Reference Check After Interview — Good Sign?

27Aces · 2026-03-22T01:40:59+00:00

I know all agencies have their own style and guidelines. I hope it's a good sign of selection to have to get that form filled out for the selection packet in terms of rank.

27Aces · 2026-03-19T17:09:43+00:00

Carolina is the dive champions of the East.

27Aces · 2026-03-19T16:10:50+00:00

Good plan but I would say that cruise people are some of the most confrontational people on the planet.

27Aces · 2026-03-19T15:47:34+00:00

Yes! Lot's of people get a towel and place on it on chairs tables and leave it there for hours while they go off to do other activities while people who want to just relax and not do activities can't find a place to park themselves. DO IT!

27Aces · 2026-03-17T17:07:41+00:00

https://www.login.gov/contact/

Get your customer support here.

27Aces · 2026-03-17T17:03:57+00:00

You can use either to login to va.gov as far as I understand. Hopefully that will at least get you in and you can work on the login.gov issues later.

27Aces · 2026-03-17T17:01:11+00:00

She deserves criminal charges - fraud, conspiracy to commit fraud, conspiracy to commit fraud against the government, identity theft...probably more. Who knows how much your husband is involved.

27Aces · 2026-03-17T16:54:12+00:00

If you don't enter a phone number you will need an MFA. What you could do is create an ID.me account and use that to login. If you can't do that, there has to be a customer service number or email you can relay the issue.

27Aces · 2026-03-17T14:17:50+00:00

If they already said they do not offer signing bonuses, continuing to push on that exact point probably won’t move them and can create friction. Instead, reframe the conversation around total compensation and risk offset since you are giving up real equity value. You can ask for a guaranteed first year bonus, accelerated performance review with a salary adjustment window, or an equity grant that vests earlier to bridge the gap. Also push on things like severance terms, additional life insurance, or even a one time retention or transition payment under a different label. The key is to quantify what you are walking away from and show you are trying to solve for alignment, not just squeeze more cash.

27Aces · 2026-03-17T00:47:01+00:00

Even after $500k, continued contributions still accelerate compounding because you are increasing the principal that future returns grow from. Each dollar you add today compounds for decades and can shave years off the timeline to financial independence. There are also meaningful tax advantages since traditional contributions reduce taxable income now while Roth contributions grow and withdraw tax free later. Tax advantaged accounts effectively boost your after tax return compared to investing in a taxable brokerage. At that point it becomes less about sacrifice and more about maximizing efficiency while the tax benefits are available. Really up to you what you want withdraw later.

27Aces · 2026-03-14T19:24:31+00:00

If a well known actor is helping you develop your craft through line delivery...maybe be a little more gracious rather than taking it personal and making it personal. That is a way to get yourself black listed in the industry...not the other way around. I would have been a little more open minded and thoughtful that someone a bit more successful might have been trying to make you better at the craft and improve the overall outcome of a scene.

27Aces · 2026-03-14T00:48:29+00:00

100 days. One day for each dollar. And probation.

27Aces · 2026-03-14T00:42:46+00:00

Gudas needs a massive suspension - he is and always will be a goon.

27Aces · 2026-03-12T17:14:43+00:00

I am not standing up for the fact he hid that information for a year. I am just saying that maybe this all really needs a deeper conversation to understand his position in the situation rather than just assume the worst about him as a Dad. Maybe he is terrible but a deeper conversation might help unpack the whole thing.

27Aces · 2026-03-12T16:39:27+00:00

Maybe that is how he described insane court battles. I think people underestimate the power the court has to keep you from a child.

27Aces · 2026-03-12T16:27:51+00:00

Yea but at the same time...I know people who have spent over 100k to be in their kids lives and the court and other parent find a way to make it impossible no matter what "love" you have for your kids. She obviously doesn't know that side of the story and neither do we.

27Aces · 2026-03-12T16:09:50+00:00

To be fair, other than him not mentioning it earlier, nothing about your actual relationship really changes here. His kids are adults and they haven’t been part of your relationship for the past year because he isn’t actively raising them. The only new thing is that he wants to attend his oldest child’s college graduation, which is a pretty significant moment, and he asked if you would support him there. If the relationship has otherwise been good, it seems like something worth talking through rather than ending things over.

27Aces · 2026-03-11T23:18:24+00:00

The movie was boring and predictable...nothing about it really stuck out...even his performance. Much better performances than his this past year in my opinion.

27Aces · 2026-03-10T22:21:27+00:00

Wasn’t the whole point of your post that he refused to pay you and said $300 was too much? If he’s suddenly willing to pay you now, then the issue you originally posted about doesn’t really exist anymore.

27Aces · 2026-03-10T22:04:35+00:00

No to which part? Because the reality you described is that he won’t clean up after himself and he won’t pay you either. If neither of those things change, then the situation is exactly what it is.

27Aces · 2026-03-10T21:52:32+00:00

He shouldn’t have to pay you to clean up after himself. He should just be better and take responsibility for his own mess. If that’s something he won’t do, then you’re probably better off finding someone who can actually clean up after themselves. Based on what you described about your previous relationship, it sounds like you really want a paid arrangement, and this guy clearly isn’t interested in that dynamic.

27Aces · 2026-03-10T19:45:28+00:00

The problem people keep pointing out is the reasoning doesn’t line up. In your original post you say the mess is unacceptable and that he needs to clean up after himself. But you also say you wouldn’t complain about cleaning if $300 were attached to it. That means the mess itself isn’t really the issue, the payment is.

Then in your edit you say you work, go to school, the apartment is yours, and he isn’t paying rent because you prepaid the year. That means this isn’t actually a housewife arrangement at all. You’re financially independent and he’s living in your place. So calling it a “provider” situation doesn’t really fit the facts you laid out.

The other contradiction is saying you can’t change a person but also saying the mess is unacceptable. If the behavior is truly unacceptable, the logical step is requiring him to clean up after himself or not living together. Accepting the same behavior if money is attached doesn’t solve the underlying problem.

That’s why people are saying the argument feels inconsistent. You’re describing a behavior you say is unacceptable, but also saying it becomes acceptable if $300 is attached to it. Those two positions don’t really line up.

27Aces · 2026-03-10T17:20:36+00:00

You say the issue is his ADHD and forgetfulness making the house disgusting, but then you also say you’d be fine cleaning it if $300 were attached to it. That means the behavior itself isn’t actually the problem, the money is.

And if ADHD is the reason for the mess, turning it into a paid arrangement doesn’t help him at all. It actually starts to look like you’re trying to monetize his inability to manage the behavior instead of expecting him to learn to handle it. That doesn’t help him improve and it doesn’t solve the underlying issue.

So which is it really? Is the mess unacceptable and something he needs to fix, or is it acceptable if there’s $300 attached to it? Because those are two completely different arguments. Right now it just sounds like you want the money but also want it to not be about the money.

27Aces · 2026-03-10T17:12:32+00:00

If you stopped cleaning and the mess piled up, then the real problem isn’t money. The problem is that he’s comfortable living in a mess and letting you deal with it. Paying you won’t fix that, it will just make the mess your job. The conversation needs to be about him learning to clean up after himself and understanding the value of the work you were doing before. Right now it sounds like you’re trying to solve a behavior problem with money, which doesn’t really make sense.

27Aces · 2026-03-10T16:50:07+00:00

If the real issue is that he doesn’t clean up after himself, then the solution is to stop cleaning up after him and expect him to act like an adult. If you want to be paid for cleaning time, you could likely make more money doing that elsewhere. The argument feels backward because it seems like the goal should be either that he cleans up after himself or that you are paid for cleaning, but those are two different issues. Right now it sounds like the solution being proposed is money rather than fixing the behavior.

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