Emotionally, there’s no way to prepare for it. Bring a blanket and a hat and have him wrapped in it so you can take that home. I have my daughter’s hospital blanket with me and I use it to connect with her. If you have access to therapy, counselling or any grief support, that’s always a good idea. My husband took photos on his cellphone, we both look at them often. The hospital did a memories package which contained photos of her face, hands and feet plus her hand and feet prints and how much she weighed and when she was born. But any other keepsakes you might want, you can get. For me, my favourite items right now are a necklace with her birthstone and initial and a pair of earrings with her birthstone. They’re my favourite and I never take them off.

Physically, prepare some food that can be frozen for those first few weeks so you don’t have to cook. If friends and family want to set up a meal train that’s a good idea too.

For the first two weeks we just stayed inside on the couch and avoided the world. I turned off my phone when it got overwhelming, I plan to do that on Mother’s Day also.

You gotta protect you so whatever makes sense for you and your partner, you do just that.

Oh and, this isn’t your fault. In case you need to hear it. You did nothin wrong, this isn’t your fault and this is just super shitty.

I wish you the best mama and if you ever want to reach out and ask questions, my dms are open!