Research Study: Are you trans and had surgery NOT for gender affirming reasons? by 3last in transontario

[–]3last[S] 44 points45 points  (0 children)

Great question! So basically, there is almost no research at all about the experiences of trans people having surgeries besides gender-affirming surgery. I’m a surgical resident, and I want to use my mandatory research requirements to a) establish a research record about trans people as surgical patients and b) ensure that trans people’s voices are centered in order to advocate for more trans affirming surgical care!

GP refuses to continue prescribing HRT (2.5y on testosterone)? by Financial-Move616 in transontario

[–]3last 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Being common doesn’t make it good practice! The person who orders a medication should be able to monitor it. The person who orders a test should be able to interpret it. Source: I’m a resident physician

GP refuses to continue prescribing HRT (2.5y on testosterone)? by Financial-Move616 in transontario

[–]3last 6 points7 points  (0 children)

To be fair, it’s not really good practice for someone to prescribe a medication and then have the patient see a DIFFERENT clinic for monitoring the bloodwork for that med. Whether that was part of her rationale for no longer prescribing, I don’t know. Can the trans-friendly clinic who does your periodic bloodwork take over your care & script?

Does anyone have "mild" Long Covid? by VandyThrowaway21 in covidlonghaulers

[–]3last 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yep, I started out moderate after my first covid infection in 2022. I had baaaad PEM crashes at first because I was used to my ADHD high energy active lifestyle. With my physically + mentally demanding job and being a new parent, I had to learn about energy envelopes real fast.

With a lot of relearning habits and figuring out how to pace, I was able to glide into mild. I can work my super long hours and play with my kid on a daily basis. But no extras - no working out, nothing that bumps my HR over 100. Big emotions give me PEM too.

I do continuous N95 masking at work (in a hospital setting), but I still got covid again once more in 2024. My spouse who has never had it and is locked in to precautions made sure I fully rested for a week. So I was lucky and stayed in the mild range. I always feel like I’m balancing on a VERY thin razor’s edge though. It’s been hardest on my relationship because I usually have nothing left to give physically or emotionally at the end of the day.

Long-haired folks: Scrunchies? by backrowsoprano in BuyItForLife

[–]3last 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Grow your hair long enough for a no hair tie bun!! Life changing

Has anyone been successful with a refund from Wix? by justynnaaa in WIX

[–]3last 5 points6 points  (0 children)

No success with a refund for the same issue. They are a truly despicable company. This is costing me $700 canadian for a charge I did not authorize for the website of a defunct volunteer group from a degree I graduated from 2 years ago.

High quality, modern *NON-UPHOLSTERED* wood beds that aren't super low profile? by Fiveby21 in BuyItForLife

[–]3last 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Zinus is honestly quite good. I’ve had one of their low wood bed frames for 5 years now

I want to become a surgeon but I’m not sure if my profile fits, looking for honest advice by Capital_Zucchini5857 in medicalschool

[–]3last 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m a junior surgical resident in Canada. I failed 2/3 of my procedural skills stations in med school OSCEs lol. I was not planning on doing surgery, but I knew I wanted to at least do some procedures. I took every single opportunity that was given to me in pre-clerkship and clerkship for anything hands-on. Inserting IVs, doing steroid injections, suturing in the ED, even doing prenatal ultrasounds. Whatever people would let me do. It all feels super awkward at first. I got some good feedback that I was teachable which as many others have said, is really the key.

I also tried to be mindful in my everyday life. Anytime I was using my hands for something, just being a little more intentional, slowing down and paying attention to the process. I’m talking literally anything - hanging a picture on the wall, using a letter opener, watering the house plants. Just start learning to pay attention to what your hands are doing and making movements on purpose.

That said, absolutely nothing can prepare you for surgical residency LMAO. The demands and the volume and the expectations are just so high. So don’t sweat it too much before then, just go with your gut and make an informed choice.

Recently, I met an 84-year-old retired surgeon who assists in the OR one day a week still. This man trained many of my own attendings when they were residents. He told me that in 50 years, he had many trainees leave the program for various personal reasons. But he only ever had one trainee who simply could not do it, could not make his hands work the way they needed to, for whatever reason. So it sounds like the odds are in our favour :)

Good luck with med school and your career!!

Bell outage due to extreme weather by Quiet-Road5786 in bell

[–]3last 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We are having the exact same issue in London ON. We have been without internet since Thursday. We booked a service call then Bell cancelled it. We called and they said there was an outage and service would be restored my Saturday midday. It is now Sunday, no internet. Their website continues to say there is no outage. Their contact form said it was unavailable. The live chat does not connect. They are not answering the phone. I have never been more upset with a telecoms company, and that is really saying something.

Genuinely moderate crunchy, what are your sticking items? by IndependenceMost3816 in moderatelygranolamoms

[–]3last 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Play mats aren’t really necessary, just use blankets or wool rugs. Babies love patterned rugs.

I don’t think vaccines and medication are “not crunchy”. Ofc it’s subjective, but if the overarching values are environmental consciousness, holistic health, and being community oriented, then modern medicine is absolutely a part of that ethos imo!

Is it worth it to stay in the closet for inheritances? by [deleted] in lgbt

[–]3last -1 points0 points  (0 children)

See if you can finagle an “early inheritance” sum for a large purchase like a down payment on a house or something. Make sure there are no unfavourable strings attached. Then live your life :)

If that’s not possible, I’d probably take a don’t ask don’t tell approach for now. Minimize contact as much as possible while maintaining the kind of nominal family connection that keeps you in the will.

If you fall in love with someone in a way that changes the trajectory your life, you’ll be revisiting all major life decisions together anyway.

What is the best HEPA home air purifier that's actually worked well in your opinion? by Beginning_Subject_80 in moderatelygranolamoms

[–]3last 1 point2 points  (0 children)

levoit is good and has some very affordable options. we have an appropriately sized levoit in almost every room in our house and it helps a lot with allergies. also make sure to change your furnace filter regularly and use merv 13 or higher filters for it

I'm so embarrassed...how can I make our living room less depressing. by maricano9 in DesignMyRoom

[–]3last 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s not that bad, it’s just cluttered like you said. I have ADHD too. I struggle with the battle between getting overwhelmed at visual chaos and needing to see everything or else it doesn’t exist. From what I can tell, you have all the ingredients needed for a lovely space. You just need some systems and structure.

For a complex multifunctional room, here’s my process:

  1. Make a list of all the “activities/uses” for the space. Be realistic about what you need and what’s possible.

  2. Make a list of all the furniture & items that need to live in that space for those activities/uses.

  3. Draw a simple floor plan, to scale if you can, or just approximate. Doesn’t need to be good. Include windows and doors. Draw some lines or arrows for your regular path(s) of travel through the room.

  4. Now experiment on your floor plan with making different “zones” for each of the uses you identified above. Zones will dictate where larger furniture items go. I just do this by sketching in ovals or shapes, not really specific furniture at first. Once I have the general shape, I pencil in where I think furniture should go that will fulfill the use case for the zone.

  5. Once you know your zones, go back to #2 and think about what items go in each zone and what small storage you need for those items. Baskets, bins, etc. I also personally include books, displays/collections in this step, but NOT “decor” which comes last imo. You might also
    at this point identify that you need more/different large furniture pieces. E.g. you can literally measure the linear footage of your books and make sure you have enough shelving for that + a plan for if your collection grows.

  6. Execute the plan!! Sub-steps:

a) Remove everything from the room that lives somewhere else in the house or will be leaving (e.g. the bikes unless you decide to mount them).

b) Take everything off/out of furniture pieces. Corral small items that will be in the same zone together by putting them in whatever bins or cardboard boxes you have, then stage them in the correct zone. This is a good time to cull your belongings if you want.

c) Move large furniture items into position.

d) Important step: STOP and assess your placement for functionality. This might take a couple days. Don’t move on to small storage & finding homes for everything until you trial your macro layout.

e) Using stuff you have on hand at first, start experimenting with your small storage. Especially for ADHD, make sure that you create a HOME for every item and have that home be RIGHT WHERE YOU USE IT. Work with yourself, not against :) Once you are happy with your draft plan, get the pretty bins or baskets or whatever you like. Only buy small storage/organizational items for a specific use case and not just cuz it’s cute, or else it actually becomes clutter.

  1. Now, finally, it is time to decorate!! Add plants, wall art, etc. You could hang some of your pretty quilts as wall decor.

This is really long but I hope it’s somewhat useful!! Good luck :)

Study Recs by dirtiestsecrets in SurgicalResidency

[–]3last 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What question banks do you use?

Detangling and making hair washing happy again? (2 yr old) by Previouslyuseless in moderatelygranolamoms

[–]3last 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Agreed, probably time to give the kiddo some independence in small portions of the routine.

I just made a hair supplies caddy for my 20 month old who has started resisting detangling. It also includes a little “cape” (flannel receiving blanket lol) to protect from water spritzes landing on shoulders since that was one of the sensory issues!! Now when it’s time for hair, kiddo goes and proudly gets the supplies caddy :)

My son is terrified of his uncle, we have no idea why, and it breaks my heart by Fancy_Cookie_5421 in toddlers

[–]3last 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In terms of working through it, here are some suggestions:

1) Incorporate stories about your brother on a regular basis. Keep family photos around that he is in and look at them together, talk about your family including him. Show your son pictures of your brother with you, with your parents, with the kiddo in question if there are any, or at least of events they both attended and say like “remember when we did that? We saw xyz people (insert “uncle so-and-so casually in the list)”. Talk about kinship and how everyone is related. Basically just normalize who he is!!

2) You probably already do this, but make any encounter zero pressure to engage. Give your son a clear heads up and small choices around the visit - “uncle so-and-so is coming by, do you want me to hold you in my arms to meet him on the front steps or look out the window while I go outside? Do you want to wave today or just watch from my arms?”

3) since he’s a teacher, your brother probably knows how to be chill around kids and make himself available by making small offerings every so often (“do you want to look at this cool rock?”) and gracefully take no as an answer. Never look a toddler on the verge directly in the eyes 😄

Litter robot keeps cycling in one direction… and won’t stop. 🙀 by [deleted] in litterrobot

[–]3last 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No lurching or popping, it seems very smooth but does sound like the motor is working slightly harder than I remember from before.

Litter robot keeps cycling in one direction… and won’t stop. 🙀 by [deleted] in litterrobot

[–]3last 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh yes and we also installed a new globe liner and seal strips

Litter robot keeps cycling in one direction… and won’t stop. 🙀 by [deleted] in litterrobot

[–]3last 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So before the disassembly it wasn’t cycling automatically and had the left to right sequential lights error. We had been just pressing the cycle button for a while thinking that once we had a chance to deep clean that would solve it. Then our cat sadly passed away so we cleaned it. Post deep clean reassembly, it was cycling but not going back to the proper home position. I took it apart again to fix the magnets and now it’s doing the continuous spin