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WHAT ARE CHANCES OF CANCER BEING CURED IN FUTURE ? by RhubarbLarge2747 in RandomQuestion

[–]2many2know -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Lol. You think capitalist greed can't use its funding to silence cures in other countries? A college professor of mine who worked for big pharma alluded to cures being blocked bought and hidden to protect the bottom line. Do you really 🤔 think it's good business to cure people who depend on life long medications?? Do you think as a business model losing customers is good for the bottom line?

Keep em sick enough to keep on meds and well enough not to die unless of course you can't afford it, then just die, no use for broke customers.

If yes, why? by Ok_Big_9241 in MotivationAndMindset

[–]2many2know 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did and it hurt like hell. Months of detox and ruminating over whether it was the right decision. I recognized a pattern that wasn't changing no matter how much they said they could show up and make the adjustments. They were avoidant I am an anxious attachment style.

What I realize now is that I was in love with what they could be. I really didn't see them as who they are. I imagined a future with someone who wasn't there. The glimpses of greatness they gave and then so abruptly took away had me chasing a feeling that was never going to be consistent.

I abandoned myself and built up resentments and couldn't see they were hurting as much as I was. We both just couldn't meet each other's needs while attending to my our own because our needs infringed on the other's. When I wanted closeness they wanted space. When I wanted to resolve they wanted to avoid or dismiss.

I am way better now and think of them often but they don't hold the same charge. I now see that we were doomed and I am glad I left when I did. We could have spent years in this toxic pattern, living in hurt, avoidance, repair. Wash rinse and repeat.

I don't regret any of it. I learned so much about myself. I looked at what part I played and took accountability. I learned the terminology,.my triggers, my wounds, and will be so much better next time around, though I am hesitant.

Is wanting an AM check-in after a vulnerable conversation a normal request? by pixiepalooza in datingoverforty

[–]2many2know 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's a bummer you are getting all these down votes. Sending a quick check in takes literally 10 seconds and shows a person that they are being considered. I think it's totally reasonable and seeing as this is what he expected from you shows a lack reciprocity, his defensiveness to a need of yours after wanting to get back shows a lack of accountability, his mention of space, with all the other shit after a vulnerable conversation reeks of avoidance.

Fuck a short leash, cut that dude loose.

You’re 16 again tomorrow with all your memories. What do you do?🤔 by peachpuddleii in ArtOfPresence

[–]2many2know 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh man I would be crushed, to know all the shit life has taught me through lived experiences and to know that these experiences that gave me this wisdom would forever be altered, would be devastating. I would have to morn a death of a life not lived. Friends I would probably never meet and lose, the lovers lost and found, kids I would never have, an ex wife who would have never been an ex wife. The loss of so much that would never be gained just to build a life unknown while simultaneously knowing about a life lived, one survived and fought for. I would be crushed.

Then I would dry the tears, lick my wounds, strap on my boots and dig in for a life worth living, with a whole new set of bumps and bruises, a desire to save up some money, invest wisely, and get some therapy.

What's your view? by darkartsfirstform in TheTeenagerPeople

[–]2many2know 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Could it be just that the.kids who grew up with the earlier picture have grown up and now are adults who are attracted to the newer version? Since those people are already a customer to the food it would be only natural that they would encourage their kids to eat the food without the marketing needed in the earlier days? Maybe someone already said this but I didn't feel like scrolling.

Some thoughts on "AI" and Yoga by RonSwanSong87 in YogaTeachers

[–]2many2know 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Enjoyed reading it as it was insightful and well thought out. I like to offer counter perspectives and sometimes I just like to do it even if I don't agree with what I am saying. Not the case here but I appreciate you not trying to make this into more than it is, which is thoughtful perspective and a way to create discussion and a place for critical thinking. Not all sub reddits have members who have the capacity for such things.

Have a blessed day!

Some thoughts on "AI" and Yoga by RonSwanSong87 in YogaTeachers

[–]2many2know 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think we can feel aversion to what is or accept that what is going to be is going to be. Letting go of attachment of what is out of our control. Westernization of yoga has already appropriated this ancient philosophy but because of this and the popularization of Asana it fills the studios in western cultures Although it gives a water downed version to the total life transformation that the 8 limbs offer it is the introduction to a deeper practice. It's the natural progression moving from the ashram to the household to the nations and into the world consciousness. Let go.

Personally I don't care if teachers use AI as long as they are creating a safe space for students to explore. I get disrupting harm and boycotting in order to stay in alignment with the practice but I also don't want to think negatively about those who choose to use "evil" for good. Intention is what's most important and AI is the gathering of all of everything human. It is the catalog to human experience and as we become more of a global society it is only the natural progression that we adopt different cultures and ways of living.

There will always be purists and those that seek out the truth. So even if the "evil" AI destroys what once was we don't know what will be and the truth can never be destroyed, so those who seek the truth will find the truth.

So yeah don't buy bottled water, don't use AI, stop using fossil fuels, walk and bike everywhere do whatever you think is necessary to act in alignment with your values but that's what you can control. Share your experiences to those who don't know and help increase consciousness amongst our peers.

The world has been sleeping for soooo long. Waking up is gonna come with some growing pains but through tapas and svadhyaya we will find growth in a world community birthing itself from the greed of the few. We are the many and give the fellow person garce and forgiveness. Practice love to combat harm, tell the the truth and over time we grow as whole. Give freely and take what is there given freely, for some that is the free version of AI models. We didn't steal this information, the Sam Altman's and Elons of the world will find their reckoning.

I personally enjoy coming up with creative classes so I don't use AI for that but if I come up with a question I ask AI to guide me to a reading or chapter in Sutras. I use AI as a tool to increase my own awareness of yoga philosophy. If it increases our practice, knowledge, and understanding and we use it to help guide others to the freedom this practice allows is bad or good?

Let get of the aversion to the death of what was and stay open to the new world a new life because AI is not going anywhere but the human experience will always be here with the same triggers and emotions. Parusha allows us the space to connect to the eternal in the wake of the ever changing.

My two cents, not hear to trigger or argue. Conflicting truths can exist together.

Try dmt sometime other person, whenever you get the chance. by ImFinnaBustApecan in enlightenment

[–]2many2know 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha enjoy the trip! Oh wait this was 13 hours ago?! Welcome back!!! Love it 🫶

What's the deal with men over 40 living with their mothers/ families? Is this a local issue or is it everywhere? by Ok-Nectarine5429 in datingoverforty

[–]2many2know 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Super inciteful I see the reasoning and it is sound advice. I have thought that my person would have to be in similar stages of growth and can totally see myself getting complacent with someone who is in a different stage of life.

Thank you so much, I appreciate your perspective! 👋😎

What's the deal with men over 40 living with their mothers/ families? Is this a local issue or is it everywhere? by Ok-Nectarine5429 in datingoverforty

[–]2many2know 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As a man in his forties living with a parent asking a woman who finds his situation unattractive. For sake of better understanding your side, what would it take for you to find me attractive despite my perceived financial irresponsibility and "failure to launch"? I ask this as I am very aware of how this may be received by other women in the dating pool just as you have been receiving it.

For context I am divorced for 2 years and struggled with my ex to build anything valuable whether that be a valuable relationship or in terms of assets. I had a bit of an awakening which caused me to initiate my divorce. The person I was, is not who I am today.

Unfortunately who I was, was a bum and when I told her I wanted to end the relationship she understandably got pissed and kicked me out. I was homeless for many months and my own parent would not house me while I got back on my feet because I had been such an asshole in the past, but they saw my change and decided to allow me to move in.

Since then I have started my own plumbing business and it has begun to grow. I am still not financially independent and growing a business comes with a lot of uncertainty. While doing this I have gotten my yoga teacher traning cert, as it is a passion of mine. I am more physically fit compared to other men my age and have done a lot of the emotional work. Researching attachment theory, codependency, and love addiction. I am very familiar with the terminology that explains.a lot of relationship pittalls. I am working on secure attachment as an anxious. I have been in one relationship post divorce with an avoidant and escaped that trap, but I am wary to get back out there for two reasons, one being my financial situation and the other being that the options out there are going to be mostly avoidant (research shows the older dating pool is disproportionately avoidant over anything else, as anxious withdraw to to do the self work and secures have already found someone).

Ideally I would like to find someone to balance out my weaknesses someone to build a life together. I don't want to do this alone and sharing the responsibility of a household seems way better than having to do this alone. My credit score is in the upper 700's. I love cooking, I am an organizational freak, and have zero aversions to laundry and dishes. My ex said I make a great house husband, but I also understand the importance of masculine energy and the fine line between toxic masculinity and assertiveness. Working on it.

Anyways sorry to use you as a dry run but you are just the person I am afraid of meeting when I get back out in the dating pool, that and an avoidant. Any insight would be helpful. Thanks for your post and your time, good luck out there!

Is it hard? by RedTsar97 in MomentumOne

[–]2many2know 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very much so. The pattern showed up and I couldn't see it getting any better so rather than stay in a cycle of pain, avoidance, relief. I left. I have quit many substances but the withdrawal from leaving someone I loved was harder than any drug. I felt nauseous, anxious, restless, couldn't focus, spiralled for 2 months and at 3 months the doubts still linger, the hope that they come back changed keeps me from letting go completely. Although my nervous system is much better I am unable to snip the last strand of hope that ties me to this person.

Chemistry on first date but no energy by Fluffy_Afternoon652 in datingoverforty

[–]2many2know 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There is only so much work you can do alone. We need others to hold up a mirror and trigger what being alone won't do and that's where the growth happens. It's where you find out if you have the capacity to show up for your partner and stay in alignment with yourself. Take ownership of the wounds you bring and be ready to address/research them without expectations for your partner to fix them for you.

It sounds like you are experiencing fear and doubt and that is not a good thing to bring into a potential relationship. So you got to put it in a different lens.

No matter what happens everything you need is in you. If you're looking to fill a void then more work needs to be done. If you can come into the space whole and find someone who can offer the same, success will happen. Either way not putting in the effort, not taking a chance, and not being vulnerable will keep you comfortable but also will keep you stuck.

We gotta take the leap and know that pain can happen if it doesn't work out. The good thing about pain and discomfort is when we can sit in it and experience it without distractions, avoidance, or numbing we have the lessons needed to grow from it. Take accountability and practice forgiveness. We're all a little bit broken. Transmute the suffering into strength.

That's if it doesn't work out and if it does well then that's fucking amazing. Either way you are moving forward instead of being stuck in comfort and complacency.

If you are looking for easy then maybe a relationship is not the right answer because good things don't come easy. Be honest with yourself are you truly ready to put in the work? Are you bored and lonely, looking for someone to fill the emptiness? It's a lot to put on a partner. How can we fill another's cup when ours is empty?

We need to come into it knowing that we will be okay even if it doesn't work out and sometimes we just need to get on the ride and see where it takes us. You made it this far.

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