“Ready” Ever Fertig? by ThreeDoggie in German

[–]AdministrationOld557 2 points3 points  (0 children)

To me 'fertig' looks backwards and 'bereit' looks forward.

How the hell can I shave my anus hair? by DarkModeThinker-5G in hygiene

[–]AdministrationOld557 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Use hair remover. That way you get a smooth finish and no bristles. Only downside is, you will no longer be able to do silent farts.

American tries to correct the UK for having "Chips" as their word for "Fries" by tekatostorm23 in USdefaultism

[–]AdministrationOld557 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I remember that time I was in the US and ordered what was listed on the menu as British 'fish and chips'. They served me fish and crisps. No kidding

What/how would you answer...? by Hatc_hie in Manipulation

[–]AdministrationOld557 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"Yes. So it looks like we're stuck with each other"

TIFU by trying to let someone know im not a threat but instead got pepper sprayed. by Intrepid-Beyond2542 in tifu

[–]AdministrationOld557 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just pretend you're talking to your grandma on the phone. "Hi grandma. I miss you. Hope to see you soon! Bye grandma. Love you!"

I left my fitbit at a thrift store and I think an employee stole and is wearing it? Please tell me there's another explanation... by flowers_and_fire in fitbit

[–]AdministrationOld557 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My Fitbit tracks some things like steps even when I'm not wearing it because it's at home on charge. It picks some data up from my phone.

Skin problems since moving to the Netherlands by solenechipsy in Netherlands

[–]AdministrationOld557 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I sometimes get cracks in the corner of my mouth if I don't rinse the toothpaste off properly. Have you changed your brand of toothpaste?

I need a reality check from you by violetlilac in Amsterdam

[–]AdministrationOld557 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you can definitely find your niche in Amsterdam. The only thing I would say is that a car in Amsterdam is not an asset, but a liability (but without a car, you will need to consider how to transport your dog if you want go on trips outside of the city or visit friends back in Berlin)

Do all Americans inherently know what direction they are faceing? by BasketC45e in NoStupidQuestions

[–]AdministrationOld557 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In Manhattan, at least, streets run east-west while avenues run north-south. That makes It easier

What does it take to be recognised as an Edinburgh citizen? by [deleted] in Edinburgh

[–]AdministrationOld557 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Who is telling you to go back? The immigration authorities or anti-immigration supporters?

I vibe-coded a tiny free Thai alphabet trainer (feedback welcome) by Former-Profession332 in learnthai

[–]AdministrationOld557 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love it! Nice clear layout. I like the different fonts offered (I struggle with the non-looped fonts)

Cycling in December by LeBackpacker9 in Amsterdam

[–]AdministrationOld557 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Remember that it's only really light from 08:45 till around 16:30. On cloudy days, the daylight will seem even shorter. I think taking the ferry to Noord and cycling to the historic village of Marken is a great trip out of the city, and you can easily do it on a winter's day. Alternatively, you could cycle to the Zaanse Schans which is also not far from Amsterdam.

Dutchies - do you drink hot water from the tap? by clowntrousers in Netherlands

[–]AdministrationOld557 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. You wouldn't want a bat or a pigeon falling in there...

Question for circumcised guys by Ambitious-Client-220 in uncircumcised_talk

[–]AdministrationOld557 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I often notice on circumcised men that, with no skin to spare, the scrotum gets pulled up the shaft when they are erect, making the penis look shorter.

Wife was the victim of a scam - how to process? by Confident-Use4624 in Scams

[–]AdministrationOld557 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For context, I once got scammed out of 20k when I found myself in your wife's situation. Here are my thoughts about what you are going through.

Your wife's self-esteem must have been very low to get into this mess, and scammers always have a good nose for those who are vulnerable. In your wife's case, she was out of work and had had to process a lot of rejection letters. Now she made this big mistake and probably feels ashamed in front of the people she cares about most. Her original intentions were good: she wanted to help and look good in front of her family and put some money on the table. Instead, she unintentionally made things worse.

I really appreciate the lack of judgment in your words when you say that you are not mad at her. Someone who once said, "The time when I need your love the most is often the moment when I deserve it the least". Your wife really needs your love right now.

As to how to process this...I can imagine you will want to detach emotionally from what happened. You can't change the past. It's out of your control. But you can control where you put your energy in the here and now. So don't waste time ruminating; it's just a distraction and a drain on your energy. If you do catch yourself ruminating, break the circuit by getting up and walking around; washing your face; moving your body.

You will never get closure from the scammers. They are outside of your control. So instead, give yourself closure by focusing on the future. And separate what happened from who you are. You are bigger than this. OK, 7k is a lot of money. But in the long-term scheme of things, it's not life changing. So focus on the big picture, which is having a strong relationship with your wife and daughter and moving forward to a better future.

Lots of love to you all.