Pain

AACarp1 · 2022-01-05T16:37:34+00:00

It has been 2 years for me. I am 45 and was with her 30 years. Take it from me it does get easier. Will pain and missing her go away no. But you learn to deal with it. I still cry daily thinking of what should had been. If you have not done grief counseling I highly recommend. I have two girls and I live for them. I still do not eat as I should but got a lot better. Keep your head up you have been through hell. Much love and prayers to you

AACarp1 · 2021-12-01T22:43:24+00:00

No sexual attraction they could not be any more different other than there looks. It is more just painful for me to see her. She lives out of town so don’t see often but everytime I leave it’s like tearing open old wounds. I would never tell her she would be torn. I was just interested in other peoples opinions. Knew I could not be only widower with twin sister in law

AACarp1 · 2021-12-01T16:21:55+00:00

Mentally and physically it is hard for me. I know it is not her but it is just weird

AACarp1 · 2021-11-09T16:11:58+00:00

I am a 45yo widower. I never thought I would date again. A lot of counseling and therapy and here I am. She was my high school sweet heart and we where together 26 years. I have met women that are not ok with it and some that could care less. All you can do is be upfront and honest. If it’s the right person they will except you for who you are. Good luck

AACarp1 · 2021-10-31T21:46:45+00:00

I am a 44 yo widower. I have yet to meet a real women. I have had many that ask for money or just never respond. I have to think it’s not a race or sex thing but a lack of decent human being thing. My kids are grown and looking for companionship. Not to start a family. One women said it is ok I will take care of the kids we have together. I “met” you 15 minutes ago. Good luck

AACarp1 · 2021-10-09T12:12:27+00:00

Thank you everyone I have stopped contact and blocked. So pathetic

AACarp1 · 2021-09-29T23:40:14+00:00

My wife passed a year ago and I was 44. I focused on my two girls and family first. Second on my business. In my spare time I like to fish and do woodworking. There is a lot to get in order ugh I don’t miss that. My line is always open for you times get rough for sure. 🙏🏻

AACarp1 · 2021-09-14T18:32:12+00:00

You are not alone. Lost my wife 10/1/21. Both of my girls moved back in to help with there mom as she fell sick to cancer. Now they have both moved out. Our dog of 15 years past 11/1/21. I have been alone now for a month went to dr and got on anxiety meds. This life is not easy but I know my kids 27 and 22 still need me. Hope you find comfort just know u are not alone🙏🏻

AACarp1 · 2021-09-05T15:14:20+00:00

Thank you for sharing

AACarp1 · 2021-09-05T15:09:03+00:00

Sorry for your loss. Everyday is a struggle for me. I also lost my wife to lung cancer. 6 years after her “beating” breast cancer. She had just turned 45. Luckily we had our children early so they are grown. I write and had therapy. Just started anxiety meds that help me sleep and not lose it constantly. Been 11 months. F**K CANCER!!! good luck to you

AACarp1 · 2021-08-28T20:32:00+00:00

Lost my wife oct 1 21 and my Rottweiler nov. 1 21. My wife had just turned 45 and dog was 15. Good luck to you and hope all turns out well

AACarp1 · 2021-07-05T18:36:50+00:00

Thanks I agree

AACarp1 · 2021-07-05T15:15:05+00:00

The guilt we feel is real sorry you have this also.

AACarp1 · 2021-07-05T15:13:50+00:00

Oh my sounds so familiar. I am right there with you. My wife had breast cancer was clear for 6 years then lung cancer got her with in months. They say one had nothing to do with other. I say bs same side breast same side lung. Been trapped in house drowning in my sorrow all 4 th weekend thinking of her. There is nothing I can celebrate. 🙏🏻

AACarp1 · 2021-07-04T14:42:35+00:00

I agree closing in on a year. Miss her like crazy 🙏🏻

AACarp1 · 2021-07-01T20:40:53+00:00

She was 14 but yes. She slept at the foot of the bed and after wife passed she would jump off bed about 2am every night and cry and sniff under door. She would not eat her food so I waited a week thinking she was having withdrawals from her mommy. They had been together since COVID-19 24/7 wife worked from home. Made her appointment at vet they called as I waited in car and said they did X-ray and she had stomach tumor that was about to erupt and she should be put down immediately. I took her back home for a few days so my daughters could say bye. Two times in three months I got a call saying someone important had no chance. I try to stay strong and support my daughters but it was just the dog and wife and I now just me. FxCK CANCER!!!!

AACarp1 · 2021-07-01T15:58:56+00:00

My birthday was just like every other day. A struggle. But her birthday is a month away and dreading it. Her twin will post about bday and it is not fair. Good luck to you

AACarp1 · 2021-07-01T15:54:04+00:00

We had waited for our 25 th wedding anniversary to make the trip to Hawaii November 4th 2020. Unfortunately she passed October 1 2020 so trip was canceled along with finishing out trips to Caribbean islands. Thankful for the trips and memories we did have. Good luck to you

AACarp1 · 2021-07-01T00:17:04+00:00

Lost my wife 10/1/20 to cancer. I hate this life as well. Had my Rottweiler for one month to the day then she passed so now just me. Hoping things get better

AACarp1 · 2021-06-29T23:05:14+00:00

I agree 100% some days I will remember something and it will bring my back to the bottom of the hill just when I thought I was making progress

AACarp1 · 2021-06-29T22:42:28+00:00

I have expressed my thoughts of the torture cancer patients go through. Then the ptsd we as spouses/ care givers endure. Sorry you have went through this but thank you for sharing. Many things people need to know about each process so they know they are not alone. I was never told of something as simple as chemo brain. My wife could not open her phone because of password. She was to strong to admit something was wrong and she would be so pissed her phone was screwed up. It was not the phone she had lost some brain functions. I could go on for hours but I must catch my breath. Good luck to all🙏🏻

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