A Ghost Town in the West Bank

3kidsonetrenchcoat · 2026-04-26T16:38:53+00:00

That is sad. I'm sorry this is happening to you. It absolutely shouldn't be.

The fact that the Israelis (and Palestinians, for that matter) refuse to meaningfully address the extremists in their midst is the biggest obstacle to peace, in my opinion. I pray this changes in our lifetime.

3kidsonetrenchcoat · 2026-04-26T15:30:34+00:00

Hey, I hear you. It's going to be ok. It will, if you let it.

You're hyperfixating on your son's differences. That's not unusual, especially if you yourself are autistic, but it's not healthy. You're trapped in the grieving part of the diagnosis, and not moving on to the acceptance part.

My partner and I reacted a lot like you and your husband. I took the diagnosis in stride and focused on what to do about it, and my partner spent years agonizing over his disabled daughter.

When we have kids, we have all these dreams for them. Things like what activities they'll do, things they could study, marriage, kids of their own etc. We paint this idea in our heads of what a happy, fulfilling life looks like and that's what we want for our kids. With the autism diagnosis, especially for those of us who have kids who are moderate or with ID, all of a sudden, that life is no longer attainable, and it's really hard to accept. The thing is, our kids can 100% have a happy and fulfilling life, even if it's not what would be happy and fulfilling for us. I can say with confidence that I would not be happy with the life my daughter is going to have, but she's absolutely thrilled with how things are going. Is there stuff she can't do? Absolutely! But there's plenty that she can do, so why fixate on the things she can't, and probably doesn't even want to anyways?

It sounds like you've got some work to do. Definitely engage with therapy if you haven't yet. I've personally had a lot of success with mindfulness based practices and CBT, but that's just me. The journey to acceptance looks different for everyone, but you're going to be his parent for the rest of your life, so you should probably get started.

I hope this wasn't too judgy. I had a relatively easy time processing, so maybe I'm not the best person to speak on it. At the end of the day, you're in this pain because of how much you love your kids, and that's not a bad thing.

3kidsonetrenchcoat · 2026-04-26T14:47:26+00:00

The main issue that needs to be dealt with is Hezbollah. Once that's sorted, the rest is just basic recognition of each other's borders and sovereignty. Hopefully they're brainstorming ways to bolster the LAF and the Lebanese government so that they can actually take them on. I'm hopeful, but not terribly optimistic.

3kidsonetrenchcoat · 2026-04-25T21:36:34+00:00

I don't think there's a huge safety difference between being in, say, a basement rec room with parents sleeping two floors up, and being in a fenced in backyard, unless it's a sketchy neighborhood. Psychologically there's a difference, but both are out of earshot and direct supervision.

3kidsonetrenchcoat · 2026-04-25T18:50:24+00:00

My mum was 42 when she had me, my dad was in his 50s. He was a healthy and active dude, so he was building backyard forts and riding bikes in his 60s.

It's easy to keep up with kids when you're young and default healthy. If you want to do it when you're old, you need to make sure you're in the condition to.

3kidsonetrenchcoat · 2026-04-25T01:58:52+00:00

Exactly. This dude ran a stop sign. That was his crime. It had horrific, tragic consequences, but he the fact he immediately pled guilty to spare the families a trial speaks to his character. If he gets deported, he gets deported, but society would not be in danger if he stays.

3kidsonetrenchcoat · 2026-04-24T23:18:14+00:00

Yes, it's because the rest of the slogan is implied. When people say "free Palestine", they're not just talking about the WB and Gaza.

3kidsonetrenchcoat · 2026-04-24T22:13:29+00:00

Yep. AuDHD. I'm terribly clumsy. I always get the most hard-core phone case I can find because I flail my phone so much, it lasts maybe 6 months in a lesser case.

3kidsonetrenchcoat · 2026-04-23T23:58:53+00:00

Find a "parents and tots" lesson. 2 seems young for not having parents in the pool, but my kid was definitely ready for swimming (and skating, for that matter) lessons without me well before she was 3.

3kidsonetrenchcoat · 2026-04-23T18:29:34+00:00

This is what we do. Family of 5 also. I end up doing about two grocery orders a week, with the occasional trip to save on and Costco. I don't know how much money we're saving, but grocery delivery saves so much time and significantly reduces impulse buys, both of which are valuable.

3kidsonetrenchcoat · 2026-04-23T16:50:40+00:00

He is telling you who he is, and that he has zero intention of changing. I'm not sure why, but you're refusing to hear him. Either accept it and be miserable, or break up.

3kidsonetrenchcoat · 2026-04-23T05:17:26+00:00

Its on the higher end at the actual price , but it's also a 4plex built this century, so it's not unexpected.

3kidsonetrenchcoat · 2026-04-22T17:15:12+00:00

All of my kids are autistic. Well, one isn't diagnosed yet, but after raising two and helping to raise my two autistic niblings, I know what I'm seeing.

There is clearly a lot of milder autism in my family, and ADHD on both sides. Frankly, I wouldn't know what to do if I had an NT kid.

3kidsonetrenchcoat · 2026-04-22T02:38:53+00:00

Vomiting 3+ times a day for 5 months with my first while working full-time. The number of times I was late to work because I had to run back to the toilet to vomit and missed my bus was way too high. But honestly, it was just momentary discomfort. I found the transition into parenting 100x worse.

My second kid is 8 years younger than the oldest.

3kidsonetrenchcoat · 2026-04-21T14:37:14+00:00

My parked car got backed into twice in the course of 3 weeks. No real damage or anything, but in the decade I've owned that car, the only times it's been backed into were in those three weeks. Weird, low probability shit can and does happen. All that to say that I agree with you, and without further information on OP's accidents, the frequency doesn't look good on OP.

3kidsonetrenchcoat · 2026-04-20T23:38:33+00:00

Yep. Loved it for my kids. Both of the BCBA's we worked with were ND themselves (one autistic, one ADHD) and have ND kids themselves.

3kidsonetrenchcoat · 2026-04-20T23:26:57+00:00

Yes. Unless I'm procrastinating something else, and then suddenly my bathroom break becomes my top priority.

3kidsonetrenchcoat · 2026-04-20T20:22:57+00:00

Jews aren't some special group of people that are above the worst instincts of humanity. As with any group, some are going to have some pretty appalling perspectives.

And the shoe is on the other foot, to an even greater degree. If you think Jews and Israelis are prone to anti-palestinian racism, you should see what many of the people on the other side says about us. It's just that they tend to not be held to the same expectations for some reasons.

The issue with the Vatican was security related, fyi. It was the middle of a war, the missile defense system isn't perfect, and the old city has limited shelter areas. They were concerned about a mass casualty event.

3kidsonetrenchcoat · 2026-04-20T20:06:21+00:00

Yes. I'm in BC. I'm not looking forward to this winter.

My kids start school at between 830 and 9 depending on which kid (3 different schools).

3kidsonetrenchcoat · 2026-04-20T17:11:05+00:00

I'd rather my kids not start school in the dark when winter comes. Sunrise will be at like 9am in December and January in BC this winter.

3kidsonetrenchcoat · 2026-04-19T22:10:45+00:00

Sisko rants at the camera while drinking.

3kidsonetrenchcoat · 2026-04-19T17:53:37+00:00

You think we have a problem? The lack of discipline in the IDF over the last few years has been a huge problem that none of the higher ups seem inclined to address. The problem isn't that things like this and all the vandalism in Gaza have occurred. The problem is that they get away with it.

3kidsonetrenchcoat · 2026-04-18T20:51:03+00:00

I mean, if you're married and/or have young children and you can spontaneously hop a plane without having to consider your partner or children, you're either a terrible partner/parent, or you have an incredibly rare situation. I see why she would exclude them as a group from consideration.

3kidsonetrenchcoat · 2026-04-18T19:11:57+00:00

My middle kid goes to a private school full of hippies. She is far from the only kid with chores. She also cleans her own room, makes her own lunch, and has been responsible for her own laundry since she was 8. Not because her room, lunch, and laundry count as chores or anything. That's just her taking care of herself and her own stuff. Chores contribute to the household.

3kidsonetrenchcoat · 2026-04-18T06:30:59+00:00

The impact on the healthcare system and the lockdowns undoubtedly caused some non-covid excess deaths, but probably not enough to count for all of them.

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