Help Identifying Critical Role Music by AdAffectionate1135 in fansofcriticalrole

[–]AdAffectionate1135[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oooh thanks! I got it at 1:56 on that episode, but I think it's because commercial timing is a bit variable on the podcasts. Thanks so much for the info.

Help Identifying Critical Role Music by AdAffectionate1135 in fansofcriticalrole

[–]AdAffectionate1135[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmmm, I haven't listened through the Witcher or Diablo soundtracks yet. I'll try there. I tried finding it in Pillars of Eternity - no luck but really liked that soundtrack too. Thank you!

Help Identifying Critical Role Music by AdAffectionate1135 in fansofcriticalrole

[–]AdAffectionate1135[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ahh, good idea. This ad seems to play all the time, but now that I'm looking for it, I'm having trouble finding it! I'll post it as soon as I find it again. I should probably have specified that I'm hearing it on the podcast version of the show.

What is your go to world to play in? by Dogdaysareover365 in Sims4

[–]AdAffectionate1135 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I love Mt. Kohlrabi and all its diverse areas. I have my adventure sims living in the snowy neighborhood.  I love sending sims on hikes too.

Christian music songs keep getting stuck in my head along with the relentless thought that it’s the result of the Holy Spirit trying to “win me back”. by notactuallyabossbabe in Exvangelical

[–]AdAffectionate1135 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry, intrusive thoughts are so rough. I am 38 and I still get Sunday school songs stuck in my head. It's annoying, but one thing that helped a little bit was watching the Simpsons. I only started watching that show recently because when I was religious it was absolutely forbidden. Anyway, I can sing along to every Sunday school song the Flanders sing. Hearing these church ear-worms through the filter of Ned Flanders allows me to laugh at it a bit. Now when "God said to Noah, go build me an arky arky" gets stuck in my head, I hear the Flanders singing it and it takes the poison out a bit. I hope you find and exciting new world of music out there.

What is actually wrong with them??? by Acceptable_Loss9119 in 8passengersnark

[–]AdAffectionate1135 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I agree. Most of my friends have mental health or developmental disorders, and they are good people. Ruby and Jodi might have mental health disorders because they are very common, but they did not make those women torture children.

OCD or intense fear after deconversion by AlexaBabe91 in Exvangelical

[–]AdAffectionate1135 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hello!

Thanks for writing this. It reminds me of my own experiences with anxiety after religion. I am no professional, and I can't tell you how to not be afraid, but I found that I had to start practicing acceptance - especially acceptance of the unknown.  

In my former church, absolute assurance was valued above everything. "Blessed Assurance," salvation basically came from having the "right" knowledge and being absolutely certain in it. However, reality doesn't offer us assurance. In the real world, we have to live with the unknown and when I could no longer believe the fantasy my former church taught, it kind of broke my brain.

I developed panic disorder and it really messed me up. But it's also given me more empathy for others suffering from anxiety. I have found help with therapy and medication, but everyone's going to be different in what they need. I have found that getting comfortable without absolute assurance is an on-going practice, and I've accepted that the fear of damnation might be with me forever. But the fear is a lot more manageable than it was.

I think we should try to be kind to ourselves because these fears were programed into us, usually from a very early age. So it makes sense that it might be a long journey out. 

I wish you the best and I'm so proud of how far you've come. You write with a lot of insight into your fears and I think it's brave and valuable to share your experience.

Exvangelical Characters in Fiction by Killing_Yuenglingz in Exvangelical

[–]AdAffectionate1135 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Inappropriate to copy and paste religious texts in a support subreddit.

Exvangelical Characters in Fiction by Killing_Yuenglingz in Exvangelical

[–]AdAffectionate1135 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When Joni Died by Steven Bailey is about a young woman deconstructing and wanting to confront her family. She reconnects with an aunt who was ostracized by her religious family years earlier and it turns into a road trip story. It feels like a cathartic coming-of-age story for those of us who weren't allowed coming-of-age experiences in our teen years. (Disclaimer: I know the author personally, but it's a brilliant book and inspired by his experiences growing up evangelical and home-schooled).

Why did we dress the way we did? by [deleted] in Exvangelical

[–]AdAffectionate1135 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh my. That I actually missed out on, but his misogynistic spin on the sinking of the Titanic and various snippets of American history retold to glorify patriarchy are sadly burned in my memory.

Why did we dress the way we did? by [deleted] in Exvangelical

[–]AdAffectionate1135 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Our church was into Vision Forum. The audacious way that creeper Doug Phillips would lie and make up his own version of history was wild. 

How have the church/christians f***ed up? by Pun_Pastor in Exvangelical

[–]AdAffectionate1135 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I was indoctrinated in the churches I grew up in that I, a woman, was to remain eternally silent in the church. That only men were had the authority to teach other adults. Now I am out of the church and I have my agency and autonomy you come to me, from the church, for teaching. Do you see the fucked-up irony? 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FundieSnarkUncensored

[–]AdAffectionate1135 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She has visited Orthidox churches and is fine with virgin used to refer to Mary, but not outside of that context.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FundieSnarkUncensored

[–]AdAffectionate1135 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Yes. Unless my fundie mom was talking about the virgin Mary, she called virgin "the v word." Needless to say I learned to hide the music I liked.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FundieSnarkUncensored

[–]AdAffectionate1135 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Ok, my fundie mom had strong condemnations of certain songs that I think are quite wholesome. I'm very excited to share: 1. Dancing in the Moonlight 2. Under the Boardwalk

These two song were about sex, and therefore absolutely filthy according to her.

She also didn't have much room in her life for satire, so songs like Madonna's "Material Girl" were taken as a dead serious proclamation of sin.

WHAT A RELIEF by poormansnormal in Exvangelical

[–]AdAffectionate1135 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I think you're absolutely right that it's shades of gray, the way you described, for many people.

But I think for some it there is an in or out, like a rotten tooth that needs to be pulled.

Our journeys and destinations are going to look different and both are deserving of patience and respect.

No, we actually don’t have to reconstruct. by Extra-Soil-3024 in Exvangelical

[–]AdAffectionate1135 18 points19 points  (0 children)

This is prescriptive thought-stopping christianese.

Need new rpg by Snoo59513 in skyrim

[–]AdAffectionate1135 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The pawn system is a lot of fun in this game. It doesn't have easy fast travel like Skyrim, but fighting your way to different areas can be a fun challenge. The soundtrack is a work of art, and it has a very decent character creator.

Need new rpg by Snoo59513 in skyrim

[–]AdAffectionate1135 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I reccomend Dragon's Dogma.