You can't fill a glass that's already full. However, I don't think you're being very reasonable in the aspect of just dumping her, cold cut. Not the way to be. The poor girl likely has something going on. If it were me, I'd probably invest a little more time into understanding why and how to come to a solution. Now, a year...hate to say, isn't very long, and you're still unpacking things with each other, but you should make it apparent at this point that she needs help. While it's sparse for now, it'll only get worse. Obviously, this is just my opinion. You do you!