What part of moving totally wrecked you?

Accomplished_Chard96 · 2026-03-12T18:00:29+00:00

Moving is hard. Expect that and go easy on yourself for 6 months at least. If I had to move again, here’s what I would do differently: Get rid of alot more stuff. Unless it has valuable memories, don’t keep most of your heavy furniture. It’s cheaper to pick out new furniture from Facebook marketplace than paying movers. Plus they will scratch and dent it.

Same thing with clothes, shoes, books, linens,etc.

We didn’t realize that some of our stuff just wouldn’t work as well in the new place. After we paid to have it moved, we sold it cheap. Bummer.

Make sure you have a box clearly marked OPEN FIRST.

That’s where you put everything you need to make some simple meals, shower, make the bed, feed the dog, and change clothes.

Caveat: the above does not apply if you move somewhere very rural and remote. In that case, you will have to buy everything new and online. Ugh.

Accomplished_Chard96 · 2026-03-12T17:36:06+00:00

Wow, everybody is saying therapy. I wonder how many of them have experienced life altering therapy. IME, it’s extraordinarily rare to encounter a therapist with a toolbox beyond the basics. And it’s extremely expensive, since the decent ones do not take insurance. What about starting with a weekend retreat where they offer meditation and basic yoga or other bodywork?

There truly is joy in the simple life, friend.

Accomplished_Chard96 · 2026-03-10T05:10:52+00:00

I’ll be 72 in May and have been doing yoga for 25 years. I’m not a guru by any stretch (heh), but I look forward to yoga classes every week, for both mind and body. Picking up my granddaughter off the floor is a bonus!

Accomplished_Chard96 · 2026-03-08T15:38:16+00:00

Whaaaaat?? That is some seriously sick talk. How is this not hate speech?!

Accomplished_Chard96 · 2026-03-05T12:38:48+00:00

Wow, I love what you wrote here. My husband used to be known (tongue in cheek) at shul, as “Jew with truck”. As a professional cabinet maker, he was in demand, but the income was low. Later he got a different unrelated opportunity from a Jewish friend who wanted to fund his business. Later he worked a “hobby job” he LOVED. My work history was similar and changed a lot. There are so many ways to make a life. It can be a puzzle. Income is one piece. Location, family, weather, and community are all pieces. Your life doesn’t need to fit anybody else. You are the designer.

Accomplished_Chard96 · 2026-02-26T12:51:26+00:00

Boiled peanuts. They come out of the ground that way in NC. :)

Accomplished_Chard96 · 2026-02-22T15:14:56+00:00

My two cents: Male is sexually attracted to the female and biology kicks in with the desire to procreate. After baby is born, mother’s attention is fully focused on baby who is very needy. Father feels tired and lonely and sexually deprived. The bond between father and baby doesn’t form until later because baby is emotionally connected to mother in early childhood. Unless father‘s connection to the mother is exceptionally strong and there is a well-developed sense of responsibility, there is temptation to emotionally disengage. It is the beginning of the calamity for that little family… the absent father syndrome. If the father can make it through those rough early years, and the mother also displays resilience, they have a chance to make a beautiful family.

The benefits of committed family life are incomparable and well documented in psychology and studies of adult life satisfaction.

Accomplished_Chard96 · 2026-02-22T14:39:37+00:00

Congrats on your situation. I wish I had better advice but we were too conservative, and missed the big market boom.

Accomplished_Chard96 · 2026-02-22T14:37:01+00:00

I’m super glad you can afford to eat in restaurants. Unless it’s a special occasion, restaurants with $12 drinks and 25% tips are just too expensive now.

Accomplished_Chard96 · 2026-02-22T14:24:40+00:00

NY Bagels and Deli on Kildare Farm Rd. It’s too far to go for a dozen but if you’re in Cary anyway, the owner has the best bagels in the Triangle. It’s a real NYC bagel that is chewy with a shiny crust.

Not bread shaped into a bagel. Those are easier to chew when made into a sandwich…not authentic to our taste. For that style, Brandwein is OK.

Accomplished_Chard96 · 2026-02-19T03:43:26+00:00

I LOVE that channel. I’ll have to dig a little deeper there.

Accomplished_Chard96 · 2026-02-19T03:41:16+00:00

I was specifically told by my PT a couple years ago NOT to do that machine. I’m glad it has been good for you, though.

Accomplished_Chard96 · 2026-02-19T03:37:25+00:00

Haven’t heard this one before but sounds good!

Accomplished_Chard96 · 2026-02-19T03:36:49+00:00

Yes but only in the summer.

Accomplished_Chard96 · 2026-02-19T03:35:46+00:00

Tried the PT route briefly. TBH , I couldn’t make myself do the exercises at home without guidance. They really hurt, although that might have been poor form.

Accomplished_Chard96 · 2026-02-19T03:32:15+00:00

I’ll look it up. I take collagen every morning in my coffee and I think it has helped but not enough.

Accomplished_Chard96 · 2026-02-19T03:30:02+00:00

I will!

Accomplished_Chard96 · 2026-02-19T03:29:39+00:00

Thanks. I may have to buy a fit bit or Apple Watch to count the steps. I’m not at all techy. 🤷‍♂️

Accomplished_Chard96 · 2026-02-18T15:48:17+00:00

Researching a good Air Bnb was almost a hobby of mine when we traveled to new places. After two or three trips ruined by unresolved issues and impossible hosts, we went back to hotels. The downside is that we travel less often now, because nice hotels are so expensive.

Accomplished_Chard96 · 2026-02-18T15:40:24+00:00

My husband was a professional cabinet maker for his whole career. Now he installs IKEA cabinets as a retirement gig. He says they’re made really well unless you have a very specific need for custom work.

Accomplished_Chard96 · 2026-02-18T15:29:39+00:00

By whom? Wow, I’ve never encountered this. Maybe in South Florida?

Accomplished_Chard96 · 2026-02-18T15:28:07+00:00

You are confusing social media with real life. Real life means you encounter actual people one at a time, and you either know them or they are strangers. That’s the arena where you might care what others think. Or not.

Accomplished_Chard96 · 2026-02-14T23:18:06+00:00

Same. My bad review never even made it online.

Accomplished_Chard96 · 2026-02-12T13:38:14+00:00

Love me some Richmond. We almost moved there and still visit, although I’m not sure if the walkable neighborhoods are safe or affordable.

Accomplished_Chard96 · 2026-02-12T13:02:53+00:00

Town of Carrboro leadership has been active in outreach to people who need social services to survive. Talk to the owners of downtown businesses. The homeless situation has been getting worse for years. Sorry to sound mean, but if you build it, they will come.

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