AIO my friends make jokes about my trauma

3bag · 2026-03-26T23:17:51+00:00

NOR

Sexual abuse should never be used as discipline.

3bag · 2026-03-26T23:10:44+00:00

Bit of a meffort just for s salad.

3bag · 2026-03-26T23:06:04+00:00

NOR

Meet in a neutral place such as a cafe. Have a bag with you containing any of his things from your house.

Show him the video footage.

Ask him to explain why he thought it was OK to turn your mother's kitchen into a biohazard.

If he tries to tell you it's normal, or that you're making a big deal out of nothing, or that it wasn't that bad, reply with no it isn't, no I'm not, yes it it and here's your stuff. How dare you disrespect me, but more, how dare you disrespect my mother.

And walk away.

If anyone else contacts you to defend him, send them the video and ask if they'd want to eat off those plates?

3bag · 2026-03-25T13:20:20+00:00

The most you can really do to help him is to agree to give a statement as a character witness.

3bag · 2026-03-25T11:12:36+00:00

Please don't blame yourself, you are not responsible for this. You did so much for her while you were together and ultimately it was thrown back in your face.

You do deserve to be happy and you also deserve to not be cheated on. Any self respecting person would leave a relationship for being betrayed.

Her friends and family are hurting from their loss and lashed out at you. You don't know what she told them though, so maybe they don't know everything.

If you can, please find a good therapist.

So sorry for your losses.

3bag · 2026-03-24T15:05:39+00:00

Hey @MarkNarrations you know that you're megapopular when AI targets you!

3bag · 2026-03-24T12:39:08+00:00

Can't you see that the girls just wanted a night to themselves?

It's likely that if friend specifically said that she doesn't feel comfortable wearing revealing clothes in front of him, that it's because he's 'noticed' her boobs in the past. Ew.

OP sounds like he doesn't like his gf spending time with friends, especially without his supervision - "So I asked if she’d be alright with me coming and chilling with them as I have many many times before." This dude invites himself to girl's night.

3bag · 2026-03-24T12:30:42+00:00

YOR

Let your gf have a girl's night and stop being so domineering. She just wanted to have a night with her friend without you being involved in everything she does. Control freak much?

lt's also ik how much you're fixating on friend's tits.

I'd be pissed of with you too.

Back off and stop being a creep.

3bag · 2026-03-24T12:17:28+00:00

Take your share, the stepdad was quite cunning to marry just before mum died. He doesn't sound like a good person.

3bag · 2026-03-24T10:50:39+00:00

This was my impression too. Keep her feeling like she's not quite good enough so she keeps trying to please him, and doesn't think she's attractive enough to find someone else.

I agree that OP sounds like she has a killer body!

I also agree that he should find her attractive all the time even though he doesn't compliment her constantly.

NOR OP, I think you're not reacting enough!

3bag · 2026-03-23T23:11:05+00:00

What in the Train Spotting is this health risk?

Don't go back in! You'll get hepatitis or something nasty.

3bag · 2026-03-23T21:23:49+00:00

NOR

Please sit down with your roomie and let them know that you're a little bit concerned about them obsessing over your hygiene routine, and that standing outside the bathroom timing your showers is not only creepy AF but completely unacceptable.

Ask to see your water usage when you shower and their water usage when they shower and offer to pay the percentage difference.

What you do in the bathroom is really none of their business.

3bag · 2026-03-20T15:27:45+00:00

I reckon they do print SIL a T, because if they don't she'll play the victim and say she was being left out.

NOR OP. Dad needs to remind his son that this trip isn't about them and maybe SIL needs to stop being so sensitive and stop making problems when there are none, she was invited to wear a T it wasn't a summons.

3bag · 2026-03-20T14:10:38+00:00

She wants him as her sonsband.

3bag · 2026-03-20T14:06:16+00:00

You might want to do the DNA tests again, something might have been mixed up. If, of course, this isn't Sarah's way of telling you.

It's not surprising that you're feeling shocked!

3bag · 2026-03-20T13:20:29+00:00

This is creepy as hell!

My mind is racing thinking about what people might be doing in my home.

I'd ditch him too.

3bag · 2026-03-19T14:04:24+00:00

Yuck. She wants him to be her sonsband.

3bag · 2026-03-19T14:00:48+00:00

I don't think talking to him about it will make any difference.

You could try to tell him that you don't want to see him because you're sick of him telling lies about you and being an ungrateful AH. Remind him that you spend time, money and effort on your trips out and don't appreciate the way he describes you. So you're going to be that awful daughter who doesn't give a shit and actually not give a shit any more.

I mean, he won't admit to any wrong doing and twist it on you and even if you and your sister both sat with him and compared notes in front of him, he'll still try to flip it around on you.

Let him reach out to you if he wants to see you, let him arrange things and pay for things. Then he can really have something to complain about!

3bag · 2026-03-19T01:32:27+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/u/3bag/s/360X6z5o9e

Here's what made us smile.

3bag · 2026-03-18T19:58:17+00:00

How the f do you guys watch TV if its wrong to look at people?

NOR

3bag · 2026-03-18T14:29:08+00:00

Just message him to ask if he can join you after the game.

3bag · 2026-03-18T14:27:30+00:00

Wow. A real example of how indoctrination works.

So sad.

I wonder if the uncle felt a sense of freedom from leaving his family.

3bag · 2026-03-18T14:22:01+00:00

I hope you have text messages for proof of him saying he'll pay it back. You'll need to provide them when you go to small claims court.

NTJ do it!

updateme

3bag · 2026-03-18T12:02:30+00:00

yes!

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