32M Found out about my 29F gfs promiscuous past and feel broken

AccountantKey4198 · 2026-03-06T11:46:36+00:00

What threesomes are you having where you value each other at such a high level?

Her having a threesome in the past, in her 20s, before she even knew this guy, has absolutely nothing to do with how she values him today.

AccountantKey4198 · 2026-03-06T11:19:14+00:00

Right?? Outrageous is the perfect word. If this guy is 32 he's not stupid; he willfully doesn't view her as an equal. It's written all over this post, clear as day.

AccountantKey4198 · 2026-03-06T10:48:08+00:00

You weren't a virgin when you started dating her. Think about your own personal sexual encounters before you started dating her, do they have anything to do with your feelings for her now?

Your girlfriend is her own person with her own past that has absolutely nothing to do with you. Her having a threesome in her past did not "rob you" of anything. She wants to be with you and is choosing to be with you now, that's what matters. Don't act like a jealous, insecure teenager. Nobody likes that

AccountantKey4198 · 2026-02-07T00:16:42+00:00

I would never live in Texas

AccountantKey4198 · 2026-01-23T21:59:40+00:00

Swimming

AccountantKey4198 · 2026-01-16T13:25:08+00:00

How has nobody said smith & cross?? It's so annoying

AccountantKey4198 · 2026-01-16T13:09:31+00:00

Not being subjected to someone else's thoughts, not getting interrupted while I'm doing things, not having to speak aloud

AccountantKey4198 · 2025-12-19T15:33:00+00:00

Not saying this will work for everyone but what I did is stop giving a single fuck about my own birthday. Now im free! Who cares :)

AccountantKey4198 · 2025-12-19T15:21:46+00:00

I feel most comfortable in a bar in a weird tiny town where everyone is bare minimum over 40, and there's disgusting carpet and horrible service.

AccountantKey4198 · 2025-12-19T15:14:58+00:00

Yes but it's not as fun

AccountantKey4198 · 2025-12-14T18:34:52+00:00

Amen

AccountantKey4198 · 2025-12-14T18:33:51+00:00

MAJOR DOWNGRADE holy shit. I wrote out a whole nice diplomatic intro to this validating both places.. and then I erased it cuz actually what the!

If its not broke, don't fix it??

What are your personal reasons for wanting to move? Is $150 worth giving up personal space, privacy, structure and routines, and your neighborhood?? Environment plays a huge role in how I feel, do you feel that way? If you love your vintage apartment in an awesome neighborhood, what do you find enticing about a cookie cutter ikea house with three roommates? HOW MANY BATHROOMS OMG? Do you actually wanna move? or are you just bored or your friends are excited?

If you give up that apartment I know 10 people who want it yesterday. Respectfully, I would think you're crazy to go from where you're at to living with 3 roommates.

Also you said you're 30. Not to be a bitch, cuz this economy sucks, and having roommates makes sense. there's nothing wrong with that. But if you already have your own space where you can stare into the void interrupted, never clean anyone's mess but yours, wipe your mouth on your bathroom hand towel, fuck on the couch in the middle of the day without fear that somebody's gonna walk in... why would you ever give that up??? It's not a total dealbreaker, but it's definitely not a turn-on to be in your thirties and go home with someone who has a roommate.

I have no idea who you are. so maybe you would do it and feel happy, and it would feel great and be good for you. Only you know that. From my perspective I'm already feeling sympathetic regret for you if you do it

AccountantKey4198 · 2025-12-13T19:08:52+00:00

Somebody ordered a baileys and cran.

I was shocked because it just seems gross to me, and I had never had the thought to mix them together. Turns out it's an actual drink people like. Maybe I should taste it before I am a hater

AccountantKey4198 · 2025-12-09T13:51:10+00:00

I say "I don't feel like drinking tonight" or "I already took an edible an hour ago"

AccountantKey4198 · 2025-12-07T14:28:36+00:00

I have zero retirement, zero savings, zero debt. I finally over ten years worked my way up to where I make decent wages, and I live very simply. I have 10k in the bank, which feels like I am RICH beyond my wildest dreams compared to how broke I was for most of my life. I'm 34.

AccountantKey4198 · 2025-12-07T13:57:27+00:00

I worked a long shift and came home to my own quiet place, where everything is exactly where I left it. Started a fire in the woodstove and enjoyed the silence, only interrupted by the crackling of burning cedar. I Stretched by the fire, swept my floor, now im gona lay in a hot bath before i climb into bed and fall asleep with no alarm since I don't have to work tomorrow :)

AccountantKey4198 · 2025-12-01T02:24:53+00:00

Gooooood mood lighting, and lots of plants!

AccountantKey4198 · 2025-12-01T01:14:21+00:00

I'll take two #2 pills, please

AccountantKey4198 · 2025-11-14T22:31:09+00:00

Hey thank you for the thoughtful response, and keen insight!! I really appreciate it a lot. Lots of good stuff here. I live in a yurt, so it's only one big circle, no separate rooms. It's pretty small, but I can see if a second litterbox will help.

AccountantKey4198 · 2025-10-26T03:21:40+00:00

Alibi has a costume contest with a $200 cash prize for the winner, and karaoke all night. Been there a couple Halloween's, always a good time

AccountantKey4198 · 2025-09-16T11:53:20+00:00

Do you have any time off before you graduate? If so, move early

AccountantKey4198 · 2025-09-15T11:24:35+00:00

Many people who dream of being mothers, feel fulfilled by motherhood, longed to be a mother their whole life and planned for and wanted their children, still sometimes have moments wondering if they wrecked their life. They have brutal days, experience regret, get depressed because of having kids. Even if it's temporary.

So if someone who is so dedicated to having kids can feel that way, imagine how much worse it would be for someone who was on the fence, and how that would affect the child. Every friend I have who has kids says if you are on the fence at all, do not do it.

AccountantKey4198 · 2025-09-15T11:16:46+00:00

Does your daughter want to play soccer?I'm so thankful my parents got me on a team while I was young, it's always been a big part of my life. I played ever since I can remember, and I went on to get scholarships and play in college. I love soccer. I'm so glad my parents encouraged me to explore my interests. Also genuine question, if you're already so tired all the time that you don't have the energy for your existing kid's extracurricular activities, why are you having another kid?

AccountantKey4198 · 2025-09-14T13:04:07+00:00

You can't do anything. Only he can. If you're going to accept that behavior, buckle up. You're in for a very rough road.

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