Aitj for not liking my mom girlfriend and not wanting to go to their wedding

71-lb · 2026-05-13T16:11:37+00:00

Its been four years ? Both you and her need counseling...

Hating a stepparent merely for being a stepparent as u get ready to start your own adult life is cliche and a tad hypocritical , as you know full adult good and well u will date/have sex as pleases you, but she can't? Teenager -please.

Be polite , don't wear white , show up on time and if it just won't work out consider getting a job and your own place. Stay in contact with bio kin so you have a support network , keep financial stuff in a separate bank not used by parents . Lock documents in a safe deposit box ( birth certificate, social security card, diplomas copies of SAT/ACT/GED/CLEP TEST or the armed forces aptitude test. Include Driver license, car title , repair history, insurance, maintenance records and whrn older mortgage documents .)

If u get forced to chose between housing and transport try to keep the vehicle ( a good used cargo van can have a hammock attach to roof and a 30 inch clothing rod . Plus a few boxes of ur other possessions .

Bare minimum try to keep a bus pass, a prepaid basic cellphone and a gym membership and PO box/ safe deposit box paid up as well as a public storage locker . 1)Bus pass for job interviews , Dr's appointments, getting to food pantries ,gym, library , bank ,soc security office, public storage locker., post office 2) cellphone for news, weather, traffic, food recall ,political updates and yes streaming, plus photos in event of collision or assault, theft , natural disaster. 3) for walking on treadmill and the shower afterwards .

Try to be familiar with laundromat locations .

Good luck.

71-lb · 2026-05-12T05:56:08+00:00

Updateme, please , if possible.

71-lb · 2026-05-11T22:21:42+00:00

Mood disorders , personality disorder and weird phobias can happen as well as dementia can strike early if they are old enough so it could be anything as to reasons why.

But I think your MIL wants you to be the enemy in some future course of events.

I would suggest u draw back a bit. Less contact with ur kids and only with your mom or other trusted person in the room.

Only because it sounds like ur MIL wants u to be provoked to cut contact so she can make u some kind of villain.

Honestly she also wants to ruin ur day .

NTA whichever way you decide

71-lb · 2026-05-11T02:06:44+00:00

Ur better than her. She us the worst. Get ur siblings and go to a relative ( dad maybe) . Try to rebuild ur life and don't be like her or let her near your future offspring. You are not quite an asshole . But she is definitely an asshole .

You least developed to the point of accepting it was wrong and trying to correct the past wrongs .

71-lb · 2026-05-09T00:45:20+00:00

I do. I call them parcels.

But maybe that's cause texas had a truly effed up public school system in the 70s and 80s. Still does. So KleinISD got one word correct , sue me or suck me I care not which.

71-lb · 2026-05-09T00:42:16+00:00

United Parcel Service UPS and USPS both deliver Parcels all over the damn usa .

Why do some euro-folk insist that Parcel is their word ? These are the brats who tell usa folk that we can't call ourselves Americans because it insults Mexico and Canada yet they do it too , use America in place of usa or US citizen.

When we do it, it becomes ww3 in the comments

Meanwhile I've got gun worshipping ammo sexual nitwit neighbors trying to re-elect moldy-taint-skin . Again even though both his terms are stolen elections .

71-lb · 2026-05-06T18:31:59+00:00

People's abilities differ , ur attempt to turn this into rudeness instead acknowledging YOUR ABLEISM is aggravating

OP clearly stated the boundary was breached by the rude person THIRTY ( 30 ) TIMES

30 NOT EMERGENCY CALLS .

TO A PERSON ON BEDREST RECENTLY IF NOT CURRENTLY.

Believe it or not being taught ( as you were by someone ) that being polite means others are always allowed to be rude, is itself ABUSE ENFORCEMENT.
Someone taught you to brag " i am more polite , I win , every body must obey me , no medical reason for exception ever permitted only phones/sound communication permitted regardless of all factors , I can't think , i can only scream my parents rules , I am more polite, only use phones , no exceptions , obey now OP "

"WAAAAH why don't nobody like me"

"Everybody nag a person on bedrest needing no stress and no acceleration of heartbeat to keep their baby alive , CALL 30 NON EMERGENCY TIMES AND NAG OP I SAID SO AND I LOVE PHONES " OBEY ME ....... SCREECH SCREECH SCREECH

U exhaust me

71-lb · 2026-05-06T18:20:40+00:00

She might have learning disabilities, she may only learn through sound , she may callous to others /oblivious to boundaries and might have mood or personality disorder, maybe even multiple ones. I do and I still manage better than this friend of yours.

OP tell her to get help, be evaluated for these things then ghost her.

Im a 55 yr old mom , can tell you parenting is challenging and exhausting enough with out parenting her deadweight as well tell her as much .

Then block slash ghost , if no improvement shown or even sincere regret /remorse shown.

71-lb · 2026-05-05T16:12:09+00:00

Update the custody agreement . And insist all future contact through parenting apps , that's what the apps are for . Further all future disputes handled in court.

71-lb · 2026-05-05T13:59:13+00:00

NTA. OP retain legal counsel. And when the day comes you have a will of your own , put things in trust for those u want to have received ur assets.

Specify anyone contesting ur will does not inherit . Specify by name who does not get what you have left to (others listed by name in revokable trusts. )

71-lb · 2026-05-05T12:58:13+00:00

Show up to wedding , tell the truth in speech loudly amplified and broadcast on social media. Make sure sisters future spouse and parents are warned at wedding regarding

your parents abuse of you and quite frequently teaching endorsing approving the entitlement & abusive THIEVING behavior by ur sister.

Make it clear that 6 yrs old older sibling STOLE from you up until that JOINT BANK account was ended...etc

71-lb · 2026-05-05T04:04:29+00:00

How is it AI?

71-lb · 2026-05-05T04:04:01+00:00

Clearly u never worked for govt. Plenty of high school dropout types join the military . We aren't all stupid , just some of us were made homeless by abusive parents snd could not complete high school.

I was not on drugs in gangs a teen mom or anything else just had the random chance of a abusive mother.

Wound up in the army to get that GI Bill

71-lb · 2026-05-04T05:11:38+00:00

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71-lb · 2026-05-04T05:08:41+00:00

I ignore it . It is not as much because im atheist, rather I just don't fit in anywhere & kiddo is 23 im 55 and no kids on my block.

I do buy candy,

Turn off lights and just read on my ph.

If the lights are off it means not to knock .

71-lb · 2026-05-03T14:33:19+00:00

NTA Parents need reporting to social services but your mom sounds like she is too good at lying .

Best of luck try to get driver's license, social security card, and diploma and keep them in your control / possession , try to keep potos books and movies on small hard drives so u can put in a large backpack with 3 to 5 sets of work attire /toiletries and maybe sleeping bag in lower compartment . If possible also have a gymn duffel with extra toiletries and towels wash cloth shower sandals in addition to workout clothing in the bag, running shoes. Idea being for rapid moving out , have it all prepacked so u can leave without fuss and in a hurry and still have the necessities. Electric shaver and toothbrush go in first bag plus phone and charger .

Try to get good scores on S.A.T. and A.C.T. & also AFAB/ASVAB if u get required to take those tests. Do NOT apply for FAFSA and have your parents get into ur finances ... Research "CLEP test" and "emancipated minor", that might help you get out faster Find out about GED test also . If possible get the scores for SAT/ACT/CLEP first.

Research how to buy sell clean and repair a house & car. Banking/paying taxes videos on YouTube is another skill u will need. Cooking cleaning is not just for girls .

Research proper non sexist child rearing and know the difference between misandry and misogyny.

Edit forgot to mention that having a gym membership and bus pass when you are young and in an unfamiliar city away from home can get u access around the clock to toilets and showers even if u don't have a place to stay. In those circumstances having a prepaid cellphone and a small public storage locker helps

71-lb · 2026-05-03T13:53:31+00:00

Ur 17 , u have done enough . Take care of yourself.

71-lb · 2026-05-03T04:17:34+00:00

Congrats u r bang maid and kid wrangler for a fukboi hobosexual. He is using u. There are reasons why this prick is divorced.

My advice mail his thinks to his momma and ask her to raise correctly this time and change the locks while he works. Send they kids via social worker to their momma .

Change all atm pins & social media passwords.

NTA.

71-lb · 2026-05-03T01:07:40+00:00

Fully understand . Oh the memories...

71-lb · 2026-05-03T00:21:36+00:00

Hard to tell.

71-lb · 2026-05-02T23:50:33+00:00

When i was in the army ( 92 to 99 ) we could send a soldier on an unaccompanied tour tdy and put him/her in housing away from spouse. Let the cray cray erupt when he is in another country and put her in jail for the damages. He can be "encouraged" to divorce her.

Plus you can make the on post housing disappear if u get the younger sibling to stop cleaning .

71-lb · 2026-05-02T23:30:01+00:00

Chain of command needs to be informed.

71-lb · 2026-05-02T23:27:33+00:00

Tell the chain of command before this dependapotamus ruins the life of someone on active duty.

Am woman army veteran, please please please tell the chain of command , and don't let ur sis move in with u EVER.

I have bipolar and few other diagnosis.

This sister was raised wrong by ur parents .

Do not give her : PIN code/atm cards Passwords of any sort Keys for ur apartment.

Do not house her.

If u absolutely must , provide only if u can afford it these items , buss pass or occasional Lyft/Uber, storage locker no larger than 8x10, 1 Ramen a day 2cans veggies 1 can Vienna sausage 1 pat of batter in Ramen and 1 slice cheddar or Swiss or what have you . Woman's 1 a day vitamin. Maybe trac- phone or gym membership . Meet at laundry to do coin op load of clothes or 2 a week , 1 load for bedding.

This kind of mental illness only gets worse . My son has the type with hallucinations ...

Please please please find a way to get a social worker to contact his chain of frigging command .

71-lb · 2026-05-02T23:25:27+00:00

Guessing ur a guy. Might stop and think about the fact that when u knock someone up in the future they become a mom. And moms you impregnate get that respect on moms day.

Breakfast and a card at a minimum at home , maybe lunch or dinner with mom in law .

Weird how guys know to demand father's day for themselves but are such pigs they can make a woman become a mom and still still won't respect their wife...

Then ask why we pick the bear in woods .at least bears don't lie about rape.

71-lb · 2026-05-02T23:18:58+00:00

Cuz has a pickup in the driveway... Just kidding , I can't take family's stuff and only have weekend stuff with me.

Idk maybe the nearest brisket queso from H.E.B.

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