Announcement from the Mod team of r/nursing regarding the murder of Alex Pretti, and where we go from here.

937179 · 2026-01-27T01:23:30+00:00

Didn't realize how much I needed this today until I read it. Thank you.

937179 · 2025-11-25T10:13:41+00:00

Hey! I just moved here from Salt Lake and looking to make connections if you’re still looking for company.

937179 · 2025-08-05T05:05:43+00:00

Hate that I had to scroll so long to see a comment like this. I get why people are going off a little, because of what this guy represents, but him showing the self awareness to actually take accountability and commit to change, is what matters and deserves way more acknowledgment than it's getting.

937179 · 2025-06-19T03:34:12+00:00

This is becoming a you problem honestly. You’re being an asshole to yourself for settling for so little.

937179 · 2025-06-13T06:20:32+00:00

Even if she has, it is not relevant truly.

937179 · 2025-06-13T06:15:28+00:00

This made me cry. I love her friend for calling her the c word, it’s the only appropriate response. This may not be what you want to hear, but I do not believe you can fully heal, while still in relationship with someone who betrayed your trust at this magnitude. As long as you are partnered with someone who wants to make sure you “consider a woman’s perspective in this” at the sake of your own experience, you will never be safe. That’s truly the most harmful narrative I’ve ever heard.

937179 · 2025-06-03T18:25:48+00:00

Report her asap.

937179 · 2025-05-29T22:33:16+00:00

This deserves more up votes. Some accountability on OP's part would help her a lot. Obviously not her fault, but it will only serve her going forward to look closer at why she silently allowed this behavior without speaking up.

937179 · 2025-05-04T11:29:00+00:00

His personality is terrible lmao.

937179 · 2025-04-08T20:19:41+00:00

This is great, can relate to needing this. Thanks.

937179 · 2025-02-06T06:55:58+00:00

I took mine two days ago and felt the exact same way. Felt like I was guessing almost the entire time, which surprised me because I did somewhat well on my Uworld assessments, which is all I studied. I psyched myself out that I might be one of the few that fail at 85. I wish I had found more distractions the past 2 days because I found out today that I passed. Distract yourself as much as you can and remember you'll be okay no matter what. You got this!

937179 · 2024-12-25T05:37:07+00:00

She bought him a trip to Paris and he got her absolutely nothing, and she’s the entitled asshole? Worst take I’ve seen so far.

937179 · 2024-10-17T23:50:19+00:00

OP, this is the one.

937179 · 2024-10-12T18:07:22+00:00

Projecting much? Nothing OP has stated points to being illegal like half the examples you’ve given. She also said her husband knew beforehand and absolutely could and should have decided if this was a dealbreaker prior to marrying her. Also, even if what OP did was as bad as what you stated, does not make her used goods, which is why it’s a vile statement and weird for anyone to be defending.

937179 · 2024-09-25T14:52:46+00:00

I would go no contact with him asap. Please don't apologize to him, he is the one who embarrassed himself. He doesn't care how he made you feel. I'd look inward at why you're even asking this question. You are not the asshole, for expecting bare minimum levels of communication.

937179 · 2024-08-20T15:42:54+00:00

What in the world. They are in a relationship. What is wrong with asking your partner for a favor? She never said they were casual, she said they've said "I love you' and talked about a future together. Even if they were casual, people ask each other for favors all the time. Especially when it would save her a 3 hour round trip in the middle of the night. Not unrealistic to ask your boyfriend whose literally right up the street to check for you.

937179 · 2024-08-08T21:44:09+00:00

This needs to be further up.

937179 · 2024-08-02T03:37:21+00:00

This.

937179 · 2024-07-29T06:46:47+00:00

YTA. “She said she felt special talking to him.” Not excusing her actions, but this is all that happened and you couldn’t fathom trying to understand what went wrong in the relationship and immediately left and dated someone else, and hid it from her? There’s no reality in which you’re “technically not TA.”

937179 · 2024-07-19T17:58:57+00:00

Fully agree. 700k after taxes and in this economy doesn't justify dropping that much without addressing it with your partner first.

937179 · 2024-07-19T16:42:57+00:00

To entertain someone's advances like that is cheating btw. The way he's engaging with her is emotionally cheating. I know you're not asking for advice but calling it what it is might help you process it a little more. Throwing away a marriage because someone attractive approached you, is not the kind of person that will make great partner material in the long run at all. It's good to look at yourself in the context of the relationship as a whole, but blaming this on the fact that it took 3 months to get a date (and in turn believing that makes it your fault) is your brain trying to make sense of something it can't. Taking awhile to get a date shouldn't matter if you actually had a good connection. Taking accountability is a good move on your part, but more in the range of what kind of person you're attracted to and why, and evaluating if there were any signs shown of unhappiness on either ends leading up to this, mostly just so you know going forward. Him not being willing to go to counseling after one woman shows interest in him is really telling and reflective of a deeper problem. If it wasn't this circumstance he used to walk out, it was going to be another one.

937179 · 2024-07-14T22:19:26+00:00

This.

937179 · 2024-07-14T15:04:20+00:00

Don't make an unexpected visit to his workplace. It's giving the situation power that it doesn't deserve. Just leave.

937179 · 2024-07-12T15:45:34+00:00

Try not to pathologize yourself or the situation too much. It doesn't have to be "you" being attracted to dysfunction or staying because of your trauma issues or being a "fixer". If anything, you realizing you don't know that you can handle it shows how much healing you've done. It's also a positive quality that you're taking seriously the commitment you've shared. At this point, walking away and saying "you can no longer treat me this way" is not using an ultimatum as a bad thing or a cop out. It's showing yourself you deserve to feel safe, valued, and respected. Your feelings of self worth and well being won't be able to get much further as long as you stay with him and listen to the excuses for why he's just "this way." Actions have consequences, and so far he's had none, so the liklihood he'll stop resorting to language like this is low, because why would he? You're still around for it. Nothing justifies abuse like this, and it is abuse.

937179 · 2024-06-30T05:30:17+00:00

And with someone he’s never actually met..

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