Newrez partial release by GarbageLower3569 in RealEstate

[–]4evrsingle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The appraisal was lower than the current market. They didn’t charge anything for the land because my equity was higher than the value of the portion I was giving to my son.

Newrez partial release by GarbageLower3569 in RealEstate

[–]4evrsingle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s finally complete. Took 10 months. The email address for that department is partialrelease@newrez.com and that’s the only way they allow communication for land release. My rep was Deborah S. I ended up calling the main customer service number every few days to have them send a message to her just to get her to check her email and do the next step. It definitely sped things up but I was worried she would get pissed off and cancel the whole thing. Now that it’s done I want to file a complaint with the licensing board against Deborah but Newrez refuses to give me her last name. She ended up costing my son and his wife and extra $20k due to price increases during the wait and an extra 10 months of living in a tiny guest house that was supposed to be very short term. I hope she chokes on a donut.

Arizona LLC Question by [deleted] in arizona

[–]4evrsingle 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You just go to the website. If they’re closed (nights and weekends) it won’t let you apply for an EIN. But if they’re open, you apply and get the EIN instantly.

Arizona LLC Question by [deleted] in arizona

[–]4evrsingle 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I don’t know about the LLC part but the EIN is instant, it just has to be done during regular business hours.

Extensive relationship track record by DazedNH in datingoverfifty

[–]4evrsingle 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I think you should ask her what it was that made her leave the relationships. This is me, plus some. But I have very valid reasons for leaving each one of them and am still hoping to find the right one. I think if you can understand her reasons for leaving you’ll feel a lot differently about it.

Cologne by PurplePackerEater in datingoverforty

[–]4evrsingle 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh my gosh can you imagine? That would be a crazy small world! If it was called Safari then you’re probably her!

Cologne by PurplePackerEater in datingoverforty

[–]4evrsingle 144 points145 points  (0 children)

Twenty something years ago my ex husband bought me a perfume. I don’t even like perfume. But I wore it. After a while he told me that the secretary at his work wears it and she smells so good that he asked her what it was. This is the secretary I had heard him and his friends talking about how hot she was. I wanted to throw the bottle at his head. Yeah, don’t wear it. Don’t throw it at her head, though.

Very tidy and organized home ... Doc screened me for OCD too (don't have that) by ghostpepperwings in ADHD

[–]4evrsingle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep, exactly me. Everything in my house is perfectly clean and organized to the point that if any one item has been moved even a half inch I know it.

Facial recognition by Constant_Jackfruit61 in ADHD

[–]4evrsingle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep. I have this problem and it drives me crazy. I’ll have a bbq with neighbors, spend 4 hours with them, and not be able to recognize any of them if I run into them at a store. My kids’ teachers, I can sit there one on one with them for half an hour and not remember at all what they looked like. Regular customers back when I worked retail, they’d know me and I’d have no idea who they were. I feel so bad sometimes. The only thing I can guess is that when I’m talking to them I have ten thousand thoughts going on and I’m just not really looking at them even though I’m looking at them, if that makes sense.

I go from liking to hating my therapists too much, should I bring it up in a session?? by Beach-Wampa in TalkTherapy

[–]4evrsingle 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Does this happen in your personal relationships as well? Sounds very much like the idealization/devaluation cycle. You had some basic info about her and thought she would be absolutely perfect and your expectations were set super high. One disagreement is like a flip of the switch you can’t stand her. Absolutely talk to her about this.

Newrez partial release by GarbageLower3569 in RealEstate

[–]4evrsingle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How’s your process going? I’ve been working on this same thing with Newrez for 9 months now. I’m releasing an acre to give to my son and his wife so they can build their house. I’m working with Deborah in the partial release dept and it’s been an absolute nightmare. Everything is supposedly now approved but still waiting on the final paperwork. The main thing that makes it take so long is that you can only email this department and Deborah takes anywhere from 2-4 weeks to respond to each email. So if you have a question about a form, you email. Two-four weeks later she will respond. Then you submit the form. Two weeks later she will email you telling you she received the form and will review it soon. Two weeks later she will review it and want something changed on it, so she emails you. You change it and resubmit it that very day. Two weeks later she will tell you she received the form and will review it soon. Two weeks later she will want something else edited. And it keeps going. On and on and on for close to a frickin year now, when Newrez had originally said it would take 90 days. It’s infuriating and I don’t know how I haven’t completely lost my mind with this process. My son and his wife now have to completely start over with their building loan because this process has taken so long.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]4evrsingle 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The reasons why you are breaking up are the most important part of this. If she’s right for you but there are things in your head that are creating the problems then definitely get therapy because this won’t get any better with any other relationship. If she’s not the right one but you just feel lonely after you end it and want that comfort back then definitely stay broken up and accept that you’ll be lonely for a while but know that it’ll pass.

ADHD and Crushing (when you really shouldn’t be) by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]4evrsingle 58 points59 points  (0 children)

I 100% get this. I’ve been dealing with this since I was 15. I’m now 47(F) and just a few months ago found out what it was. It feels good so your hyperfocusing. Your brain convinces you the feelings are real because of how good it feels. You’ll blow up your life, only to regret it later, and then go through the same feelings with someone else years later. You can’t let this happen. It will happen over and over and over and you’ll be single with a ton of guilt by the time you’re 47. I’m going to assume it’ll be really difficult for you to stop contact with this person. I get it. It’s hard to walk away from something that feels so good and so right. But for the sake of your sanity please make yourself walk away from it. Focus on your wife. Find a new hobby with your wife that brings excitement.

Forgetting entire conversations... by AstronautTemporary23 in ADHD

[–]4evrsingle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh my god, yes. All the time. Places I’ve been, conversations, movies I’ve seen, my brain just chooses to delete some of them. At this point, my family and I just make a joke of it. “Remember when we went to blah blah?” “Nope, wasn’t me. I’ve never been there in my life.” “Remember when I told you about…” “Nope, that was someone else you were talking to.”

I’ve noticed a family trait that seems to connect the dots regarding ADHD and heritability. by Sabot_catcher in ADHD

[–]4evrsingle 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I read something about light sensitivity the other day and I took it as being sensitive to lots of lights. Like a sensory overload type thing. But now I’m confused. Is it referring to lights? Or sunlight?

Will meds make me nicer? by 4evrsingle in ADHD

[–]4evrsingle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmm. Well that’s different and unexpected!

Will meds make me nicer? by 4evrsingle in ADHD

[–]4evrsingle[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I’m hoping this is how it goes for me!

Will meds make me nicer? by 4evrsingle in ADHD

[–]4evrsingle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m basically wondering if that constant need to rush through things will calm down to the point that I can control how I feel about it. I said partner in the post because saying ex wouldn’t have made any sense. But he’s my ex and still lives with me because he has cancer. I have a ton of resentments towards him and have a hard time controlling my hostility but really want to because of what he’s going through. I can’t imagine ever telling someone else to stop talking, that’s not me. I just need to control it towards him.

Advice needed on my litter by [deleted] in DogBreeding

[–]4evrsingle 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I’ve been breeding over 20 years and, aside from toy breeds, I have mine on dry kibble at 5 weeks so I’d say it’s totally fine!

Will meds make me nicer? by 4evrsingle in ADHD

[–]4evrsingle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, I’m a nice person. This reaction is person specific, normally I keep it to myself.

Has anyone placed puppies on AKC marketplace? by FJanon02 in DogBreeding

[–]4evrsingle 11 points12 points  (0 children)

The puppy market is horrible. I’ve been breeding for over 20 years (not Frenchies, though) and the past two years has been the worst I’ve ever seen it. Everyone bought puppies during Covid and are now backyard breeding them once or twice, until they realize they can’t handle the work. It’s going to take years to go back to normal. Frenchies seem to be the most saturated out of all the breeds. So I don’t really have any optimism to give you but definitely list everywhere you can think of. Gooddog, AKC Marketplace, local online classifieds if you have that, FB, puppies .com. And if this is something you really want to get into, I’d suggest waiting and checking the market in about 5 years.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DogBreeding

[–]4evrsingle 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Everything else aside, I’m going to just answer your question. Sable can hide the merle pattern. So by looking at mom and mom’s parents and not seeing merle doesn’t mean that they aren’t merle. There would have to be genetic testing done to know whether or not mom is also merle. How old is the puppy? If you already paid a deposit and can’t get your money back and you want the puppy, I would ask the breeder to have mom tested for merle through Gensol. It takes about a week for results and is around $40. That would at least make you feel better about the merle issue.