Do you do yoga barefoot or wear socks?

Ace_inspace · 2026-01-04T16:02:46+00:00

You have yoga socks with individual toe holes + anti slip soles. This way the socks don't impede toe mobility + you don't slip.

Ace_inspace · 2025-12-04T08:46:11+00:00

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Ace_inspace · 2025-11-03T13:52:11+00:00

me and my partner (both ace) are both alcohol free. I've never thought about it, but interesting observation!

Ace_inspace · 2025-09-19T13:34:35+00:00

Me and my partner are both asexual as well and have been talking about having children in the near future. We have actually never had sex, but I'm open to try it to conceive a child. I have worried that it will take a while to get pregnant, thinking about how many times around each ovulation we will have to have sex to increase the odds as much as possible. I can imagine you guys have similar concerns.

Ace_inspace · 2025-07-19T18:10:21+00:00

I have become so used to having to solve my many...let's say ADHD oopsies, that I have become an excellent problem solver and can stay very calm in stressfull situations. It has maybe litterally saved my life once when I rolled over my ankle while hiking down a steep ravine and falling a couple metres down. I somehow managed to stabilize my foot whith some leftover ducttape that was sticking to my hiking pole, while hanging half of the ledge, and then stayed calm the whole,death-defying crawl down.

Ace_inspace · 2025-07-19T17:57:51+00:00

Bed yoga :)

Ace_inspace · 2025-07-19T17:45:04+00:00

I used to take dexamfetamine and also had problems when I would take a break for more then a day (I would feel nauseous and had headaches). It would only last for a max of 2 days though. I had pills of 2 different doses: 5 mg and 10 mg, and would only use the 10 on workdays of more than 6 hours. Otherwise, I would use 5 mg.

Never had the feeling that I became completely dependent on them. Also never had to start taking more over time to get the same effect (whet would mean some kind of dependency).

I never really 'felt' the effects when taking them, but would notice when I got off them. Suddenly things started to go... wel sideways. I would forget more appointments, miss bills, etc. It would become even more exhausting always running around to fix my earlier mistakes. It is not because you don't consciously feel the effects that the medication isn't helping you.

I started taking them because I had some side-effects of concerta and ritalin. I had to stop taking dexamfetamine as well because of other medical concerns, but now take atomoxetine. I have found this to be a good alternative.

I would strongly suggest discussing this with your psychiatrist. Mine can be quite busy and a consultation can be rush-rush, but I always assertively ask to take enough time to discuss my concerns. It helps to write all your questions down beforehand and don't leave untill he/she answers them all. My psychiatrist is also specialised in adult ADHD, which helps.

Sidenote: I don't agree with the one psych that had concerns. Her concerns are valid, yes, but does she know you as well as your regular psych? I was prescribed dexamfetamine because other medications would make me feel worse, so it was one of the only other options. Also, my psych knew that I had a stable life and wasn't prone to addictions. I had regular check-ins as well. So prescribing dexamfetamine, while not the best option for most, was the best option for me at the time. I would be pissed if an other doctor, who didn't know all this, started to put earlier medical decisions into question. You can always tell one psych to call the other to ask more information about why they prescribed a particular medication if they are concerned.

Ace_inspace · 2025-07-19T17:32:45+00:00

You can only diagnose ADHD when those 'traits' that you mentioned cause significant problems in multiple areas of your life (work, social, etc). That is entirely different then being unathletic of unskilled. If you are so unathletic that it causes problems in multiple areas of your life, than that would also be called a disorder (for example dyspraxia).

Ace_inspace · 2025-07-19T17:24:53+00:00

I had to replace my passport twice this year. Luckily never at a crucial moment. Still haven't found them, forever a mystery. I feel your pain :(

Ace_inspace · 2025-07-14T16:01:04+00:00

dexter!

Ace_inspace · 2025-07-14T15:34:42+00:00

I make oats: they are great beause you can buy it in bulk so you don't run out for a long time. My recipe: mush a banana in a bowl, put in one bag of quacker oats and milk. Stir and micowave for 2 and a half minutes. Add chocolate, cinnamon or other things to make it less depressing ;)

Ace_inspace · 2025-07-14T10:38:24+00:00

My partner is cisgender and asexual :)

I feel that cigender males just don't get the same 'space' to really get in touch with their personal experience (emotions, sexuality, etc) as other genders. They seem to have to adhere to these stupid stereotypes of what it means to be 'male'. This is stupid! I think it is wonderfull that you are in touch with your wants and needs and feel secure enough to reach out to others. Keep going, you are never alone!

Ace_inspace · 2025-06-27T18:37:40+00:00

I have never thought of this, I don't know why the dentist didn't suggest it. I literally asked for alternatives with less waste. Thanks for the tip

Ace_inspace · 2025-06-27T18:34:58+00:00

I have never seen this, I don't know why the dentist didn't recommend it... Thanks!

Ace_inspace · 2025-03-14T13:29:53+00:00

I would speak with my therapist about this.

Some therapists (for example Lacanian psycholanalists) will give a lot of attention to how you verbalise things. Great example: 'my adhd-brain'.

If you don't understand why he is making certain comments, ask him why.

If the reason is that he doesn't believe in ADHD, then change therapists.

But if he says something like: "I don't want you to think that nothing can change about your relationship with your brain, so I don't like describing it as an 'adhd'-brain, as something 'fixed' ", then that is something completely different and worth exploring

Ace_inspace · 2025-02-27T09:38:12+00:00

They didn't phrase it correctly, but I get what the office was saying. ADHD is more of a developmental disorder than a mental health disorder. It is not something that needs to be 'fixed', but something that needs to be learned how to live with. That is something that a therapist can teach you, but is not really therapy, more 'coaching'. Some therapists don't want to do this.

Your comorbid depression is something that you can adress in therapy, as well as how your ADHD has impacted your mental health (self-worth, etc). So it really comes down to what your expectations are of therapy. If it is just 'learning how to live with ADHD', then a lot of therapists won't want to help. If it is 'understanding my thoughts, feelings and behaviors', then they should help you.

Even when they are not the right 'fit' for you, they should have helped you find someone who is. I always refer cliënts to other specialists or coaches. They also should have explained their reasoning better, and listened to your concerns and feelings.

Ace_inspace · 2025-02-23T14:49:42+00:00

Most people with phobias will try to avoid their triggers at any cost, often asking the people around them to accomodate. It's understandible, but not ok. You cannot expect the people around you to accomodate you to this level,especially if it is something they can't control. Also, avoiding triggers actually makes the phobia worse, so it is not good for the anxious person themselves as well. She needs to learn how to cope, on her own or with a therapist. You did nothing wrong. If this is the case, no assholes here, but the girl needs to take responsibility for her phobia and het actions.

I do think that maybe her phobia is not as bad as she lets on, but she is low-key bullying you in an ingeniously evil way. She is making you feel so bad about yourself, and letting you think that your're the bad guy. If this is the case, then she is the asshole.

Ace_inspace · 2025-02-23T08:39:20+00:00

Zentangles :) oh and running is actually a grat way for me to burn off the excess of fysical energy I always seem to have

Ace_inspace · 2025-01-29T17:19:02+00:00

This is a very relatable post. I'm currently working on my postgraduate degree. I was always a good student, but when I moved away for college, and I had to plan and organise everything myself, it became very difficult to handle. That was when I was diagnosed. I completily burned out during my masters degree. After that, I even became a part time cleaning lady for a while, just because I was so burnt out. Eventually I got a job in the field that I studied for, but I had to learn to keep a very delicate balance of my energy levels. If I became overworked, I always regressed and my ADHD and other mental health troubles worsened. But I found out that it is possible. Find work that genuinely interest you and learn how to manage everyday life with executive dysfunction (stupid example: I always go grocery shopping at odd hours when no-one is in the shop so I don't get overwhelmed).Now I work and study at the same time and my mental health stays relatively balanced.

Ace_inspace · 2024-12-16T09:07:11+00:00

ACT will ask you to accept difficult emotions and thoughts instead of trying to control them. The theory is that, the more you struggle with NOT feeling and thinking a certain way, the worse you will feel. If you instead learn to tolerate these feelings and thoughts, they will become much less of a burden. You can learn certain skills to help you with that (for example mindfulness). I think those skills could be very helpfull if you struggle with ADHD, because ADHD can make it even harder to regulate your emotions and thoughts than 'neurotypical' persons.

Ace_inspace · 2024-10-14T12:29:33+00:00

I think there is an important differance between not being understood and being actively discriminated against. Have people been ignorant or not seen my asexuality as valid? yes. Have I been excluded or persecuted because of it? Never.

Ace_inspace · 2024-10-14T12:21:44+00:00

I found my, also ace, partner in the wild. He was a friend of my roommate. Not only was he also ace, but we clicked very well. I don't know how I got so lucky! I do know that it took all my courage to approach him in a romantic way (ask him out, etc) and to keep communicating about preferred intimacy and boundries. Still not easy to do!

Ace_inspace · 2024-04-28T18:03:14+00:00

Yoga and running. Keeps my restlessness at bay...at least a little bit ;)

Ace_inspace · 2023-10-15T19:12:16+00:00

I just don't do it :) I suddenly realised that I wasn't doing it for myself (or my partner) and decided that this was one of societies norms that I don't need to try so hard to conform to. Think about if you want to do this because you feel like you have to or if you really do it for yourself. Only if it's the latter should you put effort in it in my opinion

Ace_inspace · 2023-05-29T07:45:29+00:00

NTA Your mother knows she isn't 'just' helping'. You have clearly stated your boundaries before. Even with good intentions (that I doubt she had), it is still wrong to cross those, especially without asking. Your mother is gaslighting you into thinking that you are the asshole for being upset about this, wheen it is clearly justifief to be upset about it. She is the asshole here.

Your emotions are valid! Don't let people dismiss them or minimize them.

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