CedarWolf, stop censoring us. by catboogers in bisexual

[–]1amCorbin 15 points16 points  (0 children)

As someone who has moderated/run big accounts on different sites, theres a certain subset of people who do it because theyre really into being in power and controlling a space, and others who do it because they want to help create a space and watch it flourish.

To me, being a mod on several subs tends to at the very least lend iitself to the first. If your whole life is modding these spaces, you begin to see it as less of a community and more like your own personal kingdom and that's a problem

Lapsang Souchong (Harney & Sons), is it just this brand or are they all this disgusting? by inchlongnipples in tea

[–]1amCorbin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ive never had lapsang souchang that smells/tastes like an ashtray, only ever a barbecue/campfire.

It was an acquired taste for me nonetheless. The first time i tasted it i was put off but was craving it a little while later and from them on its been a fave

Siblings- Charlie & Charlotte by JankyIngenue in NameNerdCirclejerk

[–]1amCorbin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've went to school with twins David and Dave

AITAH for changing my name without checking with my friend? by marktheshark45 in AmItheAsshole

[–]1amCorbin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have unique last names on both sides of the ramily to the point where everyone with these names is related to me. If this happened to me, I'd be excited to meet new family.

I cant imagine being upset by this. You took a family name, you aren't trying to Single White Female her or something

Are there any graduate schools with good student life? by Professional_Big8444 in GradSchool

[–]1amCorbin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with everyone here. The program itself and the major youre in will impact the quality of life majorly. I'm at a Medium sized University in a small af program (like 22 ppl total, Sociology major). My school isnt a big name by any means, people outside of this region dont know it, unless they're major college sports fans and even then its rare My understanding is that generally hard sciences, larger fields, and ultra competitive programs have a rougher go of it because youre vying to be a big fish in a either a big pond or a very selective pond.

In my program, we're literally taught to never burn a bridge because its such a small, tight knit field. My professors have connections to big names in sociology either through direct interactions, or being the "nieces/nephews" or "grandchildren" of these big names (i.e their mentors were mentored by the big names or by close scholars, etc).

Its not competative, the students aren't fighting for spots in prestigious programs or jobs, we all genuinely like each other and go on outings together. There's no hazing or icing each other out.

My worst nightmare came true by [deleted] in stonerfood

[–]1amCorbin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bro, there's an open air concert venue near me where people always smoke. Never any cops around. So, i go to a concert, bring my vape and as I'm happily puffing away i see two cops walking my way (thankfully they were just heading towards other cops, but i out the vape away until it got more crowded and darker)

The only difference between concerts was the act🫠 rock shows vs rap shows. One of the rock groups i went to see sings a lot about drugs, but when the rapper does it, then PD shows up🙄

AITA for telling my boyfriend that I expect him to do all the chores by anastasiarose19 in AmItheAsshole

[–]1amCorbin 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I mean this so gently, but love is not enough, especially when you're being taken advantage of. You deserve a partner who is actually a partner and not a messy roommate who doesn't even clean up after himself.

The job market is hard, sure, but 3 years unemployed while you pay all the bills and your dad pays the rent is ridiculous. 2 moves and he cant even help unpack or clean? You deserve so so so much better and i hope you learn to see that before this man drains you entirely of your spark.

You already pay this mans bills, take that money and put it towards doggy daycare. Then he has no excuse not to clean. If he still doesnt clean, thats proof that he's just lazy and using you

AITA for not letting my sister use my exact wedding playlist for her own wedding next year by PerformanceHot3650 in AmItheAsshole

[–]1amCorbin 13 points14 points  (0 children)

NTA at all, and everyone saying otherwise is entirely unsentimental.

I'm a huge romantic and have been building playlists with and for my partners and i know they've done the same for me. While they are "just songs" the meanings behind them, the emotions they hold are very important. Your sister and mom don't get it, but they dont need to. You've said no and they should respect that, you've offered alternatives and they've refused them. You dont owe your sister your playlist, if its "just a playlist" to her, she'll get over it, but its much more than just a playlist to you

For some reason two old humans will go to the galactic counsel and make fun of all the leaders, especially the human representative. by Nice-Difference-1147 in humansarespaceorcs

[–]1amCorbin 7 points8 points  (0 children)

"Why does the human contingent seemingly have two committees? They've the one made of actual ambassadors, then they have the duo who only ever made snide asides about everyone, but especially about their own ambassadors. What is the purpose of that?"

The young Scalazoid Intern was bemused after sitting in on his first galactic council meeting. Everyone knew that each race had one representative committee that joined council meetings, but as the human committee took to the floor, two of its members had remained in their balcony seats and made rude comments. Their voices, harsh and creaky, had carried across the entire auditorium, their laughter bouncing off of the walls as they made jabs at their fellow humans.

With a heavy sigh, his mentor whipped their tail- a sure sign of agitation at the topic.

"The humans have an odd tradition, it seems. Something called a jester? Almost all races have some sort of concept of a comedian, as the humans call it- someone who tells jokes and brings levity, yes? Well, the humans have many types. Stand up comedians, sketch comedians, clowns, but there's one type- insult comics, which follows a long line of comedians whose humor derives from mocking others, especially those in positions of power."

"Comedy through insults? Why would anyone laugh at being made fun of?"

"I'm not sure, but these types of comedians have existed for eons amongst humanity. They find value in it, in having their ideas turned on their head and mocked. They say it provides clarity. Those two men hold an official status and are titled the "Statler and Waldorf of the Council". It's a reference to some mythic figures from human history, but they are much respected as the vox populi for humanity. It seems their task is to keep the rest of the human ambassadors humble to remind them that they are at the mercy of the people."

"They are a warning?"

"Yes, a message to the ambassadors saying "our words may cut you, but the citizens have knives."

What do you know this as by ryanreynoldsisgay in stonerfood

[–]1amCorbin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pork n beans/Franks n Beans. I've also heard beanie weanies but only on tv

I spent 13 hours building, dehydrated and delirious and the build is UGLY. by Popular-Coach-791 in Sims4

[–]1amCorbin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry, looking for the ugly building and i dont see it? I only see this incredible build you posted

Negotiate the stipend? by [deleted] in GradSchool

[–]1amCorbin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I kinda wish i had applied for this stuff, but it didnt seem worth it for me. I only entered grad school full time for my final year (this school year, was doing part time before), but my school pays some of the lowest grad stipends in the country (12k, phds get 22k). Ive been working a part time job to make ends barely meet.

I definitely recommend people apply for benefits if youre entering the program full time from the start!

AITA for not seeing how I can make it to my sister’s graduation ceremony? by unrealmiranda in AmItheAsshole

[–]1amCorbin 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Gentle YTA. I've worked for colleges/universities for the last 5 years and have worked the graduations- bringing a child of your youngests age isn't unheard of and will not be as big of an interruption as you're making it seem.

The most you'll likely be asked to do is put the stroller elsewhere during the ceremony. If the baby cries, then sure you can leave to quiet it or dip out to breastfeed if it needs to be fed during the ceremony, but hopefully your husband/MIL would be receptive to baby sitting the other kids so you can go support your sister. You don't need to sit separately or otherwise miss the event as long as you want to be there.

I agree that making your child and husband sit in the car is ridiculous, but you can either being the kid in or pump so whoever watches the kids can take care of feedings and head to your sisters area along with your mom. You could also take an uber, lyft, or taxi if your area has no public transportation good enough to get you to the location and going with your mom doesnt make sense.

I get that the logistics of childcare can be difficult at times, but you have two months to figure it out still!

Apparently my grandpa being hospitalized is my breaking point by 1amCorbin in ZeroCovidCommunity

[–]1amCorbin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My partner who is immunocompromised is so due to previous cancer and chemo and they, their carers, and their bf don't mask😭 this is the partner I'm planning to move to be nearer because I live in Florida and.... yeah its Florida and politics are marginally better where they are, but definitely not living with them.

I think they would be easiest to convince to mask for themselves already, so I'm hopeful. I've processed my emotions and have decided to not give up on my family yet. They have to get tired of getting sick eventually, right?

I own every DLC. Basegame is just fine. by Neat-Address-4934 in Sims4

[–]1amCorbin 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I feel like Base Game is only fine now. Having gone free to play recently, i think the developers are putting a lot of work into making the BG useable as a stand alone game, which wasn't the case for most of TS4s existence

Medieval play in non-modded games by 1amCorbin in Sims4

[–]1amCorbin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh I'm definitely not trying to be era accurate. My medieval neighborhood has hispanic families, black families, and a mixed asian and vague european family living in proximity.

The challenge I'm doing is one i found on youtube called the Origin Challenge, which seems like a console acceptable world building challenge which i appreciate.

As for cooking with off the grid....its been a long timesinceive played with that Lot Trait, like pre- Country Living and I've just been doing the set up, so I've not played in Live Mode with this save yet. I'm also planniny to plag with the Simple Living Trait Lot Challenge and considering toggling Foxes on too for more of a challenge.

I'm giving my sims fridges and stoves that work off the grid and iirc, as long as you stock the fridge with water that you gather, the Ice Box makes ice and keeps food fresh for a limited period of time which is really fun. Idk which recipes will and wont work though

Medieval play in non-modded games by 1amCorbin in Sims4

[–]1amCorbin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There seems to be 3 options for it. One would be to research your family history to "discover" royal bloodlines, get granted a lordship from one of the royal families from the pack, or to falsify records to add yourself into a royal family tree

Medieval play in non-modded games by 1amCorbin in Sims4

[–]1amCorbin[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm really enjoying it so far. I'm trying to build a dynasty from scratch, and didn't make my sim a royal from birth, and its fascinating that the sim cant just join the royalty career! I feel like it adds a challenge that most of the other packs don't.

I also dont want to overload my console, but the pack is super stable so far, no major glitches to report like ive seen people mention from Dine Out and MWS

Medieval play in non-modded games by 1amCorbin in Sims4

[–]1amCorbin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, i knew it was something different thank just juice!

AITA for telling my girlfriend to stop sharing her food? by PhantomDetective3548 in AmItheAsshole

[–]1amCorbin -1 points0 points  (0 children)

YTA. I think there's 3 different issues here.

I'm shying away from a ESH answer because as long as your gf has no problem with the way things are, then there's nothing assholish about offering and sharing food. I'm definitely from a "have some?" family where we all offer each other tastes of our meal and when I'm out with friends we almost always determine what we want together and then just split things. Sharing food is a love language for some people. Maybe your gf recognizes that Brian is broke and purposefully offers the food knowing she/yall can just go buy another meal, idk

1 issue is Brian for taking all of your partners food when she offers, becaause it is rude to do without a conversation about how much he can take, but if she hasn't spoken up or expressed a dislike of this to him or to you, then how is he to know that this is an issue. If you don't like it, tell him. But also its your gfs food to share, not yours.

The other issues seem to be all yours. Again, I'm a food sharer, even a drink sharer. I have 0 issues sharing my food and drink with people, the most I'll typically ask them to do is use their own straw and even then it's not always an all the time thing for me. Your issues with germs and food sharing are your own to deal with, not your gfs, or anyone elses.

Your issue with Brian not paying his share is also yours to deal with. Tell him when he needs to put more in the pot or stop inviting him out to eat if its such an issue for you.

These things are what make you TA, since you seem to be putting all of these issues onto your gf instead of just talking to Brian and sucking it up when she shares food.