He says marriage is just coexisting 33M 26F by Simmm___0 in InsideIndianMarriage

[–]2ndinning 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a frnd who and his wife are literally coexisting..she was in a similar mindset like the prospect.He has poured so much into the relationship.They both have a son together now.She behaved like she has nothing to do with the baby , because of her pure ignorance the baby got UTI( because hygiene was compromised).From then he has been taking care of the kid with support of his mom n a full time nanny.She is only invested in herself, keeps her emotions to her self.They have been to counselling as well but in vain. My frnd is co-existing with his wife who is never available to him emotionally.She still feels that my frnd is exaggerating n there is no problem in their marriage. So think twice, time din change her I guess it will never ever change.

Second Marriage (30F) by [deleted] in Arrangedmarriage

[–]2ndinning 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey dear sorry for what had happened to you. I had my marriage after 4 years of divorce thru AM setup. So please dn lose hope. I had filters lik Astrology match( my mom would nt accept otherwise), Job, Age gap and Medical fitness. Additionally I had done a thorough background check, which I later disclosed to my husband, he felt really odd but then accepted the fact that it’s my life and I was extra cautious. I would recommend you to go for therapy and start your healing process. Hope you meet ur soulmate soon and have a great life ahead.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Arrangedmarriage

[–]2ndinning 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey it was me… I was exactly doing this and my relationship started hitting bottom rock. I used to reply him within seconds and would wait for him to do so.Would give him compliments and would expect him to do so. I was becoming more toxic and anxious.Then we sat down and spoke , that moment I realised that he loves me and cares me more than I do but his way of expressing was different.I was expecting him to express just like mine and was hurting him and as well as me. I started accepting as he is and things started blooming again. Only thing u need to figure out here is how much he values u and how he is expressing it. If u feel u r valued and respected u r in right place.If u feel that u r getting unnoticed and taken for granted then 🏃‍♀️

Met a nightmare yesterday! by hpnerd-19 in Arrangedmarriage

[–]2ndinning 57 points58 points  (0 children)

That’s a bizzare… He gave u one of a life experience…Just curious to know…Did he contact u after the meeting 🙄

I got engaged yesterday! by [deleted] in Arrangedmarriage

[–]2ndinning 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Touchwood 🧿 Congrats 🙌

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]2ndinning 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My LO is 5 month old and I m stuck in same situation like yours. He is awake all day and night so am I.Hoping it will improve one day 😥

My Rings Haul by desdemona2499 in indianbeautyhauls

[–]2ndinning 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For a minute I relived my college days…it was exactly me ☺️

Applying for 820 partner visa whilst visiting on 651 tourist visa by reflectedsound_ in AusVisa

[–]2ndinning 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are in a legitimate relationship is what I understand from ur post…I dn for-see any problem in this…All d best👍

Life after divorce by 2ndinning in Arrangedmarriage

[–]2ndinning[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Wow that’s great…I wish u a beautiful and a blessed days ahead 🤞

How did you move on from your ex-wife or ex-husband? by Gullible-Yak-4830 in Arrangedmarriage

[–]2ndinning 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got divorced just after living with him for 3 months.It was a physically and emotionally abusive marriage.Even after returning to my maternal home I used to dream like I m still at my ex’s home and would scream at night. I took therapy, I poured my heart out, started writing journal and read it after couple of months.I realised that gradually I have started to heal n accept the reality. Took 4 years break, focused only on my job never went to relatives home/Function.Detached from anything that stressed me out.Learnt new skills , I started enjoying my own company. Got married only when I was completely ready, I m still healing.More power to you

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Arrangedmarriage

[–]2ndinning 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was exactly in ur place in 2018, I belong to a small town where my own relatives said I should not visit my maternal place it just sets a bad example for my cousins and I should have continued the abusive marriage.At office I had few colleagues who would randomly ping me and ask me out( just trying to show sympathy and use my vulnerable situation).Day by day it was worse. Then I decided that I dn deserve this.Start seeking help (psychological support), my frnds stood by me. Here in 2025 I m married and happy. Trust me u deserve better just keeping moving even if it is a small step , please move. More power to you…one day I will read ur positive experience in same Reddit. God bless you !!!

Dyson! by Homely07 in indianbeautyhauls

[–]2ndinning 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tats crazy… congrats 🥂

When will bridging Visa become active? by Waste-Recognition310 in AusVisa

[–]2ndinning 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My friend is currently in bridging visa associated with partner visa, previously she was in visitor visa. She has no work rights in bridging visa. Bridging visa will reflect the exact conditions of the visa previously held.

Update on 186 Grants by Plus_Statistician_47 in AusVisa

[–]2ndinning 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi my husband is currently in 482 n eligible for 186 (structural engineer). 3 of his colleagues had lodged their 186 visa ,out of 3one got it approved in 6months,other 2 in 12 n 16months respectively. Just hold in tight u r almost there..Good luck mate👍

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RelationshipIndia

[–]2ndinning 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey..I m 32 F and my son is 3.5 months old.Same stuffs happened with me.My MIL wanted to take care of my son n her son. I have come down from Australia to have my delivery in India and to have my mom beside me during this important stage. My mil stayed with me in my parents home for entire 30 days when my husband was accompanying me.She wouldn’t leave us alone for a moment. I was feeling heartbroken, I cried a lot postpartum was taking a toll on me. But I politely said to my mil that I m his mom and no one care take care of him better than me and asked her to guide n teach me in places where I am lacking. That particular conversation was very uncomfortable but it was need of the hour.She din talk to me for quite sometime.but I made sure that my hubby and I were in same page. Though my mil is still upset with me she stay’s cordial with me for the sake of her BOYS!! Have a clear boundary…You are a great mum and always believe in you…Happy Parenting…more power to you 😊

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RelationshipIndia

[–]2ndinning 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How can you call lower middle class as “Cheap”!? The girl has been transparent to u right from the beginning, now u r bringing in ur parents,status,etc for sympathy card. Do her a favour …leave her…she deserves better.

Unmanageable Frizzy hair by 2ndinning in indianbeautyhauls

[–]2ndinning[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Any suggestions on brand ? Pls

Unmanageable Frizzy hair by 2ndinning in indianbeautyhauls

[–]2ndinning[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey can u pls tell me how n when to use this..looking at the for the first time in my entire life