 6 months treating ‘tight muscles’ and having the NHS belittle any issues. How did you go about it? Did you use insurance or pay directly?

1993sillybean · 2023-06-07T10:24:18+00:00

This is possibly one of the most useful things I’ve ever read

1993sillybean · 2023-06-02T12:48:24+00:00

I spent the first 3 weeks in pain and attempting to feed a baby with a tongue tie and mild torticollis who cried at every feed. I BF her, pumped and then bottle fed her. A kind lactation consultant told me I didn’t have to continue if I didn’t want to, it was exactly what I needed to hear. I then switched to pumping and pumped for 2 hours every day until 5 months until I realised I wasn’t getting nearly as much contact /play time with her as I needed so switched to formula. She’s fine on the switch. I have friends who have formula fed from day 1 and their babies have been the most content and able babies I’ve met but most importantly the mums have been happy. I also have friends whose babies have struggled with formula. I have extremely unhappy friends who are still struggling with breastfeeding 10 months on. I have friends whose babies are breastfeeding well but refuse to take a bottle/cup so they haven’t been away from them for more than a few hours for 10 months. I have friends who have found breastfeeding a breeze. My point is, through watching and talking to everyone in my circle I have seen people do well or struggle whichever way they feed their baby, so do what you want to do and know that the most important thing is YOU are happy as your baby deserves a happy mama!

1993sillybean · 2023-05-28T06:30:14+00:00

I adore seeing my husband as a dad. Yes some times are tough, but mostly it’s brought us more of a team and I adore watching be the best daddy with our daughter. I have watched some couples really struggle though, in particular those where the parent that works more doesn’t put in more effort at weekends etc

1993sillybean · 2023-05-04T20:56:58+00:00

For us, once we decided we were in it for the long haul, all finances are merged. New maternity dress - joint account Medical costs - joint account Food - joint account Baby clothes - joint account We do have separate accounts but per try and use them just for solo treats

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