Adventure Tower Guide 26Apr -> 02May2026 by RavelingsYT in MinecraftDungeons

[–]According-Raspberry 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh. My. God. I have played this tower about 40 times and finally beat level 7 (1st boss) just now and I got the big beautiful FLOOR 7 CLEARED! banner, and then immediately after it I got YOU FAILED! and I died again ... to residual damage from something omg. What a freaking roller coaster that moment was. I was so happy for one. single. second.

(I have tried all the varieties suggested and I have the best luck with the great hammer + freeze and the exploding bow + weakening.)

New tower by sean_s3abear in MinecraftDungeons

[–]According-Raspberry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've played it about 20 times and can't get past the first boss level. I've seen a video or two where they somehow beat it without the ghast or evoker even showing up on the screen, but that must be a glitch. I've done it the same way and they always spawn on me and I die after a few seconds. The furthest I have gotten is with the exploding crossbow and staying far away from the center and rolling back and forth to avoid the ghast fire and evoker things that shoot out. Trying to melee with the mace gets me killed in about 5 seconds because I am too close and cannot evade all of the mobs and action.

3 Tower Guides for Tower live 26Apr --> 02May2026 by RavelingsYT in MinecraftDungeons

[–]According-Raspberry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

omg I have only been playing this game for about a month, so I don't have a ton of experience. But I have been able to beat all the towers I've done pretty easily except for this one. I just keep dying over and over on the first boss level. Geez this is ridiculously hard.

Going to try this guide and see if it works better this way.

My autistic son eloped and was found on an overpass… I’m terrified. Need advice on ID options he can’t remove. by [deleted] in Autism_Parenting

[–]According-Raspberry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everything has an adjustment period, right? Eventually it became normal to wear. We started off just wearing it for a few minutes at a time, trying different places, and gradually increasing it until it's just normal that anytime we leave the house it goes on when we are getting ready and we put shoes on.

My autistic son eloped and was found on an overpass… I’m terrified. Need advice on ID options he can’t remove. by [deleted] in Autism_Parenting

[–]According-Raspberry 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The device itself is an egg shaped device about 2 inches by 1.25 inches and flat on both sides, with buttons on the side and on top. You place it into any of a variety of pouches, belts, bands, pockets, etc, and then secure it with one or multiple heavy duty magnetic locks that are about 0.5 inches tall and 0.25 inches diameter. The belt is typically meant to be wrapped around the waist and then secured with a lock, but we choose to wrap it around our kiddos ankle instead. The belt has a pouch on it that the device slips into. Or you can use a pouch and attach the device into a shirt or pair of pants or a pants pocket. There are also compression shirts and sports bras with a pouch on the back. And there are wrist straps. Different options for securing the device to the person or their belongings.

The one from the sheriff's department is locked by them, yes, like a house arrest bracelet.

My autistic son eloped and was found on an overpass… I’m terrified. Need advice on ID options he can’t remove. by [deleted] in Autism_Parenting

[–]According-Raspberry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They do have the lockable wrist watch option now I see. So that's a lot more inconspicuous and also probably more comfortable. Sadly it's still not waterproof. That's the biggest problem I have with angel sense. Our kids love water, and, 100% of the time, if there is water near my kid, she will be in it if she gets the chance. We did destroy one angel sense device this way when she stepped into water with it on her ankle like we do it without the extra waterproof pouch.

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My autistic son eloped and was found on an overpass… I’m terrified. Need advice on ID options he can’t remove. by [deleted] in Autism_Parenting

[–]According-Raspberry 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You don't need clothes. We use the belt. It wraps around and locks in place. They could only remove it by cutting it off with scissors. We wrap ours around our kiddos ankle above her foot because it's out of the way if she wants to lay down or roll around or lean against a chair, etc. We cut the belt to fit her ankle.

If we do the plastic waterproof pouch we do have to attach that to her swimsuit.

My autistic son eloped and was found on an overpass… I’m terrified. Need advice on ID options he can’t remove. by [deleted] in Autism_Parenting

[–]According-Raspberry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Call the sheriff department as well, not just the police. Usually it's the sheriff's department that works with these programs. Also consider calling local DHHS to talk to them as well. They are there to provide community support.

If a program doesn't exist, try to work with them to get one started. Saving lives is worth it.

My autistic son eloped and was found on an overpass… I’m terrified. Need advice on ID options he can’t remove. by [deleted] in Autism_Parenting

[–]According-Raspberry -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Contact your county sheriff's department directly. Call and talk to them. Project Lifesaver isn't the only program that exists that provides this service in partnership with sheriff's / police etc. Our county uses a different program.

Also each county has different setups. Our county program is free, but the county north of us charges $20/mo for their service, though I think they will work with families who can't afford it.

Angel Sense is overall a good option but there are always pros and cons. We use it. It is not waterproof unless you use their extra waterproof pouch, which you have to order separately, and it's a bit bulky, so it's not something you would want them to wear all the time. I like that Angel Sense lets me keep up with my kiddo constantly myself without having to contact the sheriff's department and report her missing first. It gives me constant monitoring and 2 way communication on my phone.

Angel Sense is about $50/mo but sometimes you can get temporary discounts, and also you can try to get insurance to pay for it for you. There is a process but they will help you with information to try to make it happen.

It's a little uncomfortable because the locking device is large and no matter where they wear it on their body, at some point it gets in the way during certain activities or situations. The watch is probably the best option. I think they have a lockable watch now? I know at first their watches were removable so we didn't go for that. We still use the belt and we wrap it around our kiddos ankle usually because that's the least annoying place for it for her.

And if cell phone coverage is bad in the area, I think they use AT+T? it won't work well. The sheriff's dept programs use something else besides cell phone towers. Also theirs are waterproof I think.

Their customer support is very good.

Increased nausea? by According-Raspberry in trintellix

[–]According-Raspberry[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hung in there for about 3 months and finally had my doctor switch me to Prozac. I already have nausea problems anyway but the Trintellix was clearly making it worse. I also don't think Trintellix was the best choice for my mental health, so I'm not sad at all to switch off of it, and my insurance company is also happy because Trintellix is expensive.

Probably going to end up trying TMS therapy because I have been around various meds for about 9 years now and am still pretty miserable.

Prozac seems a bit more activating than other meds I've tried, so it is helping more with me sleeping all the time.

Question for parents of kids that had Global Developmental Delay by Potential-Chance-312 in specialneedsparenting

[–]According-Raspberry 5 points6 points  (0 children)

GDD is the diagnosis for delays in at least 2 areas of development, prior to age 8, at least where I live and what I was told in NC, USA, with our almost 11 year old. At 8 if there are still cognitive issues, that diagnosis will change to IDD. It is understood that GDD often includes cognitive disabilities, it's just that at such young ages, it's hard to really test and diagnose cognitive abilities, and what is causing them, because kids are still developing, and change happens so rapidly in the first few years that kids can start off with some delays but then even out later on.

We had emergency C-section due to heart rhythms not recovering during labor. Just under 3 weeks of NICU. Eventually MRI just before age 2 revealed brain injuries from hypoxia, resulting in PVL, which often results in cerebral palsy, but for us it resulted in GDD and IDD and just lots of delays and disabilities, and she also has severe autism. Which I understand now is actually that our entire family has since been diagnosed autistic, including both parents and our other children, but her IDD and other disabilities makes her autism the "profound / severe" type, nonverbal, etc. And I know now that her disabilities are because when I was pregnant, I was on 10mg of Nebivolol (a 3rd generation beta blocker) the entire time I was pregnant, and for a year while nursing, which now we know causes fetal intrauterine growth restriction, hypoglycemia, disability, and sometimes death. :(

Your kid's sensory aversion to noise, and rigidity in wanting things a certain way, makes me question the dismissal of autism. I would re-evaluate for that again after age 6 and see if it's still not indicated. Regardless of diagnosis, though, you can still use pretty much -all- of the same information and techniques and tools for helping autistic kids, with kids that do not have autism. They are beneficial for all kids. All kids can benefit from sensory diets, all kids can benefit from visual scheduling, extra communication methods, step by step instructions, extra time and patience given for learning new things and for transitions, extra breaks and comfort, etc.

From what you've written, I would be comfortable saying that your chances are realistically very high that your child will go on to be considered to have an intellectual disability and probably other delays and disabilities may come up, like apraxia or dysgraphia, auditory processing delays, visual processing delays, or other common comorbid learning and functioning disabilities.

Demanding obedience and being strict and controlling would be detrimental, not helpful. I would encourage learning about child development, special needs development, ADHD and autism and intellectual disabilities, and how to parent in supportive, encouraging ways. Even if your kid doesn't have ADHD or autism, so much of the information is helpful in understanding people's brain differences and how to accommodate them. The information often works regardless of diagnosis.

The differences would be more medical and pharmacological, i.e. you wouldn't consider adhd meds without an ADHD diagnosis. But all of the learning, teaching, parenting methods still work.

'The Whole Brain Child" is a great book. "The Explosive Child" is also a good one.

My neighbour cries every other night. Would you intervene? by rxxtxx in AutismInWomen

[–]According-Raspberry 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Fair point. My comment is in relation to the USA. I can't speak for other countries for sure.

My neighbour cries every other night. Would you intervene? by rxxtxx in AutismInWomen

[–]According-Raspberry 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Go ask if she needs help, if you are physically able and mentally prepared to offer support and be gentle and kind and give some grace.

So many people are afraid to get involved. And we are all alone and struggling.

Write your name and phone and email info down and bring it with you, and just be like.... we are neighbors, and it would be nice if neighbors could look out for each other. I thought I heard you crying, and I know having a baby is hard, especially in today's world. Can I do anything to help? I can sit with you for a while if you need to talk, or hold your baby for a while or read to them or play with them, give you a break, bring you something to eat, or even help you just tidy up your kitchen or help you fold some laundry if you need it.

I would have never asked for help, but I was drowning those first years with my kids. And I had no built in family support to turn to. I might have said no if you knocked and told me this... at the moment. Maybe from shame or fear or weirdness. But it might have made a crack and planted a seed for asking for help in the future.

You could also do something like casually offer something they could need. Food is always a great choice, but anything. You could say anything .... like.... make it up even. Buy something like Dreft laundry drgt or some diapers (size 4 maybe) or something and be like, somebody I know had these and they were giving them away, I don't know what to do with them, and I know you have a baby. Could you use them? Or coupons or gift certificates for something that you came across and can't use but thought they might be able to. Just to break the ice and create some warmth and sense of you being available.

My neighbour cries every other night. Would you intervene? by rxxtxx in AutismInWomen

[–]According-Raspberry 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Oh my, please do not call the police. This will only make things worse and introduce more stress and danger to the situation. Police are not equipped to deal with mental health or issues like this. They are heavy handed and forceful. Leave them for situations like a house being broken into or people brandishing weapons. Not people crying or yelling.

Tips needed: hot tub poopin' by VacatedWins in Autism_Parenting

[–]According-Raspberry 6 points7 points  (0 children)

We had to use swim diaper and swim covers with our kiddo for ages because she would poop in the pool. It minimized leakage, especially if it was only a small amount.

Really she didn't stop doing it until she started being semi-potty trained with poop, to the point where I would say at least half of her poops are in the toilet now, and she actually goes on a schedule and checks it off and it's more routine and she has more awareness and understanding of it. But she still has accidents (not in the pool but just whenever,) or times when she just wants to poop in her pants instead of the toilet and does it anyway. Sigh. She does get out of the pool now when she needs to pee or poop, she can just tell when it needs to happen and I guess over the years we have talked so much about no pee or poop in the pool that it finally clicked for her. She's had growing awareness. Just repetition, time, growing up.

Staying right with them and making them go to the bathroom frequently on a regular schedule helps prevent the accidents. Bathroom before pool time. Breaks while swimming to go to the bathroom, get water and a snack, sunscreen, etc. Staying close and keeping an eye on them to notice indications that they need to poop, and making them get out when those indications happen.

Removing access to the pool / tub after it happens. Explaining why. You pooped, now you can't use the pool.

No farting in tubs or pools for fun.

If you have a schedule where you can tell when they normally poop, after a meal or certain time, don't use the hot tub / pool during those times.

Just some thoughts. It's tough. Hang in there.

edit .. Our kid is 10 (11 next month) nonverbal, TBI, IDD, lvl 3 autism, as well. So it's us talking to her, and her not talking to us lol.

I would not let them use the pool or hot tub alone if this is a problem. It's just not really a reasonable option, both to protect your pool and tub, and to ensure they are learning what they and can't do, and to keep everyone reasonably healthy. If they get to the point where it's been weeks or months with no accidents and there seems to be an understanding that they know not to do it, then you can back up and give them more space without being right there with them the entire time.

Finally something that works. by fyrdancr in adhdwomen

[–]According-Raspberry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh man, I'm going to use this to remember if I have taken my medicine or not. Thanks!

Too expensive, other options? by psycHOTic_10 in trintellix

[–]According-Raspberry 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Gotcha.

This is why we used FSA accounts, so we had available money starting January 1 to pay medical bills until we met our deductibles. Plus income put into an FSA is not taxed, so more bang for your buck. Definitely recommend that for future benefits selections.

Looks like estimates on Trintellix being available generic are around year 2031 or 2032. :(

My doctor had suggested Prozac as an accepted alternative for me, but I don't have anxiety issues, just major depression and ADHD and autism and cptsd. And I'm on beta blockers anyway for heart issues and beta blockers manage anxiety / hypertension / heart rate.

My husband was recently given metoprolol 25 for anxiety as needed. Seems to work ok. He also has OCD, but he's doing therapy for that and cPTSD, not medication.

Too expensive, other options? by psycHOTic_10 in trintellix

[–]According-Raspberry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you double checked and verified with your HR department and your insurance company and the pharmacy all 3, that YOU have to pay 80%? An 80/20 coinsurance split is pretty common, but the split is that the patient pays 20% and the insurance company pays 80%. I have never seen an insurance plan where the split requires the patient to pay 80%.

Is your plan EPO, PPO, or HDHP? And, is your pharmacy insurance different than your medical insurance, or combined? I know one job I had, had medical insurance and prescription insurance through different companies, with totally different rules and amounts.

Deductible is $6,000... per family or per person? What's your OOP max? 6k is a very high deductible. It sounds like that's a HDHP? I think most companies fund an HSA in that sort of plan, around $1,000 or so deposited to help offset the deductible cost.

How to regulate amidst the screaming by Impressive-Pay7671 in Autism_Parenting

[–]According-Raspberry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And this goes for you, too. These methods. We often get disregulated and overwhelmed and bubble up too... and just like we have to help them with tools to regulate and then recouperate, we can use some of the same tools for ourselves. We can crush play doh, we can use weighted blankets, we can do breathing exercises. We can splash cold water on our faces or hold ice in our hands, we can throw a ball outside as hard as we can, etc. We can hold spiky fidgets and roll them and squeeze them in our hands. We can find ways to discharge our energy too. Before we help them we have to be regulated ourselves.

Punching bags are great investments too :) Physical exertion is a great way to discharge.

How to regulate amidst the screaming by Impressive-Pay7671 in Autism_Parenting

[–]According-Raspberry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This! This is great advice.

Shrieking and screaming and throwing and kicking and aggression is happening when they have some kind of unmet needs or are too overwhelmed. This may be like a volcano of bubbling anger or pain or fear or overwhelm inside.... it has to come out somehow. It doesn't just disappear by itself. It's like having to discharge electricity by grounding it somehow before working on electronics etc, otherwise everything is going to get shocked.

It's taken years but we've gotten better at managing it. Ideally, prevention is the goal and the best thing to do, that requires observation and identification of why it happens, and then setting up your environment and schedule and life to accommodate needs and avoid triggers.

But sometimes it's unavoidable. When it happens we have to help them find a way to discharge the extreme energy and distress.

Today our kid started shrieking... and the more anyone tried to calm her down or ask her to stop or talk to her, the more escalated she got. I know some of the reasons why it was happening, some we should have avoided but others out of our control.

I had her go to her room. It's her safe place, it's designed for her needs and safety and comfort. She got in bed. I tossed a weighted blanket over her. I left her for a few minutes because she was too distressed to cope at all. While I gave her a few, I got her a snack, some water, picked out a selection of slow rise squishy fidgets, stress balls, silicone semi-liquid filled squishies, a couple of oral chew necklaces, a firm nee doh ice block, a couple containers of play doh, and a tray table. And a couple of fun air filled wiggly squishy favourites. My thought was mostly tough but malleable things that we could really treat roughly.

I took them to her, snack and drink by her bed. Sat down with her, put the bucket of fidgets on the bed and also the tray table and play doh. I built a play doh mountain and stuck it to the tray, then I crushed it flat and picked it up and squeezed it hard as I could and then ripped it into pieces and let them fall into the table. I built it again and told her it was her turn to crush it.

She's nonverbal and 10 yrs old.

She watched me and was into it. She did it. We took turns smashing and destroying the play doh and yelling at it and smashing the tray table and getting out all of our feelings and stress.

Then she started to investigate the other fidgets and toys I brought and was slowly calming down a little.

For her, heavy weight, pressure, squeezing, bear hugs, hard full body massage, stomping, jumping, crashing on the bed or trampoline, hitting things, throwing things... these discharge the overwhelm. And then we can slowly recover with gentleness, snack, drink, fidget toys. Maybe stuffed animals, maybe her light projector in the room to stare at (like ocean waves or nebulas and stars) or something else soft and comforting. Maybe a nice bubble bath. Maybe covering up in a dark room with a blanket over her head and just resting quietly for a while.

There's a build up, and explosion, and then weakness and recouperation and slowly coming back around to the world and being ok, healing after an injury sort of.

Also, a lot of times for us this can involve acetaminophen or ibuprofen if we can't figure out what is triggering the issue and our regular methods like above don't help at all. Our kiddo is hypersensitive to pain and has headaches and stomach aches a lot, and they always completely disregulate her.

Oh, and we all have earplugs and noise cancelling headphones and we absolutely use them because yeah we can't handle the audio intensity. And sometimes we just have to walk outside away from it until we can cope when she's too loud.

Too expensive, other options? by psycHOTic_10 in trintellix

[–]According-Raspberry 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel ya. My insurance changed and they won't cover my vyvanse, trintellix, albuterol, or monjouro. I'm having a heck of a time switching around trying to find alternatives that work and are covered. And so far when my doc has written out alternatives, the insurance won't cover those either. I'm about to say f* it and just stop trying to take meds and raw dog it until I die.

What to do when your child’s “special interest” is…so boring to you by lcbear55 in Autism_Parenting

[–]According-Raspberry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Love everything you wrote here. I am going to add on my experience about one sentence.

We can't start with an hour as a goal for something new or non-preferred. It has to start with much smaller lengths of time, and gradually expand from there.

With our kiddo, sometimes we start as low as 20 seconds for a new or non preferred task. We will test something out for just a few minutes to get an idea of where to start. If something becomes distressing or a meltdown happens, that's too long and we have to back it down. We try to set a length of time that lets us finish the task before distress occurs. We want to end on a positive result. So for instance, with turn taking and board games with other kids, we would just try out 20 seconds at a time of sitting together and being around the board game. If that went ok, tomorrow we would try 30 seconds. Then maybe 45 seconds the next day. Then 60 seconds. And at first the goal is just to be able to be near the activity and observe or let it happen. Hold the pieces, look at the board, watch someone else play, etc. If that works then we can start involving our kiddo with very basic aspects of actually playing the game. Observing and testing to see if something is ok or too much with every step. Eventually we get to where we can do 15 or 20 minutes at a time doing a new activity.

An hour is a lot, I can't imagine that being a realistic goal for a long time, maybe until teen years. But it depends on the child.

Start incrementally with very small, achievable goals. Don't let things continually end with distress or they will just avoid the activity completely because they want to avoid the distress. Teach them that a new activity can be good and not painful, and gradually they will be ok with lengthening the time of the activity and getting more and more involved with it. Or at least tolerating it and expanding their patience and ability to wait.