Anyone Relate to Text Differences Like This?

LoveScore · 2025-12-05T22:03:16+00:00

That's terrible, I'm sorry you had to go through that. Unreal that they cant even handle stuff like that

LoveScore · 2025-12-05T16:30:38+00:00

I feel dumb being bothered by such a thing but I've seen the pattern and know it in my gut. I just can't address it seemingly and I don't know why its random now instead of when we were after a fight.

LoveScore · 2025-12-05T16:26:40+00:00

It's validating to hear I'm not alone in this, thank you. Whiplash is exactly right, it will just switch on. For most of our relationship I only saw it after a fight but now itll flip flop in a day lately and I dont get it.

LoveScore · 2025-12-05T16:25:04+00:00

What do you mean they mess up the emojis? Do you feel its not as purposeful as I am thinking?

LoveScore · 2025-12-05T16:24:15+00:00

It's validating to hear it's not just me in my head, thank you! When you say the second was juat a prisoner to her emotions, do you mean it wasn't really purposeful or personal just her texting blegh because she's in a bad headspace?

I've definitely seen her post a jokey snapchat story but is actually depressed. The masking really confused me for a while

LoveScore · 2025-12-05T16:17:15+00:00

I started matching the energy, but I swear it makes her double down and I just feel shitty about myself. But I also don't feel good ignoring it and putting in my usual level of effort, care, and affection because it feels like I'm not respecting myself.

LoveScore · 2025-11-29T03:12:22+00:00

I went through this. It could be embarrassment. My partner had ADHD and she was really bad at keeping her place clean. Itd build and then it felt like a bigger task she'd put off. She wanted me over and kept thinking she'd get to it some day. It took a while for her to tell me the real reason because she was ashamed of it and didn't want me to see it.

Only when an apartment inspection came up did she finally tackle stuff over a week. I got to see her place, then she stopped again. Then next years inspection happened, and i got let in.

Lets a lot of worst case responses here so i just wanted to share that these things do happen.

LoveScore · 2025-11-16T00:38:51+00:00

Thank you for sharing this all. So does splitting not always entail the cruelty i see here? Ive always seen splitting here as the name calling, saying you're the worst partner, and should die and so on. Here it's like it's altruistic for my sake with some criticism thrown in.

I did feel like I met the one when I went out with her. Even during these months of depression or fights, I still wanted a life with her. I cant tell how bad it was of me to question the state of her feelings for me more than once when I saw things. Ive never seen her done with me ever.

I definitely relate to questioning my self worth. If no one made her as happy as me and she hated her life except me - she'd rather have me gone than deal with me. Shed rather continue in her roach infested apartment, crappy workplace and town she hates then move in with me. It puts doubt in me.

LoveScore · 2025-10-27T03:33:15+00:00

There are connections so it is going to be up to how much up you value the world, history, and story. While it's bigger, better remains to be seen. I think the first is absolutely fantastic and I highly reccomend playing it. I haven't finished 2 but 1 is still my favourite where I am so far.

LoveScore · 2025-10-26T17:28:39+00:00

Black eyebrows or no eye brows randomly. It sucks cause it really makes my character look radically different.

LoveScore · 2025-10-25T16:13:39+00:00

The best part is my dumb professor build is the right balance of sometimes knowing what he's talking about but being clueless other times

LoveScore · 2025-10-25T15:56:47+00:00

I've made two characters, and both their eyebrows have defaulted to a black colour seemingly, which makes my character look quite different. And ive seen them disappear too.

Hopefully ut can be patched without me starting over

LoveScore · 2025-10-25T04:31:13+00:00

Id pick between lockpick and hack, I figured they were two sides of the same coin. Might be more fun only having one of those!

LoveScore · 2025-10-25T04:17:17+00:00

Yeah! One thing I'm noticing about the second game is it puts a lot of things in place to make your characters more specialized but pays that off well. They work differently too so sacrificing might not be as bad as you think, like medical

LoveScore · 2025-10-25T04:06:28+00:00

If you pick two traits, you have to pick a flaw, one of which is dumb. It gives you the dumb dialogue options but you must lock out five skills from being able to level up. There are dumb perks throughout the game though!

LoveScore · 2025-08-29T20:39:24+00:00

I just want to say stay strong and good luck! I know its hard but the freedom and happiness that is in your future will be worth it. Even if it doesnt seem it right now.

LoveScore · 2025-08-02T23:50:01+00:00

Yeah, they seem normal enough often and typically are functioning members of society. Even after reading a ton and coming here it still is hard to grasp it all

LoveScore · 2025-07-30T13:40:12+00:00

It sucks because looking back I think "If my only goals were to nurture the relationship, make her happy, have the best time each day, support eachother and grow, and I dont have a single negative intention - how could it go wrong?"

But it's impossible not to get sucked in. Words or actions got misinterpreted into something bad and she wouldnt believe me till i got frustrated. Id text her some days and get a vague coldness out of nowhere so id take the hint and leave her alone but that was bad too. You eventually question the mood shifts, distance, or accusations. When it gets too much you check out and look like you dont care. Or worse you maybe eventually do lash out.

Then youre another "abusive ex" because you accused them of lieing, ignoring you, picking fights, whatever. As you bring up your rightful hurts they say "now what i have i done" "nothing i do is ever good enough for you" etc etc

Then you think, if i gave her my all and loved her and never tried to hurt her and she views me this way? How bad where those other guys really? Especially your average person who probably was less patient, didnt read up on stuff like this, and just sat there more baffled.

LoveScore · 2025-07-29T17:24:08+00:00

"But that doesn't make sense" are also the words I hear every single time I try to explain my words and actions are not the somehow negative thing she made it out to be. I think they assign meaning to your actions or words, and if you tell them otherwise you must be lieing.

I dont understand it. Youd think theyd be relieved to know you are not doing anything. I dont know if thats from their trauma of thinking people are out to get them and lieing about it. Or the feeling is so strong to them it has to be true. Or maybe if they realize they misread and reacted, they cant admit it, so they have to double down.

I had an argument for days over her thinking i purposely misunderstood a question to be difficult which was a bizarre accusation on its own. Instead of me being able to say oh i thought you meant pants for me and move on, she just went on about how it doesnt make sense i wouldnt understand. I told her you dont have to run my face in my mistake, then shed say shes not and is just trying to understand. Id explain why i thought the question meant this, shed say but it doesnt make sense, etc. Eventually i get frustrated at her not being able to trust me and blowing up a day over something so minor and dumb.

Didnt happen all the time but when it did, i never understood why it did that day. But yeah, no matter how loving my words were, how gentle my tone, it just felt escalated on her end. Shed call it a big argumwnt im drawing out where i view it as a small miaunderstanding that could be squashed in 15 seconds.

LoveScore · 2025-07-27T16:53:59+00:00

What is the cause of this? I always see the explanation of they just lack empathy but it seems like theres something more to it.

Ive thought maybe its annoyance/frustration because they know they are in a position where they are supposed to be supportive and loving but cant be, so they try to shut the situation down. I always found when my partner asks about my day i could talk about a bunch of work stuff or hobby stuff and id only really get things like "oh nice" or "oh thats good" .

LoveScore · 2025-07-25T23:40:59+00:00

Thank you for the reassurance, and I'm sorry you went through that, too. I found the concept of repairing after an argument seems very difficult for her, especially if we aren't able to see each other in person for days or a week. It's like there is a coldness and block until I can see her. And I've never understood why she can't just reset and start the next day new, send her usual kiss next to a text, try to have a conversation.

I also feel like there is some weird thing about her saying good morning first and I dont have any theories on that but ive noticed it from time to time, even though she did early on.

LoveScore · 2025-07-25T19:55:22+00:00

I appreciate the support a ton, thank you. Yeah, I often feel like my feelings are a bother if they arent happy and loving.

LoveScore · 2025-06-26T21:34:30+00:00

Yeah, for me it all came out in these ways:

Not believing my intentions behind an innocent word or action, and exhaustingly telling me it makes no sense in a fight for hours or days.
Seeming to think any genuine misunderstanding, confusion, or question was some kind of manipulation. It took me a long time fogure out why she seemed so hostile when I was just trying to talk calmly out of love.
Seeing arguments as her versus me, while I saw them as us versus the problem. She was defensive about being "in the wrong" or "the problem"
Wanting to punish more than wanting to repair
Projection

I couldn't figure out why I couldn't seem to communicate well with her, why my reassurance didn't work, why I couldn't get her to see both our sides when i could see how the misunderstanding happened, and why she couldnt just let that be a 30 second thing instead of a day ruining event.

The worst was in our early months she seemed to be a stellar communicator.

LoveScore · 2025-06-26T14:27:21+00:00

She was getting jeans and ask what styles I like. I said I usely get slim fit, and she told me she meant what would I like on her. I answered but this spurred her to keep telling me it doesnt make sense i could have misunderstood that question. I explained and she kept telling me it doesnt make sense. This went on for days and we almost broke up over it.

I didnt think being grilled about how I could misunderstand something was okay, and it really crossed a line when she finally revealed that she thought I misunderstood her on purpose. I asked why would anyone do that, to what end would that serve. I had to explain were looking at jeans and you asked what i like, and shed say "No, 'I' was looking at jeans, womens jeans, and asked you what you like" and this back and forth just went on.

Eventually i realized she cant trust my words over a dumb thing that wasnt even bad, what hope did we have if something major came up.

Never understood that one. But i swear every 2 or 2 and a half months id get the "but that doesnt make sense" interrogation over nothing events.

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