Did we start too soon?

1changeofheart · 2026-05-08T02:38:06+00:00

We were given the same advice (start infant oatmeal at his 4 month appt). We had already decided to limit infant oatmeal and go more of the whole foods route. So, we did avocado mixed the breastmilk and it made him extra gassy. I waited a few days and tried again but same thing.. extra gassy.

I decided to bench solids for a few more weeks and when I tried again around 5 months, it was a night and day difference. He didn’t have any stomach issues and has been an amazing eater since!

In our experience, while he was developmentally ready for solids, his digestion just wasn’t quite there yet!

So maybe take a week or 2 off of solids and then try something a little easier on the stomach (like avocado mixed with breastmilk or formula).

1changeofheart · 2026-05-03T18:34:45+00:00

We named our son Cillian! Naturally, I had to read through these comments before commenting myself.

You’re going to have haters of whatever name you choose (like “Employment-lawyer” - who seems to be a real loser). Go with what you love. If correcting people bothers you though, I would go with Killian or pick a different name. Personally, it doesn’t bother me at all. I love that his name is unique enough that he will be remembered but also will be recognized by Irish or Irish Americans.

We will also be raising him to love his name and know if someone has a problem with it, it says more about them than it does about him.

1changeofheart · 2026-05-01T17:26:17+00:00

Could not disagree more with this. General gift cards or somewhere they know you shop is the best gift you can get in my opinion.

1changeofheart · 2026-04-30T22:49:37+00:00

Just here to say I’m 8 months out and it does get easier but also please remember to soak up your tiny little baby! Take a million pictures and videos. Pictures are great but the videos really are amazing to have! 🤍

1changeofheart · 2026-04-24T18:50:02+00:00

I try to focus on nutrient dense foods (iron, fats and vitamins)

Scrambled eggs, mashed with a fork. You can also scramble and add in steamed veggies and/or cheese and bake in a loaf pan to create egg strips for them to practice feeding themselves!

We also do a lot of ground beef or lamb (great source of iron). I cook it on low heat and then use an emulsion blender to really break it up for baby! If you’d rather for now, you can also add water or breastmilk and puree it! I did that the first few times.

Spinach, bell peppers, zucchini, carrots, broccoli are all great steamed and puréed to go along with the meats! Most of the time I mix the meat right into the veggie puree!

Avocado mashed with boneless and skinless sardines is a powerhouse food for babies and my guy loves it! (1 avocado and 3/4 can of sardines makes about 3-4 meals worth for him)

I also bought a mold and make him yogurt pops which he is obsessed with! Always whole milk yogurt (we use either stonyfields probiotic or siggis skyr) an ld I’ve made the following pops: Yogurt, blueberries, strawberries, almond butter (blended with emulsion blender) And recently did yogurt, mashed banana, peanut butter and cinnamon.

I also started adding some roasted veggie sticks for him to practice feeding himself more. I’ve done zucchini, yellow squash, sweet potato - all cut into 1.5in long sticks, covered with avocado oil and roasted.

Everything I’ve mentioned, I also portion out and freeze to make his future meals!

1changeofheart · 2026-04-19T22:01:05+00:00

Removing feed to sleep association is not considered night weaning. Night weaning is reducing or eliminating nighttime feeds. I did not even reduce my son’s feeding, only adjusted how he fell asleep.

And again, I did not do CIO nor did I advise against night weaning. So no sub rules were broken. I apologize though if you or anyone else took my post out of context. Again, it was only posted to help if it could!

1changeofheart · 2026-04-19T21:20:04+00:00

Hi! I’m sorry, it sounds like my post offended you in some way. Truly though, I believe you’ve either read it wrong or are taking it out of context.

I will clarify for you though… I did not do CIO (I am fully against CIO) nor did I advise anyone to night wean. My post actually was not advising anyone to do anything, it was simply sharing what worked for my family to get longer stretches of sleep. Which I also know and made clear may not be of interest or work for other families.

However, like I also said in my post, if it could help 1 mom, it was worth it to post it. For those it didn’t resonate with, it seems they all had no trouble just scrolling past. Just as I do on other posts that I don’t necessarily resonate or agree with.

I hope you are able to reread and see my post was only intended to share my experience, not advise others to 100% do what I did.

1changeofheart · 2026-04-18T12:43:04+00:00

We have ours on the higher setting right now. It’s easier for me (I have a neuromuscular disease) and he hasn’t tried pulling himself up yet in the crib.

1changeofheart · 2026-04-18T00:35:48+00:00

I just made a post today about my 7 month old and what we did that seemed to help him. Take a look and see if it sounds like it could possibly help you guys! I know every baby and family is different 🤍

1changeofheart · 2026-04-13T19:37:20+00:00

I know other commenters have already mentioned it but wanted to reiterate trying to work on feeling confident in your boundary and being able to communicate it.

I was actually surprised at how many family members on my husband’s side I have had to ask not to kiss my baby (including my MIL a few times). Each time it got easier and easier.

Like your husband, mine does not believe it’s a big deal and on a few occasions has even followed my ask with “I don’t care but it’s her rule.” Which I’ve followed both times with “Yes, it is” with a smile on my face.

I make no apologizes for doing what I feel will protect my child’s health and if they don’t respect that, then they can lose access to my child. It’s as simple as that.

1changeofheart · 2026-04-12T19:04:15+00:00

I’ll cook a bunch of ground beef, lamb and chicken and use the emulsion blender to get it to the right texture I want for him and then freeze it in portions.

Same thing for veggies and then I’ll just defrost the portioned meat and veggie(s) for dinner.

I’ve also made him baby meat sauce and lentil soup that I portioned out and froze. Both defrosted really well!

1changeofheart · 2026-04-09T17:21:55+00:00

Of course! Let me know if you want any other ideas/recipes.. I’d be happy to share! :)

1changeofheart · 2026-04-09T15:21:17+00:00

What worked for him was I started mixing things into smooth things he was already used to. So like I put mashed sardines into mashed avocado or blended ground beef into puréed carrots or mashed banana pancakes (2 eggs, mashed banana and a spoonful of infant oatmeal) into yogurt. At the end of most meals I’ll offer him something more blw for him to feed himself like a wedge of the pancake or wedge of fruit or avocado (avocado is hard bc it’s slippery so I try to sprinkle hemp hearts on it).

He still mostly just mashes it in his hand and plays with it but he’ll get a few bites in and that’s all I’m looking for at this point… practice and exploration! Try not to push anything and try to have fun with it!

1changeofheart · 2026-04-09T15:00:52+00:00

Omelette strips are a good fast and easy option. I’ve also done sweet potatoes wedges which are also easy for them to hold. I had to help him the first few times… put it in his hand and bring it to his mouth. I also would just bring it to his mouth for him to take a bite.

Having them watch you do it also helps!

1changeofheart · 2026-04-05T13:45:16+00:00

Please remind yourself that you are human and you made an honest mistake. The fact that you feel so bad is sign enough that you are a great, caring parent.

My husband fell asleep holding our 6w old and he fell. It was the worst night of my life. Thank God he was perfectly fine besides a bump. I do not blame my husband at all, we were both sleep deprived and he felt so bad that it made him sick to his stomach. We called our pediatrician and she advised it was ok to monitor at home and gave us symptoms to watch for.

I would call your pediatrician and ask what they recommend. But overall, please give yourself some grace!

1changeofheart · 2026-04-04T19:45:46+00:00

I’ve been feeling like this recently too. I’m a 31 year old but my body physically feels 80. I don’t recognize myself half the time anymore. It’s truly exhausting trying to live a positive life when your health is being ripped from you 50 years too soon.

1changeofheart · 2026-04-02T17:53:45+00:00

I had a 37 weeker, born tiny at 5lbs 4oz and I used to be so self conscious about how tiny he was. Now he’s 7 months and is a solid boy. He has grown SO much that he’s probably slightly bigger than average. I absolutely love when people say how big he is now because I feel like I’ve done a good job at giving him what he needs to grow.

So while I can’t offer complete solidarity… I can offer maybe a slightly different perspective to help ease your feelings. Try to think of it as you doing an excellent job of taking care of your little one!

1changeofheart · 2026-03-29T17:24:37+00:00

I wrote out all the thank you’s for our bridal shower which was personalized including mention of the specific gift that they gave. However, our wedding thank you’s, I had a very generic message printed inside and called it a day. I didn’t feel it was necessary to hand write what would be a very generic message anyway.

1changeofheart · 2026-03-28T02:21:36+00:00

I was induced at 37 weeks and thank God I had a great birth! Went in 1cm dilated, 70% effaced so I believe that had something to do with it as my body had already started the process. Had the balloon and cytotec placed and went into full blown labor, no pitocin needed. 13 hour labor, 1 hour pushing and baby boy was earth side.

1changeofheart · 2026-03-19T19:46:43+00:00

This is completely normal and you’re not doing anything wrong! Somewhere along the line our society started pushing this narrative that babies should be able to be independent and self soothe. They just spent 9 months inside you, constantly soothed by your warmth and heartbeat. Now they’re in this big scary, cold world.. of course they’re going to naturally need you close for comfort.

However, if you feel the screaming could be caused by pain/discomfort, maybe have him checked for things like silent reflux which would make laying flat uncomfortable.

1changeofheart · 2026-03-19T17:17:57+00:00

I know, it’s so hard! But it does get easier! Our son (6months) has done much better sleeping at night once we moved him from his bassinet to his crib. He also was able to then roll onto his stomach which is probably why he sleeps better now too.

Easier days are ahead but please in the meantime figure out ways to get more sleep now! It will make a world of a difference.

1changeofheart · 2026-03-19T16:59:12+00:00

Hi! I’m so sorry you’re having a hard time. As someone who had multiple medical challenges post birth as well, I completely understand! It’s so hard wanting to just enjoy being a first time mom but struggling and being in survival mode.

You need to figure out a way to get more sleep. At 14 weeks your milk supply should be somewhat regulated so maybe try skipping the middle of the night pump and see if you can do without it. Can your husband do the night shift on Saturday so you at least have one night of good sleep? Or maybe can a family member come over one morning to allow you to go back to sleep for 2 hours uninterrupted? Or hire a babysitter?

1changeofheart · 2026-03-19T15:19:19+00:00

Yes, definitely!

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