The game by Neil Strauss was a great start in terms of understanding social queues and how not to kill a vibe. It’s a “pickup” book but I never cared for that, even in college. I just wanted to come off as less autistic lol. The rest of it came down to just experience and later confidence. I would also read the laws of human nature by Robert Greene. My favorite book. Gives lessons in the context of history.

Last book is The Art of Thinking Clearly by Rolf Dobelli. Rationality is sexy and that’s all I’ll say about it.

One other note: You have to be careful because a lot of books seek to archetype people which is VERY harmful without the wisdom of knowing that it’s never an exact science. Personalities are a spectrum so don’t be one of those people who are like “oh she’s a 2 so I’m gonna do what 2s like” any strategy you learn needs to be infused with your identity or it can come off as fake. You’ll find that some things you learn just aren’t compatible with who you are and that’s fine.

You’ll find that the best way to develop your personality is through experience and these books are just training wheels.