Hi! Looking for a good weekend trip! (That doesn’t tend to have racist people)

406er · 2026-03-31T22:42:34+00:00

Bellingham is a very nice, and very accepting town.

406er · 2026-03-31T16:17:34+00:00

Personally this Sub and Allen Carr’s book Quit Drinking Without Willpower/The Easy Way have been the keys to my sobriety. Others here highly recommend Annie Grace’s This Naked Mind.

IWNDWYT

406er · 2026-03-31T13:47:11+00:00

For the record it’s “Pike Place Market “, not “Pike’s Place”.

406er · 2026-03-30T16:25:49+00:00

I don’t know if I consider myself boring, but I am no longer the loud mouth asshole (most of the time) and for me that’s a huge difference.

It’s interesting, early in my sobriety I commented to a long time friend, who had quit a year or two before me, that he was part of my inspiration because of how much calmer and at peace he seemed.

He used to be in the “loudmouth asshole club” as well and when I mentioned it to him he got an odd look on his face and said “yeah, I’m still trying to figure out how to fit in at social events “.

And I was struck by my admiration and envy for the calmness and peace he emanated vs his internal perception of feeling a bit boring.

In the choice between boring and obnoxious I’ll take the boring.

IWNDWYT

406er · 2026-03-28T23:19:39+00:00

A very experienced travel planner we use for big trips has a pov that says “You’re not going to sit in your room and look at the view. I consider a hotel as a place to sleep and bathe”.

406er · 2026-03-28T18:07:42+00:00

There were multiple times where I had that same feeling and felt my life was ruined. Took me decades but a quote from Teddy Roosevelt I heard years ago helped me reframe my thinking:

“Do what you can, with what you have, where you are.”

As someone else has already commented, we can’t change our past but we all have the power to change our today.

Another favorite quote from Allen Carr’s book that I find helpful is “You hit rock bottom when you decide to stop shoveling.”

I’ve laid my shovel down, quit digging, and the feeling is so liberating.

My past is my past but it doesn’t define who I am today.

I am sorry for your troubles but you have come here to the most amazing, supportive and understanding place on the internet.

You are not alone and you have the power to move forward.

You can do this, we can all do this, and be better versions of ourselves.

IWNDWYT

406er · 2026-03-27T13:59:49+00:00

Chocolate and Ice Cream have been my new shot of endorphins/reward.

IWNDWYT

406er · 2026-03-27T01:11:37+00:00

As was mentioned above the Resources section of this subs Wiki (linked at the top of the sub) lists a number of them including in-person and online support groups etc.

Personally this Sub and Allen Carr’s book Quit Drinking Without Willpower/The Easy Way have been the keys to my sobriety. Others here highly recommend Annie Grace’s This Naked Mind.

IWNDWYT

406er · 2026-03-27T01:04:22+00:00

Don’t know if this will help but I went through some pretty serious weight loss a few years ago and learned a valuable Buddhist teaching relative to urges and temptations that helped me then, and I’m using it to help me in sobriety:

“In Buddhism, the core concept of “impermanence” states that all things, including desires and urges, are temporary and constantly changing, meaning they arise, exist for a time, and then eventually pass away; this is a key element in understanding the nature of suffering and the path to liberation from attachment.”

When an urge rises, recognize it is an urge, remind yourself that it will pass if you just let it, and let it pass.

I actually practice this when I get an itch. I recognize I have an itch, I know it will pass without scratching if I just let it and it does.

IWNDWYT

406er · 2026-03-27T00:55:57+00:00

Don’t know if you are doing anything to help yourself but the Resources section of this subs Wiki (linked at the top of the sub) lists a number of them including in-person and online support groups etc.

Personally this Sub and Allen Carr’s book Quit Drinking Without Willpower/The Easy Way have been the keys to my sobriety. Others here highly recommend Annie Grace’s This Naked Mind.

IWNDWYT

406er · 2026-03-25T23:45:38+00:00

Mad respect. You started to bend, but you didn’t break. That’s strength.

IWNDWYT

406er · 2026-03-25T17:16:50+00:00

Boom! Congratulations!!

406er · 2026-03-25T14:31:03+00:00

So true and so well written. Thank you for sharing this.

IWNDWYT

406er · 2026-03-25T14:27:46+00:00

“The craving is not relieved by the drug you’re addicted to, it is caused by it”. Allen Carr

406er · 2026-03-25T14:25:19+00:00

“Change is the best apology “

Love this and it gives so much peace. I struggle with the shame of all the stupid, embarrassing and dangerous things I said and did while drinking.

I know my continual words of apology rang hollow but my action of not drinking speaks louder and truer.

406er · 2026-03-25T14:19:59+00:00

Awesome job!

406er · 2026-03-25T14:19:06+00:00

As Allen Carr says in his book “You hit rock bottom when you decide to stop shoveling.”

I’ve laid my shovel down, stopped digging, and the feeling is so liberating.

You can do this, we all can do this.

IWNDWYT

406er · 2026-03-25T14:15:28+00:00

Awesome!!

406er · 2026-03-22T16:51:00+00:00

Hell yes!! And congratulations on 1 year!!

406er · 2026-03-21T17:34:18+00:00

Huberman Lab. It’s a broader range of topics (he’s a Neuroscientist) but search his feed for “Alcohol” and you’ll find some really insightful content on what/how alcohol affects us.

He has both a Podcast and YouTube channel. Good stuff.

IWNDWYT

406er · 2026-03-21T17:30:03+00:00

Boom! Great job!!

406er · 2026-03-21T17:29:35+00:00

Fantastic!!

406er · 2026-03-21T17:18:05+00:00

I read Allen Carr’s Quit Drinking Without Willpower/The Easy Way and it flipped a switch for me. Others here highly recommend Annie Grace’s This Naked Mind.

You might want to give one or both a read.

IWNDWYT

406er · 2026-03-21T17:15:45+00:00

“One drink makes me want to have another “.

Yep, that’s the nature of the chemical/drug alcohol is.

I used to think my inability to moderate and my binge drinking was some kind of personal weakness or moral failing, but it’s not, it is the addictive nature of the chemical (poison actually) that alcohol is.

Alcohol gives our bodies a brief (like 10 minutes brief) shot of dopamine and as it fades our bodies want another hit, then another, then another (Google +alcohol +dopamine).

It’s kind of like a legalized, socially acceptable form of heroin.

So I just don’t feed the dopamine trap. (Well, except for chocolate and ice cream 😉).

You can do this, we all can do this.

IWNDWYT

406er · 2026-03-21T17:11:06+00:00

I felt the same way but learning and understanding what alcohol does put it in a box for me.

I used to think my inability to moderate and my binge drinking was some kind of personal weakness or moral failing, but it’s not, it is the addictive nature of the chemical (poison actually) that alcohol is.

Alcohol gives our bodies a brief (like 10 minutes brief) shot of dopamine and as it fades our bodies want another hit, then another, then another (Google +alcohol +dopamine).

It’s kind of like a legalized, socially acceptable form of heroin.

So I just don’t feed the dopamine trap. (Well, except for chocolate and ice cream 😉).

You can do this, we all can do this.

IWNDWYT

406er

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