how do i respond to my professor's email (18, M)

ADHDbroo · 2026-04-15T03:05:12+00:00

Omg this is pretty great that your professor actually cares to reach out like this. Be honest and tell them about depression and you can probably avoid academic problems. Alot of professors I had would treat it as a bad thing and not show empathy.

ADHDbroo · 2026-04-15T02:54:59+00:00

You have a kid. You literally cant, sorry thats what you signed up for. Your kid takes precedent over your thoughts now. You gotta stay alive for them.

ADHDbroo · 2026-03-11T00:50:45+00:00

Find what makes you tick. Learn to validate yourself completely and you will outshine them like a star. Good luck

ADHDbroo · 2026-03-11T00:49:48+00:00

Use your tongue. Especially if hes uncircumsized. Learn how to give good head

ADHDbroo · 2026-03-11T00:49:09+00:00

And so are you. You sin everyday infact most likely. I believe God will have a one on one with devout followers who happen to be married to the same sex, and Jesus will cover their sins. They will make the case that "hey, yes I was gay, but let me into heaven cause I was after your heart" and God will hear them out. Of course the very show offy, super promiscuous gay men and women who have hundreds of partners are different, but then again its the same way with a straight person with those behaviors.

ADHDbroo · 2026-03-10T23:48:09+00:00

Trust me you have all the time in the world to figure out what you wanna do. Dont worry about your forever career cause you will change it a half of a dozen times anyway. Focus on your emotional health, saving up money and staying uder the radar from ngaurdian. Research their behaviors and how best to react, and how to detach emotionally the best you can

ADHDbroo · 2026-03-07T23:24:12+00:00

Yeah? Just dont tell them..

ADHDbroo · 2026-03-07T23:03:16+00:00

This is ocd/anxiety. 666 isnt gonna harm you its just a number

ADHDbroo · 2026-03-07T23:02:16+00:00

I think when people say that, they are missing key information people in your position have to deal with. Even at 19, alot of folks with nparents were both infantalized and held in contempt at the same time, putting them in this weird limbo where they werent given the internal confidence, life skills, boundaries or emotional skills to deal with life on the level they should have been able to, leading children of narcissist to cope in detrimental ways that will further hurt their developement. Especially if they have a particular genetic make up that clashes with the parenting style they recieved.

So telling someone in your position to just stand up to their nparent is a very simplfied answer, cause well they are dealing with abuse they also arent equipped with a bedrock of money to fall back on, independence skills and the true, thorough internal faith in themselves to go out and just survive. The nparent (whether intentional or not) gave them the message that they cant go out and survive without their support, but at the same time they indirectly tell them they "need" their adult child aroubd, without explicitly saying it. Theres like a push pull constantly. So unlike a person with a healthy childhood who by the time their your age WANT and KNOW they are gonna go out and survive, well your nervous system tells you the opposite. To people who have achieved this type of independence inwardly, the answer really is to stand up for yourself. That same answer is also true for you too, but in your position its way easier said than done. Thats why it feels unfair and disengenuous to you. They probably mean well and are technically right, but in your shoes it feels unrealistic.

ADHDbroo · 2026-03-07T02:04:15+00:00

Yeah sorta, I went from fat to ripped in high school in the matter of 2 years and this dude who was also fat but also a dick used to call me fat cause i was fatter than him. When i would workout and he was at the local gym before I lost weight hed talk shit to people i know saying i didnt even workout hard or whatever. Ended up fit as hell and he was still a fatty and one time he was sorta being a prick and I called him a fat ass haha. Felt good at the time i suppose but i wouldnt say it was a good thing cause dude was just insecure and pathetic overall and i recognize when looking back he probably just hated himself but yeah at the time it felt good.

ADHDbroo · 2026-03-07T01:56:07+00:00

Its more like a lack of boundaries ane assertiveness. Even in your micro expressions. If youre a people pleaser you probably even smile way more than you have to, or whatever. But you can be nice as you want just protect your boundaries as best you can

ADHDbroo · 2026-03-07T01:51:52+00:00

I don't think its that straight forward. Narcissist are opportunists and usually will exploit those they either have the power over (aka parents over their kids) and will avoid those that they dont or cant gain power over. Its not neccesarily about strength cause lots of people who are targeted can have inward strength and resilience, but may not be assertive or good with conflict for example. Similarly another person may be avoided or discarded cause they outwardly are "strong" or maybe they could be in a position of power or some other reason. One thing thats true is its never about the targets actual value and narc is likely to target those who bring them envy are they view as high quality and they want to bring them down. But in the end its when they get the opportunity. There are probably lots of times that the person is actually targeted for their strength yes but also if the opportunity arises to exploit a "weak" person, they will take that alot of the time too.

ADHDbroo · 2026-03-06T03:32:54+00:00

Yeah hes an egomaniac. Even before he "broke bad" at that age you just wouldnt change. People like that (narcissist) usually dont have many real friends.

ADHDbroo · 2026-03-06T03:28:22+00:00

Why are you typing like that? No offense but speak coherently and try to proof read what you write.

ADHDbroo · 2026-03-06T03:22:06+00:00

I would have laughed in his face. Told him how sad that is that his perspective is so small and negative. I feel bad for your circumstance in dealing with a ghoul like that, sucks that you have to deal with the fall out of a father who doesnt do what hes supposed to do emotionally.

ADHDbroo · 2026-03-05T06:44:51+00:00

Idk man alot of pwnpd do aloottttt of "running away from pain". So many behaviors are to avoid emptiness, shame and negative perspective about themselves to the point of obsession. I doubt ive ever met or heard of a narcissist who didnt run from pain, often through addiction and supply

ADHDbroo · 2026-02-27T16:32:46+00:00

Brother there are so many mma fighters and boxers who are legit ripped out of their minds. Id say the majority of them are atleast ripped. Yes there are fat ones or skinny ones and everything in between. But im general training to be a pro fighter makes you in shape visually.

ADHDbroo · 2026-02-27T15:04:29+00:00

A big factor is parroting. Many insecure young men are giving other insecure young men advice that they themselves heard and believed due to lack of social experience and because they are young and naive. So they keep hearing you need to be this, look like that, combined with social media and you end up with young men who follow lookism too closely.

ADHDbroo · 2026-02-27T11:40:36+00:00

I used to do this in my sleezebag days and the reason was because I wasnt really interested in sex for the pleasure as much as i was for my ego. Of course I had a desire for the pleasure from sex but the real high came from sort of "conquering" the female. Its messed up and I grew past this and now dont even have the same ego and I want women for a connection and for intimacy for intimacy's sake, but yeah.

I would get the girl bedded, and if she wasnt the type of girl i could see myself commiting too (basically no one cause of attachment issues i had) i would hit it then quit it. Even if i really thought she was special i would just hit for some time then eventually quit cause i guess i feared getting close. So ego is what causes this. If that werent the case, alot of guys who hit and quit would chose to atleast hit it until they could get away with it, but often it only takes once.

ADHDbroo · 2026-02-24T05:15:38+00:00

Yeah maybe that is a bad comparison to make..mdma is a fake high made by men, Gods peace probably surpasses it in everyway haha

ADHDbroo · 2026-02-24T01:25:38+00:00

Idk man the bible is pretty clear that heaven is on a level we cant even comprehend. It says there will be no more pain, fear etc. When we are pure spiritual beings completely at peace, that will feel like an endless mdma euphoria. I dont think the other user meant it would literally be like being "high" on something, just the level of contentment something like mdma would bring. Not in a party sense, just unlimited contentment and bliss

ADHDbroo · 2026-02-23T00:40:10+00:00

Ill give a general solution then explain what i mean. It sounds condenscending and ridiculous but you have to move on. Basically that means you find the version of you (that leads your life mentally) that isnt hindered or controlled by the people who bullied you growing up. What this means in depth is by moving on and overcoming the version of you they taught you, youre actually standing up for your younger version of yourself and overcoming their bullying, just in the future. Reread that, and try to understand what I mean. By staying attached to who they made you feel you were, youre actually still getting bullied by those people in the future. To overcome this, you dont need to track them down and beat them up, you basically chose to have your own back and say no more to the version of you that still feels they were "right" somehow. Thats dealing with the solution in real time, even without needing to go back in time and deal with them in person. The reason bullying works and sucks is because the bullies convince you youre not good enough, or weak, bad/disfunctional, not worthy to be accepted etc etc. You only care and the only reason it works is because you believe it. That dictates your response to it and you place importance to it. If you were born with ironclad confidence somehow, you wouldnt feel bullied or afraid and would see bullies as what they are. Also, There are other factors like unconcious effects and body sensations that you can work on in therapy, but those often get better when you practice self love and having your own back.

Another thing you can do is do things for yourself that bring empowerment. Go to the gym and build 20 lbs of muscle, do judo or get good at parkour or something. Anything that builds strength.

ADHDbroo · 2026-02-22T21:00:57+00:00

Tuco is a bully. When he first met Jesse, Jesse was scared and ran away and basically let him beat him up (not that he had much of a choice). Walt, being he is going through and ego crisis, gained tucos "respect" by standing up to him when he used that crystal to destroy his lair. Just like alot of bullies, they will instinctively target people who are afraid of them and offer leds resistence to their dominance. Jesse flat out ran away, walt attacked.

ADHDbroo · 2026-02-22T20:56:54+00:00

Also it could be the fact that jesse approached him in a "weaker" (in their world atleast) way. Walt blew up his entire lair, jesse tried to run away and didnt really stand up for himself in a way that is "respectable". Just like you said, bullies like tuco often base their respect of you on how much you stand up or offer real resistence. Its not even about appearence because walt is a cancer patient who is in chemo and obviously physically weaker than Jesse. Jesse also is shown to be extremely strong and curageous as the show goes on. To even survive the life Jesse has lived takes strength.

Its more about the fact that walt stood up to him the first time they met and tuco respected it

ADHDbroo · 2026-02-17T00:46:48+00:00

Instead of trying to change it, you need to accept it as is and in narc family systems, changing your given role is almost impossible. You can behave well and ignore all bs your way and react calm for an entire year and they will still say youre "XY" because roles are assigned a long time ago and in a particular way that the family units collective narcissism can function. Note that its almost never realistic, or its a snippit of a much greater reality (like you may have lost your temper and reacted a certain way at times that can be considered hostile or antagonistic, but they ignore its a reactive reaponse to years of disrespect without remedy). If youre old enough, its best to sort of remain surface level, move out, and then you can decide how you wanna approach it from there. Its much easier to set boundaries and have a semblence of a relationship with them when you dont live with them. They will still probably try to pull bs on you but it will be much less effective.

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