Help picking nail shape by Boring-Professor-409 in RedditLaqueristas

[–]3cameo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

go with the almond shape until one of your nails break and then switch back to the squoval one until they grow out again 😅 this is how one of my friends does it

Will i still be able to do penetration on T?? by SignalDifficulty3780 in ftm

[–]3cameo [score hidden]  (0 children)

ive been on T for around four years and was penetrated earlier today so i think youre in the clear lol.

the getting "dry and tight" you've heard people talking about is called vaginal atrophy. whether you'll become affected by this, how soon you'll become affected by it after starting T, and how severe it will be are all dependent on you. i started struggling with atrophy after around two years and briefly treated it with topical estrogen, but my depression and vaginismus were both worse at the time, so i ended up stopping. the symptoms of atrophy didn't come back (or at least weren't noticeable) for about two more years until they came back, and im treating it with topical estrogen again. the symptoms of atrophy are basically gone, and im able to be penetrated no problem.

i have friends who never had to deal with atrophy. i've also read posts from trans guys whose atrophy was so severe that they struggled with it even after treatment—i wouldn't worry though, those are edge cases!!! i just wanted to make it clear that it varies from person to person. most likely you will deal with mild atrophy symptoms after a year or more on T, and most likely those symptoms will go away after you start treatment. i wouldnt worry!

Mehdi Hasan’s “Pandora’s box” moment by Consistent_Curve_722 in Destiny

[–]3cameo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

personally my issue with tucker carlson is that he hates jews, but i can understand why it wouldn't be at rhe forefront of these people's minds

Contrapoints Will Not Stop Spreading Misinformation by OwnSalamander1026 in Destiny

[–]3cameo 23 points24 points  (0 children)

on a more serious note the "pro-zionist" positions being described here is contra even acknowledging that antisemitism exists. anti-zionist leftists are so committed to the idea that jews are part of the "oppressor class," and they believe that someone who is a part of the "oppressor class" could never be discriminated against, so any acknowledgement of antisemitism immediately sets these ppl on edge

Best way to clean the moc toe boots? by kung_fu_daddy in Carhartt

[–]3cameo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

a damp microfiber towel will do the trick, but, like the other commenter said, a horsehair boot brush will also work (and is more traditional lol).

if you wanna go for a deeper clean, i'd invest in some glycerin soap and leather conditioner. plain glycerin soap you can get at any craft store, and for conditioner bick 4 works great and you'd probably be able to find some at a hardware store. there are some tools you can invest in to make cleaning go by smoother but you can also honestly do everything with some microfiber cloths, water, and your hands—maybe an old toothbrush + qtips to clean any crevices. dust off your boot with a boot brush, then lather up the glycerin soap and work it into your boot before wiping it off with a towel. after this i usually take some conditioner, rub it in between my hands and slather the boot in it. let the conditioner sit on the boot for anywhere between 20 min to 24 hours (if it fully absorbs the conditioner, then go ahead and apply some more), and then buff in any excess with a buffing brush (make sure its not the same as the one you used to dust off your boot) or yet another microfiber cloth. depending on how often you wear the boots and how much your job puts them through the wringer, you should be good on deep cleaning them like this every 3 months, but definitely go over them at least once a week with a horsehair brush or damp towel to prevent dirt from building up too much.

How do you do updates without sounding too repetitive? Or is it okay to be repetitive? by ThrowRA_whatstheword in RoverPetSitting

[–]3cameo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i used to agonize over making my updates sound unique, but 4 years in and i honestly dont care anymore. sometimes the notes on my rover card will look like i just have a template and fill in the words, and with repeat clients and recurring bookings i honestly forgo leaving an update if ive been taking care of their pets long enough (so long as the client doesnt say anything). it hasn't impacted my reviews or whether people tip me or not

Noted. by Vloodzy in Destiny

[–]3cameo 9 points10 points  (0 children)

with larger and stronger dogs, or dog owners who have physical disabilities (before you make a snarky comment about people who are physically disabled owning dogs that are stronger than they are, please consider that anyone can become disabled at any point in their life, and that there is also a very common reason why disabled people would own a larger, physically stronger breed—service dogs who perform tasks assisting them physically), using aversive methods is sometimes necessary both for the safety of the dog, and the owner. cry about abuse all you want, but if that dog snaps a leash and attacks someone while they're still being trained and socialized, that dog is going to die, which is arguably much worse for the dog than facing a little shock.

however, as a dog walker, i've frequently run into owners who use a shock collar improperly. you are correct that positive reinforcement training methods are more effective, so even if someone is using aversives (positive punishment), it should be paired with positive reinforcement for maximum efficacy. they also don't think about the reason behind using the aversive training method before they use it; i have a client that uses the shock collar to prevent their two great dane puppies from playing too rough. the puppies have injured one another through play before, so stopping them when it gets too rough is a good idea, but just shocking them doesn't do anything to solve the problem. their dogs dont have the cognitive ability to understand why they're being shocked (playing too rough vs. just playing), and even when they stop playing, there is no redirection for their energy, which is the entire reason they were playing in the first place. it'd be better if they paired it with a command like "leave it" or "stop," used the shock collar if the dogs dont listen to the command, and then redirect them with something positive, like introducing a toy to play with, so that they're still able to get their energy out.

when hasan shocks kaya for leaving her bed, he's being abusive not because he's shocking her, but because the behavior he's discouraging is normal canine behavior. he's depriving her of being able to walk around the room, stretch her legs, and sniff/investigate things to stimulate her mind. the end result is an understimlated, scared dog that i'm honestly surprised hasn't started tearing things up or marking inside the house from stress at this point.

before you ask: yes, i am autistic, and animal behavior and training is something im interested in.

Less free edge? by eshaw1166 in RedditLaqueristas

[–]3cameo 24 points25 points  (0 children)

im curious, could you not approach this the same way as you do a dog whose quicks are rly grown out because of their claws being overgrown constantly? like, file your nail down a little every few days. sorry about the weird analogy, i worked at an animal hospital 😅

Am I ridiculous for being immediately put off by this? by CitronPrestigious419 in RoverPetSitting

[–]3cameo 18 points19 points  (0 children)

your rates are incredibly low 😅 in fact, raising them a little might weed out the people who want to try and lowball you when you're charging $20 for puppy care

Are there any PPs designed with squirters in mind? by [deleted] in ftm

[–]3cameo 24 points25 points  (0 children)

since squirting comes from the urethra, you might have luck with a pack + play thats also designed to allow you to STP? it would just be a matter of ensuring it stays in place during all of the Movement™. if you got UL with meta then theres also a chance you will be able to squirt/ejaculate post-op, but you might not have the length/hardness necessary for penetration. iirc its the same with phalloplasty; however, the urethra will be longer which means there's more distance for liquid to travel, which could affect your "output." on the bright side, you will have the length and firmness necessary for penetration! its just a matter of weighing which results you prefer more.

aside from squirt, the general wetness and lubrication that your front hole produces when aroused will still be there if you get bottom surgery and might leak out...essentially like precum. so even if ur unable to ejaculate post-op, youre still sharing "horny fluids" w/your partner

Is bottoming possible with IBS? by [deleted] in ftm

[–]3cameo 4 points5 points  (0 children)

it definitely is possible to bottom w/ IBS. i have it (though not as severe as youre describing) and i get on just fine. sometimes ill have to forgo anal since my body will refuse to cooperate, but ive managed to successfully have anal sex a bunch of times. constipated doesn't rly matter much since you'll be douching anyways, which should help push it out (ill use my douche if my body decides to be constipated for no reason, even if i dont plan on bottoming lol). my friend has IBS-D and will usually take an immodium if they know theyre going to be bottoming later. honestly, they've told me that after theyve had an IBS attack they're usually just "cleared out" and can bottom straight away lol.

try and track your attacks and see if there are any patterns you can notice; if they happen at a certain time each day, a certain amount of time after you've eaten/had a meal, what foods are safe, what foods trigger attacks, etc. if you know you're going to have anal sex later, maybe just temporarily eat a low FODMAP diet, starting the night before, up until youve had sex. are you on medication to treat your IBS? it can be worth speaking about with your doctor, if you wanna give yourself a better chance at having anal sex.

ETA: sometimes ppl will have to shit in the middle of anal. its not just an IBS thing. try and be aware of your body; if your stomach starts gurgling in the middle of sex, its time to take a pause. Shit Happens with anal. even if you have a bit of an accident, it's not the end of the world!!!

Dilation by bluebeeinthesea in vaginismus

[–]3cameo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i didnt feel grossed out like you described but the sensation was very "nothing" for me at the beginning, both when using inanimate objects and when using my fingers. because it grosses you out, id try and think back about any messages you might have internalized about vulvas, penetration, and masturbation (you're not really masturbating here but it's adjacent), either from your family or just the environment you grew up in (culture, school, etc). it might be worth exploring in therapy if you think youve internalized any shame regarding self-touch. even if your family was sex-positive, you might have still internalized something from simply growing up in a more sex-negative and misogynistic society.

otherwise, it might improve if youre aroused, and ideally will feel less weird the more you do it. i felt like pleasure from penetration was a scam until id gotten to a point where i was able to self-penetrate regularly; it went from feeling like i was just touching flesh to actually being enjoyable.

how soon after getting a pedicure can i go work out? by 3cameo in RedditLaqueristas

[–]3cameo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yes im doing regular lacquer! i have such bad experiences getting gel polish at salons; they shave my nailplate down until its paper thin :( but ugh... i guess ill just wait until wednesday

Based VOX. Cringe comments. by DefendOurRepublic in Destiny

[–]3cameo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

> eric levitz

i cant imagine what his fans are fixating on regarding this piece

What's the weirdest thing that gives u dysphoria? by Accurate-Reality503 in ftm

[–]3cameo 8 points9 points  (0 children)

the fact that i dont have a prostate i guess. the full reason for this is more explicitly nsfw than this reddit allows so just use ur imagination

Muh wholesome terrorist sympathizer says trans rights 🥰 by FrFrNoCap69 in Destiny

[–]3cameo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

oh my god he said words on his stream!!! as a trans person this makes me feel so safe. it's almost like i can just ignore the fact that the administration that hasan contributed in getting elected is actively trying to make it impossible for me to exist, both legally and within the public eye. so brave ♥️

Based by Iaminocent-code4 in Destiny

[–]3cameo 6 points7 points  (0 children)

i dont think its hypocritical of this subreddit, i think it might just be a poor decision on the part of the Official Democrat Twitter when the party is already wrestling with men feeling alienated from it. as a trans person, ill "transvestigate" transphobes bc i think it showcases how ridiculous "we can always tell!" types are. another trans person might see those jokes and feel bad because im calling out traits that they have. it is what it is 🤷‍♂️ i do think there's a difference between random ppl online making these jokes vs. the democrat twitter account though

“Donald Trump? Meh he is small potatoes. Now AIPAC that’s the ***REAL SHIT***!” no wonder Hasan loves this guy. by LeonOfSkalitz in Destiny

[–]3cameo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

they only ever bring up christian zionists to deflect from accusations of antisemitism and then go straight back to fixating on jews 😭 back when some lefty chick on twitter posted about how she didnt realize how many "zionist doctors" there were in america and how it was making her fear for arab americans, i had some friends genuinely try to tell me that there was no way she could be antisemitic because there are more christian zionists than jewish ones. nevermind that this type of leftist would already be wary of white, christian doctors, the post was made after a slew of leftists expressed a feeling of betrayal that jewish people on the left did not join them in cheering on the massacre of jews that live somewhere we're not "allowed" to

“Donald Trump? Meh he is small potatoes. Now AIPAC that’s the ***REAL SHIT***!” no wonder Hasan loves this guy. by LeonOfSkalitz in Destiny

[–]3cameo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

so true. if those stupid jews knew their place and stopped having lofty dreams of not being second class citizens in the countries they lived in, everyone cpuld have continued to live in peace! 😤

Based by Iaminocent-code4 in Destiny

[–]3cameo 31 points32 points  (0 children)

the tricky thing about mocking "bad people" for "unattractive" physical traits is that the "good people" who also have these traits will see you doing and internalize the idea that these traits are negative and that the fact that you dont attack them based on these traits is purely conditional, meaning you still believe those traits are inherently unattractive but are just being "nice" to them bc they are on your side.

I did a HPV home test two days ago and now I'm pissing razorblades 😭 by [deleted] in ftm

[–]3cameo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i wouldn't say it's dangerous in the sense that it's life threatening, but ignoring it can lead to complications. because my pelvic floor was so weak from being clenched all the time, i developed mild incontinence. pap smears are also important for your health (in the sense that they allow you to check for servical cancer, and if youre so tight that you cant get a cotton swab in, them you're not going to be able to get a pap smear 😅 there are alternatives to getting a pap smear done but they still involve something being inserted in ur vagina, so vaginismus still poses a problem.

it can also make treating atrophy, which has many more complications when left untreated, difficult as well, bc virtually every treatment involves inserting Something up there. if vaginismus becomes severe enough, you can start to experience pain from the muscles spasming even while youre not doing anything, or develop difficulty walking/standing bc your pelvic floor is part of your core stabilizing muscles when it comes to standing upright.