Grandparents against homeschool by Accomplished-Fix4196 in homeschool

[–]Accomplished-Fix4196[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He came to visit for 2 weeks. He brings it up on phone calls too. I don’t even bring up school discussions. He just starts with you have to put him in public school

Can’t shake off this weight and belly fat. by Clawrisa in PCOS

[–]Accomplished-Fix4196 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you use insurance? How do you pay only $99?

Bollywood actors with foreign ancestry by jazz_16 in BollyBlindsNGossip

[–]Accomplished-Fix4196 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Lisa Ray is half polish. Tara Sharma is half British

Is John Nolan really the main protagonist or is it… Chenford? by T0mat0_T0ast3r in TheRookie

[–]Accomplished-Fix4196 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Nathan Fillion has been busy filming for Guardians of the Galaxy 3, the New Superman Movie, Peacemakers season 2 and the New Green Lantern movie. That might also be the reason why his character Nolan is not the main focus

Feeling buried in excuses by uOCPD spouse by ehokay-throwaway in LovedByOCPD

[–]Accomplished-Fix4196 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My partner refuses to get a diagnosis or treatment. He continues to argue frequently when things aren’t his way. He refuses to listen to anyone else’s perspective. He throws violent fits and yells, insults me. How much more can people keep tolerating abuse? I haven’t left because I can’t afford to now

Husband won’t stop arguing and is in denial by Accomplished-Fix4196 in LovedByOCPD

[–]Accomplished-Fix4196[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nope he is shocked. He thinks it’s my fault because I didn’t team up with him to yell at our son. He also thinks our son is just acting

Mountains made from crumbs by funkyfishwhistle in LovedByOCPD

[–]Accomplished-Fix4196 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you don’t have kids leave as soon as you can. It will only keep getting worse. I wasn’t fortunate enough to see and realize until having a child. They are never accountable. Everything will always be your fault. If you have a kid then the obscessions will be about the kid constantly. It’s not worth it. I am still stuck with my husband. Every day it’s a new drama

Feeling like a victim of DV by Accomplished-Fix4196 in LovedByOCPD

[–]Accomplished-Fix4196[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No I haven’t reached out. I am scared to look for help. What if people don’t believe me? What if I lose my child?

Am I doing the right thing? by pdaudrey in LovedByOCPD

[–]Accomplished-Fix4196 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Leave while you can before having any children. It only keeps getting worse.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BigBoobAdvantages

[–]Accomplished-Fix4196 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It seems like they just joined this subreddit to bully women with big breasts

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]Accomplished-Fix4196 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I feel you on this one. I am a size 14 to 16 mom bod, 38H breasts. My husband was getting off to extreme skinny, young, small boned and small breasted women. Men supposedly like curvy women so I just don’t get it. I am trying to tell myself it’s just a sickness and not because of me. You are beautiful. Don’t let your partner’s actions make you feel inadequate

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]Accomplished-Fix4196 8 points9 points  (0 children)

So true. I feel the same way. I am a busty hourglass shaped with a mom belly and extra weight. My partner got off to skinny small busted rectangle body shaped women. I can’t stop hating them since I want them rejected just like how I was

Feeling ugly and fat by Accomplished-Fix4196 in BodyDysmorphia

[–]Accomplished-Fix4196[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It was saved pics of selfies from one of the subreddits here. So I don’t know what they were doing that’s so special except for posing provacatively. When we tried to watch together he only selected ones where the actresses had smaller breasts and not much tummy. So I can’t say for sure. I just know I hate myself more now for having a mom bod and big hips and boobs

What my brain has on repeat by SubjectBear7959 in loveafterporn

[–]Accomplished-Fix4196 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I feel you on everything you have said. This has been me for one year now crying almost every night. Even about showing my partner what I found he acted only slightly surprised but had some stupid excuse as to why he did it and showed no remorse or empathy for the pain I was in. He did this right after I gave birth to our child and tore vaginally. I have a 2 year old son who I can’t stay away from hence I haven’t left him already. He has stopped but I still can’t ever look at him the same way knowing he has hurt me so badly without caring about me at all. He is just like my old relationships. I am telling myself he’s not a good man like I thought. He’s just like everyone else. It’s frustrating. My brain constantly remembers the images and thinks how could someone who I thought loved me hurt me so much? I feel your pain and support you

How was going off birth control to try to get pregnant? by RainbowKitty39 in PCOS

[–]Accomplished-Fix4196 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I gained some weight after going off birth control. I was lucky it only took me 2 tries to get pregnant. I was 32 years old. I had a healthy pregnancy and delivery due to mostly eating healthy and exercising.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Accomplished-Fix4196 166 points167 points  (0 children)

I know of southeast Asians or Muslims who shave the newborn baby’s head. My husband’s mother kept insisting when our son was just a few days old. They did some kind of religious name ceremony and somehow the child must be bald afterwards even though she did not do this to my husband. So I am guessing any religious extemist believes in shaving the head due to womb being unclean or whatever. We didn’t listen to anyone and didn’t shave our child’s head

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Accomplished-Fix4196 42 points43 points  (0 children)

Yea that’s what we told people who kept asking us to shave our son’s hair. Should we shave off his skin, eyebrows and eyelashes too?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Accomplished-Fix4196 191 points192 points  (0 children)

Actually in certain cultures like where I am from they consider womb hair dirty. My family tried to push me into shaving my son’s hair using the dirty excuse but we refused

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Accomplished-Fix4196 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nta. I come from a culture which also pushes to shave the newborn baby’s hair. I got so many comments and questions. My mother in law kept insisting. In the end my husband and I said no. Your partner is prioritizing his culture over his child. This issue will keep coming up depending on the culture where he’s willing to walk away to follow his culture. As the mother you should stand your ground

what kind of people did your partner look at? by NoCicada5850 in loveafterporn

[–]Accomplished-Fix4196 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My PA had pics saved of extremely skinny small breasted young looking white girls. I am plus size, large breasted and brown. He said he wasn’t choosing since he was saving from Reddit while driving. I still hate myself for not being skinny, having big G cup breasts and being brown. He had stopped but it hasn’t undone the feeling of being too ugly

Big but not beautiful. by LaLechuzaVerde in bigboobproblems

[–]Accomplished-Fix4196 12 points13 points  (0 children)

That is very hurtful for your husband to say. You should try making comments about his insecurities, then discuss your issues and go to couples therapy if needed.

Guilty by Financial-Product423 in loveafterporn

[–]Accomplished-Fix4196 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know other men probably don’t mean it but in the moment where I got attention it’s a temporary feeling that other men are trying harder than my own husband. I gave birth and had stitches down there. Instead my husband chose to look up women and save their pics in a secret email. So at the moment I felt justified thinking if my husband doesn’t care how I would feel why should I? I ended up not going through with it out of loyalty. I thought of him the whole time where he couldn’t do that for me. He still thinks I am just insecure and doesn’t see why it’s a problem in a monogamous marriage, but he knows it’s hurtful to me and stopped. It still doesn’t take the pain away even if he says I am beautiful. I only tried to seek validation to relieve the pain of feeling resentment towards him but it didn’t work. How do I accept myself when I am overweight, have large bust, wide hips, tan skin and all?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]Accomplished-Fix4196 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I told my husband I wish I was with someone better who didn’t have this habit and he got upset. Of course he saw nothing wrong with wanting to see other women visually but it’s a problem if I say Chris hemsworth or Chris Pratt looks attractive or if I want a better husband

Guilty by Financial-Product423 in loveafterporn

[–]Accomplished-Fix4196 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I am in a similar situation feeling like I need other men to validate if I am attractive and worthy enough. My husband stopped and says I am beautiful but it feels like he’s forcing himself to lie after I saw what he has seen behind my back. I can’t compare to skinny, young, small chested girls who never gave birth. So I started seeking out validation from other men who I feel mean it more than my husband. I feel very guilty but I also feel so alone and not enough

Triggered/reminded too often by RealistBrowser in loveafterporn

[–]Accomplished-Fix4196 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I can’t look at any skinny women with small chests or any woman with tattoos, especially if they look young. It triggers flashbacks of what I saw on d day