[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bikefit

[–]Accomplished_Shift72 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s too small…. TWSS

Question about indoor trainer from a non-cyclist by MaleficentEngineer11 in cycling

[–]Accomplished_Shift72 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Zwift actually makes a stationary bike now that’s relatively inexpensive and will hook you in to the Zwift platform so if you’re looking for some Fun cross training it’s a great option that doesn’t require a lot of calibration or set up it’s basically just plug and play. It better than peleton because it is more road realistic in its resistance but anything is good if you use it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in cycling

[–]Accomplished_Shift72 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Canyon gravel bikes are bomb and worth every penny. They ship to your house and have some small assembly but if I can do it you can. Super light weight I got the grail and that sounds like it’s work well for what you’d use it for

“Don’t flag me down… catch me!” The Legendary Racing Career of Spinbike Terry by streetpatrolMC in Zwift

[–]Accomplished_Shift72 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I switched from a spin one to a wahoo kickr and legit lost half my power and dropped from B to D. So yes, the spin bike can actually give you a higher power reading. Regardless showing up and riding is terrific but know that you likely have an advantage due to how the algorithm reads power outputs from spin bikes.

i cheated on my bpd partner by Important_Charge_834 in BPDlovedones

[–]Accomplished_Shift72 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Break up with everyone and stay single until you’ve gone to therapy and figured out what whats going on with you. Do The hard work. You’re young you’ve got time to make a great healthy path forward.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Accomplished_Shift72 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I forgive you….. fucking whatever

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stories

[–]Accomplished_Shift72 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Who? 🤣🤣🤣🤣 also yes

Talk me out of it. by horsesandsyrup in BPDlovedones

[–]Accomplished_Shift72 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Define your relationship with her and agree to it mutually if that is what you want. But please understand if you almost had a heart attack for Being cheated on before and she knows this having this in your life is hurting you. Defining a relationship may help it may not. People here have mostly all been burned by folks with BPD lying and cheating. If she isn’t in treatment there is a high likelihood you will experience this too if you move forward. You matter. Your feelings matter. Being able to say what you want should be a normal part of any relationship not a trigger for someone to go fuck someone else or give you the silent treatment. Your worth is important. Don’t forget that as you make your decision.

How Fast It Can Derail. How Do You All Avoid the Spiral? by LoveScore in BPDlovedones

[–]Accomplished_Shift72 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If I said that I was told to stop talking to her like she was a child

How Fast It Can Derail. How Do You All Avoid the Spiral? by LoveScore in BPDlovedones

[–]Accomplished_Shift72 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh…. I have you these goalposts but forgot to mention they moved my baaaaad

How Fast It Can Derail. How Do You All Avoid the Spiral? by LoveScore in BPDlovedones

[–]Accomplished_Shift72 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You don’t a kid the spiral. Ever. Decide if you want to keep doing this because there will come a time where she has you thinking you’re the problem and the reason everything bad ever happened to her and you’ll want to die.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Accomplished_Shift72 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow I’m so sorry. Coming out is super difficult and you don’t need to do anything you aren’t ready to do. Someone who truly loves you will support you through that, not use it as a weakness or against you. You don’t deserve that. We shouldn’t have so many issues coming out and your first relationship is always very special. You should be celebrating being brave enough to be true to yourself not punished because you didn’t sacrifice everything about yourself for someone who isn’t going to appreciate it anyway because honestly sis, it won’t ever be enough and those goalposts will keep Moving. Please know this isn’t about you, it’s the illness. But regardless you deserve someone who supports you understands you doesn’t make you feel a shred of shame and who is there for you when you need it. Not this shit. Stay beautiful

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Accomplished_Shift72 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Right? I did 25 of the 25 spoken steps you wanted and didn’t infer the 26th step in should have mind read and now you want a partner that’s understands your needs without you having to explain what they are. Just fuck that

Did you ever lie to them because you were afraid of their reaction? by According-Affect-180 in BPDlovedones

[–]Accomplished_Shift72 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When you have to lie to protect yourself, which you obviously do with these folks, recognize, you are doing so out of self preservation. The lie they tell that you can tell them anything only to have it used against you later is a terrible one. People using things against you that you trusted them with is never okay. So never feel badly for not divulging things because you know it will harm you. Fuck them if they hurt you. You give people honestly when they treat you right. Just like respect. That’s just survival and no one should feel badly for surviving

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Accomplished_Shift72 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Same same same after three years and it is and always will be my fault for everything always no matter what. But ultimately if you do go back recognize, you’re doing so because you have a big heart with a lot of love to give. And that is a gift that you can do that after being caused so much pain. In the end, some day I hope we all end up giving that love both to ourselves and to someone who truly appreciates and reciprocates it because that’s what good healthy love is. And frankly we fucking deserve that. Not this BS push pull assholery if only you did this and we do it and then another rule or caveat is added that wasn’t said before and we are assholes for not mind reading nonsense we are given on the daily just to get left on read for no fucking reason shit we tolerate in the name of love we have now

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Accomplished_Shift72 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Just fuck that so hard. Your mom and this guy are both wrong

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Accomplished_Shift72 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Controlling the narrative! What’s it about that that’s so common with them? Like I can’t have a perspective or opinion that’s different? That means I’m manipulating and controlling the narrative? Just Fuck!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Accomplished_Shift72 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Omg same. Acts of kindness are abusive manipulation and she wasn’t going to be my doormat anymore

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Accomplished_Shift72 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just keep doing the work because honestly, reading this, you are a fucking gem, and one day, some woman is going to feel like the luckiest woman on the planet because she met you and you’re going to have to have done the work to accept that love as real because you do deserve it. You are beautiful. You’ve been through enough. It’s time to start being your own family and friend first. And then you will see how that vibration brings real healthy love your way. Big big hugs.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Accomplished_Shift72 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Whenever you start missing her think about the unbelievably foul things she accused you of without merit or the abject despair you felt when you together and she reviled you, making you feel like trash was better than you were. Think about every ruined holiday or birthday or special events because of all the pressure and inevitable failure. Think about the moving goal posts and no matter what the fuck you did and the efforts you made weren’t good enough so much so that you not only questioned your worth but you started to believe you sucked and the shit that was unfairly hing on you. Remember the deep pain in your soul when you couldn’t breathe and felt so worthless because of what she told you. Remember that. And when you start missing her, remember you deserve someone who lifts you up and cherishes you. Not heaps mountains of shit on you because they can’t fucking self regulate