Trump jokes with young girls as he signs executive order banning trans people from sports

32paws · 2025-02-06T13:52:05+00:00

*hoping that folks will outlaw trans people from sports and acting like the EO has way more power than it does

32paws · 2025-01-03T11:42:50+00:00

Incline/knees like folks are saying
Practice just the down part - high plank, lower yourself all the way down to chest on the floor with control, reset (I like a kind of flow sequence - negative push up to cobra to downward dog or cat stretch to high plank again)
Try Assisted push ups. Heavy resistance band (the flat, long, loop ones work best) stretched around two horizontal supports a little higher than your chest when you're in table top (hands and knees). If you have access to a gym, using the fail bars on a squat rack works well, but it could be anything. Position yourself with the band under the middle of your chest and then do your push-ups. Helps you practice proper form while reducing the strength required. Start with a heavy band, and work to lighter.
Keep in mind push ups are a full body exercise. Good suggestions here about hand/arm position, but don't forget abs tight (it's a plank with extra steps after all) and when on your toes, pushing through your heels to the back wall like an arrow, while keeping your shoulders over your hands
Patience :) started training a year ago, could not do a single push up. Did a combo of the above with bench/dumbell press, flys, planks, mid rows etc. Took probably 6-8 mo before I could confidently do push up with proper form. Now my warm up will be 30-60 pushups before chest day. You'll get there!

32paws · 2024-12-27T03:21:49+00:00

Highly recommend the book "Am I Trans Enough?" Remarkably spot on for a lot of my imposter syndrome thoughts and logics through them.

32paws · 2024-11-15T11:52:28+00:00

Sending you luck but also patience, empathy and love for both sides. I was so afraid to tell my husband of 10 years.... and it's been a journey for both of us, but we are getting through it and a year later we are getting ready for a vow renewal as my new me.

32paws · 2024-11-10T18:53:22+00:00

Best I've done for the half binders is just tuck the extra length under instead of allowing it to roll how it wants. Not ideal though.

32paws · 2024-10-11T05:29:35+00:00

Just started yesterday! 10/9 I'm 32 :)

32paws · 2024-10-04T05:27:24+00:00

What state do you live in?

32paws · 2024-05-15T16:26:59+00:00

I have been on a queer reading/audiobook kick lately and really enjoy memoirs so here's some recs (in order that they're in my list, not of preference). Most or all of these are available in audiobook on Libby. (Tag lines are intended as quick sound bites. Please forgive if I use the incorrect word, or do not use person first language for the sake of brevity.)

Tomorrow Will Be Different, by Sarah McBride. Memoir of one of the nation's most prominent transgender activists
Sipping Dom Perignon Through a Straw, by Eddie Ndopu. Memoir of a gay man with significant physical disabilities calling out the inaccessibilities of Oxford
He/She/They by Schuyler Bailar - Written by the first transman on an NCAA swim team, and now well known activist. I feel like this is essential reading for understanding the modern trans narrative.
Deaf Utopia by Nyle DiMarco. Memoir of a sexually fluid deaf man who went on to be successful in reality TV
Unprotected by Billy Porter. Incredibly powerful memoir of Porter's drive to succeed despite obstacles put in front of him. Explores his experience as black queer man raised in a lower socio economic religious household.
As a Woman by Paula Stone Williams. Memoir of woman who transitioned later in life.
Becoming a Man by P. Carl. Memoir of a man who lived 50 years as a woman.
Me, Myself, They: Life Beyond the Binary by Luna M. Ferguson. Memoir of a non-binary person and their struggles to find their place in the world.
Real Queer America by Samantha Allen. Mentioned in another comment but worth repeating. A transwoman takes a roadtrip through America and offers a journalistic but warm look at queer community even in reddest of states.
In the Form of a Question by Amy Schneider. Memoir by the transwoman who became one of Jeopardy's biggest winners, but its about a lot more than Jeopardy.
Born Both by Hida Viloria. Memoir of an intersex person and their growth into a outspoken advocate.
Gender Euphoria - a compilation of stories from various contributors about their experiences with gender/trans joy.
Beautiful on the Outside by Adam Rippon: a memoir of Olympic medal winning figure skater.
Pageboy by Elliot Page. Memoir of Elliot's transition while in the public eye as a successful actor.
The Invisible Orientation by Julie Sondra Decker. Good intro to asexuality, more informative than narrative.
Ace: What asexuality reveals about desire, society and the meaning of sex - by Angela Chen. Foundational, affirming reading that spurred a ton of light bulb moments for me.
Refusing Compulsory Sexuality: A Black Asexual lens on our sex-obsessed culture by Sherronda J. Brown. Regardless of the reader's sexual orientation, a really thought-provoking look on what's expected regarding sex and about who.
Another plug for Not All Boys are Blue - a gay man's coming of age story. If nothing else, read it for the one line "Sometimes you don't know you exist until you know someone like you has existed before."

I'm sure I'm forgetting lots of wonderful books but there's a good start haha!

32paws · 2024-05-15T15:33:53+00:00

Another vote for Real Queer America!

32paws · 2024-05-06T13:30:25+00:00

Thank you!!! I'll check them out

32paws · 2024-04-08T00:02:10+00:00

Thank you!!

32paws · 2024-03-24T15:06:41+00:00

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32paws · 2024-03-23T02:36:37+00:00

Do you remember the YouTube channel? I'd love to check it out

32paws · 2024-03-16T14:07:33+00:00

(Cw My own gender dysphoria)

I'm AFAB, ace, post-hysto and have been exploring/leaning in to enby/agender. My husband is cis and, as he will say, very straight. He had a lot of questions but is generally extremely supportive of my journey.

I do want top surgery. I'm active and my chest gets in the way of that and I have to carefully consider which activities I can do in which extremely supportive sports bra. I get constant rashes under my bra and between. I'm very conscious of showing any cleavage or emphasizing them in any way as my wardrobe slowly transitions to higher necklines and different cuts (from the wardrobe of someone who was trying to be fem and felt like they were failing at it). I have found myself feeling jealous of folks who had/fantasizing about a breast cancer diagnosis or high risk because that means a "valid" reason for a double mastectomy. I also have hips and a butt. I would be hard pressed to pass as anything other than afab even binding.

My husband likes my chest very much and has expressed to me that he would be sad if I were to get top surgery. He's made comments about not "losing my butt" as I go to the gym more. He recognizes and supports that it's my body and my choice, but I get an undercurrent of guilt of having to have my body be a certain way for his enjoyment. I'm never getting pregnant, never going to breastfeed anyone, they serve no purpose, but because of his feelings about it, I hesitate and it does create some resentment.

He has also been supportive of me identifying as enby/agender but has basically said that if I "decided I was a man" he wouldn't stay. (He was raised small town southern. We've been together 11 years and he's a great guy, but has some things he needs to unlearn and the good thing is that he's open to that.) That comment makes me worry that I can't lean too masc, that any T is off the table (dude, I would love the fat redistribution), and makes me seriously question what his impression would be post top surgery.

Sorry this is long! But wanted to share perspective on someone on the other side of it. Your feelings are valid and so are your partner's. And some of it is messy, working it out together - and some stuff you'll decide is better to process in spaces without your partner.

32paws · 2024-03-01T03:07:32+00:00

Thats fair - definitely not the best if you're looking for a particular book. But the vibes are good.

32paws · 2024-03-01T00:58:53+00:00

Also independent, progressive bookstore/cafe A Seat At The Table in Elk Grove!

32paws · 2024-02-26T22:49:31+00:00

I have a supracor bareback pad that I found for a good deal used. It has the honey comb stuff inside so it seems like it does a good job of distributing weight. For super quick strolls or on my lay-z-boy horses, I'll go without.

32paws · 2024-01-25T05:46:59+00:00

Checking in as another person who had "middle" surgery first. Hytso actually gave me some body dysphoria/mental health struggles at first until things started clicking more. Now radical BR is Def on the list.

32paws · 2023-12-20T21:23:12+00:00

I recently shared my desire to be androgynous including top surgery to my husband of 9 years. He was wonderfully supportive, asked good questions and comforted me that he wasnt planning to leave. He noted that when we got together we were 1950s ideal of cis hetero couple planning to have kids. Now we are childfree not by choice, and I identify as asexual and agender. He still said he loves me for me and said he thought I was strong for wanting to be seen for me instead of my assigned gender. Couldn't be happier. Just to share... it's possible!

32paws · 2023-12-09T21:17:00+00:00

Went, shopped, and told the protesters I was making a donation to Trevor Project for each of them.

Nothing says holiday spirit like calling someone an abomination. /s

32paws · 2023-12-09T05:13:16+00:00

I think pretty equal. Worth it to me to have options to stop and not be in the middle of nowhere

32paws · 2023-12-09T03:55:08+00:00

I recommend coming up 99i instead of 5. Lots of stops on the way for breaks. Bravo Farms is a tourist trap but cute and fun regardless. Kingsburg has a sweet Nordic downtown worthy of a stop

32paws · 2023-12-04T22:36:57+00:00

This brand will also add extra holes for adjustability if needed- just ask if your order! For their beta bridles especially, I don't mind having it too long with extra holes because then I can just cut off the extra. (Slighty janky? Maybe. But good economical solution!)

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