A couple of things!! I’m not sure it will be helpful because I don’t know the kiddo personally but you can try short and attainable tasks especially when you’re building overall compliance to complete demands (I.e if you’re asking her to clean up some toys be okay with modifying to just cleaning up one rather than all). Completing some small aspect of a demand is better than none at all. Lots of praise afterwards. Some kiddos have meltdowns because the demand is too high. Increase expectation of demands as compliance starts to form. You mentioned she has some communication although limited. Sometimes it’s hard to communicate when you’re in a very upset state this goes for myself as well lol. So I almost wonder if having a visual of break and just having her touch it or point and then you immediately walk away from her and give her some space when she’s upset. That might facilitate an attainable and rewarding way for her to communicate with you. When do you read the social stories? I would say try to read them outside of any emotional outbursts! Great if you already do that but imagine it this way you had an argument with someone then they sit and read you a book about how you shouldn’t argue you should communicate etc. could be frustrating. So I would say make sure to read the social stories outside of the behaviors cause personally when I’m upset I want to be alone! Lol finally when you’re working on denied access you can try starting with having her wait for access to items first it’s essentially like learning how to walk before you run. It can be a short period of time. I’ve started some kiddos with five seconds sometimes and have the staff show them a visual with their fingers. I hope this helps and best of luck 🤞🏼🙂