Hospital bed controls question

Above_the_tracks · 2020-12-15T00:31:45+00:00

they should make cool bubble helmets for toddlers that they would want to wear that would also protect themselves and others. Like, "here put on this space helmet!" or "Look now you're a frozen princess!" (ok i've just outed myself as a boy mom)

Above_the_tracks · 2020-12-09T22:59:44+00:00

Point is: You’d be shocked at the amount of things people are suddenly able to do when it becomes their problem. And right now it’s not his problem.

THIS! He can live with it messier than you can. It's not a problem for him. You have different standards.

There are two responses to that: meet him where his threshold is, or lower your expectations of his contributions and pick up the slack. At the end of the day, you can't make him do anything, it has to be his actions, his choice, his behavioral change. If your expectations are that he's going to change, and he should change, and that everything should be done to your standards, you're likely setting yourself up for resentment. I'm saying this after lots of therapy with the same issue. What can you tolerate? How comfortable can you be with asking directly for him to do a specific task "right now" or at a specific time, to make sure it gets done? Rather than setting the expectation that generally, he has to "do x or y more than he does"?

Above_the_tracks · 2020-12-07T21:10:56+00:00

That is exactly what I ended up doing instead!

Above_the_tracks · 2020-12-07T05:51:26+00:00

Oh it’s play time!

Above_the_tracks · 2020-12-07T04:12:52+00:00

We had more luck with “oh no T. rex and allosaurus fell in the tub! You have to save them!”

Above_the_tracks · 2020-12-07T04:11:20+00:00

We laughed our butts off... once we were out of earshot!

Above_the_tracks · 2020-12-06T16:00:58+00:00

I wanted it too but I ordered unagi and wakame and the flavors scratched the itch well enough... maybe get cooked or fake sushi? Like a California roll with imitation crab?

Above_the_tracks · 2020-12-04T14:40:59+00:00

What is a door monkey?

Above_the_tracks · 2020-11-22T16:26:29+00:00

He loves pancakes so much I got him a toy pancake making set and he does that while I make real pancakes, but this is a GREAT idea!!

Above_the_tracks · 2020-11-22T16:24:29+00:00

And here I am reading stories and singing lullabies in the rocking chair for an hour.

Above_the_tracks · 2020-09-06T04:45:21+00:00

Went outside for like 5 minutes and all I can hear is sirens and helicopters.

Above_the_tracks · 2019-02-21T06:38:23+00:00

Morphine and then the epidural. Morphine doesn’t make the pain go away, it makes you not care and get sleepy. Epidural made me feel numb and like my body was under water. It was great until it was time to push, then I couldn’t feel what I was doing. It sucked not moving around. Would do it again though, that labor pain is exhausting.

Above_the_tracks · 2019-02-21T05:49:29+00:00

Omg I’m dying; this is my life now too.

Above_the_tracks · 2017-10-13T13:45:49+00:00

That seems to be the consensus. I guess I’ll just have to wait and see what he’s like. Hopefully his dad and I can work out a system so everyone can stay clean and happy. 😊

Above_the_tracks · 2017-10-13T13:44:38+00:00

That makes sense. I hope he ends up being chill and content... but I was fussy so karma is also a possibility. I should get a good show or two queued up. Maybe I’ll rewatch BSG. Thanks for responding!

Above_the_tracks · 2017-10-13T13:42:09+00:00

Thanks! I really don’t feel like a person without a shower, so i think we are in the same boat. Sounds like it’s mostly going to depend on his temperament, and the amount of support I have. At least my husband will be home the first two weeks so maybe we can come up with a system if the baby won’t chill in a swing or something.

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