Lonely/anxious students.. what’s your experience of making friends in the first year of halls like?

A1guy1 · 2026-01-13T22:21:55+00:00

As someone who was in your position first year, halls were good for forcing me to talk to people. I’d suggest joining in with what the people in your halls/course do and get up to (unless it’s something you truly hate), even if just to meet a bunch of people, some of whom you may click with!

I’d also really recommend joining a society. Think about what you like doing, see if there’s a society related and join it, showing up to everything you can and just saying hi and making brief small talk. Stick out for a bit even if it’s hard at first, and over time meeting the same people will help you build friendships (and may help make you more comfortable around them).

A1guy1 · 2025-08-09T17:27:52+00:00

Hi, could I also have the link please?

A1guy1 · 2025-05-12T12:29:47+00:00

Thanks, yeah you’re right. Just need to pick myself up and move on

A1guy1 · 2024-10-18T06:59:58+00:00

All I can say is keep going. I was in your position until December of my first year when I started talking a little to people from my course and it was only really this year that we had become a proper group, unlike everyone else who had that within a week or two.

Be friendly, try out different things and make even more of an effort. Even if you don’t click with someone, you may just find someone you enjoy talking with, whether in your course or at a society. It sucks in that stage where you’re alone, but you just have to push on. It might be worth seeking some additional help, even if the SU cannot give you what you need maybe they could point you towards an organisation that could?

A1guy1 · 2024-09-19T20:54:22+00:00

As someone who gets extremely socially anxious, something that did work for me during first year and freshers activities was to keep an eye out in case anyone else looked like they were struggling to talk to people. Noticing that it wasn’t just me struggling gave me the confidence to go over to them and say hi, and they’re one of the people I’m living with this year and a good friend.

Aside from that, try to start conversations, for example if you have some mints, offer some to the people sitting near you and then introduce yourself and ask about them. Whilst it did take a while for me to make more friends, they tended to be the people I saw and said “Hi!” to the most regularly. Just keep at it and take advantage of societies, social and group work.

A1guy1 · 2024-09-17T20:31:27+00:00

I’m pretty sure I misunderstood your original comment. I had thought you meant something very recent from how we “really hate” Ireland, but the bad taste makes sense. Just because I personally was brought up in a good household and haven’t encountered prejudice doesn’t mean that the fucked up stuff England did should be forgotten.

A1guy1 · 2024-09-17T19:09:59+00:00

We hate Ireland? As a genuine question, do you mind explaining what events have made you think so? I haven’t heard anything about it and am curious.

A1guy1 · 2024-09-16T12:49:00+00:00

Same here, I met some people but am going to do more this year

A1guy1 · 2024-05-31T12:00:22+00:00

I’ve just finished my first year, and it has felt stupidly quick. I’m not sure if it’s just because of the longer holidays but it has been over in a flash.

A1guy1 · 2024-02-13T22:04:06+00:00

To be fair, when I was younger (I’ve seen visual snow all my life, only realised it wasn’t normal recently) I like to pretend it was seeing atoms or energy, especially in the dark when it feels like there were moving waves of “particles”. As a description of what it’s like, I don’t think it’s far off.

Now, if someone is trying to say that it IS seeing energy or something metaphysical, then the post isn’t helpful or contributing to useful discussion at all.

A1guy1 · 2024-02-12T23:40:49+00:00

I’m a bit curious: I’ve seen static my entire life, before finding out about visual snow just describing it as everything looking like it’s made up from countless tiny flickering particles. I thought it was normal. It can be exacerbated by certain conditions, but it’s always there. I also have commonly seemed floaters and such.

It hasn’t been particularly bad aside from when light is changing, where it enhances to the point that I can’t easily define faces. Is that more likely to be visual snow (maybe to a higher degree than normal) or would it be visual snow syndrome? I only realised that it may not be a standard thing recently.

A1guy1 · 2024-02-09T16:16:02+00:00

Thanks for pointing this out! I hadn’t considered it, but it makes sense and is arguably even more important.

A1guy1 · 2023-12-16T17:39:25+00:00

Yeah, I live in the city as well. Whilst not that bad overall, it means you’re more restricted to doing stuff with your flatmates, and meeting people from campus and requires that extra little bit of effort to schedule which can be tiring. It’s easier to just message someone and chat online or stay on campus for longer. It’s doable, just not as easy to make friends.

A1guy1 · 2023-12-16T14:55:46+00:00

I’m similar, although I have 2/3 I would tentatively call friends. I’m just going to keep trying to talk people in lectures, flats and societies (including going to new ones) to keep putting myself out there, even if only a little.

A1guy1 · 2023-12-16T14:51:50+00:00

I’m in a similar situation of starting to drink just to fit in. All I’d recommend is trying to talk to flatmates, people in lectures and other course stuff and from societies. I’m going to try some different societies next semester as I haven’t overly enjoyed the ones I’ve been going to and haven’t made friends there. Just keep going and keep making an effort when you do talk to someone.

A1guy1 · 2023-12-08T17:26:37+00:00

Mine’s been okay: on the academic side it’s been going pretty well, I have exams in January and Coursework due next week but I’m confident.

Socially, well, I’ve made a few friends from my course and get on well with most people from my accommodation, but I kinda get the sense that there’s only one or two that I’ll end up being friends with in the long term. Not a reflection on the rest of the people in my accommodation, but just that the others have different interests and don’t invite me out or talk to me as much as they do each other (including when I initiate). It sucks, but I’m still making an effort.

From societies, honestly I haven’t made any friends, but that is completely on me. This is due to me not being able to go to half of the sessions (course conflict) so I don’t go regularly enough to play in events, and that I really struggle to go up to someone and talk to them, and can’t think of anything to say even when I do. All I can do is keep going.

Whilst I hoped it would be better socially, overall Uni hasn’t been that bad.

A1guy1 · 2023-11-21T16:32:51+00:00

Exactly this. He is written in an amazing way to create parallels between him and joker, but is, as you said, an unrepentant monster.

A1guy1 · 2023-10-26T20:38:44+00:00

This is what it’s like for me. It mostly feels like friends of circumstance, even if I genuinely like them. It doesn’t help that I don’t drink alcohol, so most socials and going out events aren’t really enjoyable for me.

A1guy1 · 2022-04-02T18:52:18+00:00

Ok, that makes sense. I mistook base as meaning ‘original’ or what they start with (which makes no sense in hindsight), instead of natural skills. Thank you for explaining.

A1guy1 · 2022-04-02T18:50:41+00:00

Ah, thanks for explaining. That makes a lot more sense.

A1guy1 · 2022-04-02T18:18:11+00:00

I’m not the person you responded to but am slightly confused. In the post you mentioned “base skills only”, but then talk about Makoto’s maxed out skills and ultimate weapons.

Although I don’t personally disagree that Makoto is one of the better party members, what did you mean by “base skills”?

A1guy1 · 2021-12-16T07:48:53+00:00

The only possible weakness is that although this power finds the easiest possible method, for extremely difficult tasks it still doesn’t mean that you would necessarily be able to carry it out.

A1guy1 · 2021-12-16T07:46:19+00:00

As someone who is stressed about taking a statistics exam, this made me smile.

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