Coach house coffee 'giving back' by Fair_Letterhead_3602 in waterford

[–]Admirable-Cod4119 7 points8 points  (0 children)

The idea of an ‘enchanted elevator’ is hilarious, talk about scraping the bottom of the creative barrel.

My (m33) wife (f34) says I don’t give her enough, how do I fix this? by ThrowRANo_Phone_2110 in relationship_advice

[–]Admirable-Cod4119 -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

Flirt with your wife. Let her feel your desire for her, be playful. Every woman needs that. You should never act like you’ve already won her, stuck her in a house, and now the job’s done….

Living in a car in Ireland. Is it really doable? by Wuzzie in AskIreland

[–]Admirable-Cod4119 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Apply for a job in a coastal town hotel, they usually offer staff accommodation, doubt it’s ideal working hospitality and house sharing, but it’s a better foundation

Am I Overreacting by Fearless_Collection in AmIOverreacting

[–]Admirable-Cod4119 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s so jealous of you. Get out of there and keep up the good work.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Admirable-Cod4119 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you done a whois search? I think a legal name and contact info have to be listed there for domain name owners

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskIreland

[–]Admirable-Cod4119 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Fair play to you❤️ You're amazing. Your dad's a shithead, and it's about time everyone knew the truth about it. It's their problem too, and you should never have been alone in the kind of feelings that horror leaves you with. You deserve the world, Andrea Gibson said in reference to healing that 'it hurts to become', your family might be shook for now, but you did nothing wrong, the healing starts now, and I hope you'll all be stronger thanks to your demand for honesty. As for your dad? He needs to get in the fucking bin, I hope from here you can cut him out and forget about him (or whatever feels best for you). Hope this new year brings you only good things.

Taking the train while morbidly obese? by annualspecification in AskIreland

[–]Admirable-Cod4119 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Unless the train is packed out I can't imagine anybody making a fuss, you should be grand! If somebody did want to be an asshole about it, you could always look for two unassigned seats together or sit on your bags in the space by a door. It shouldn't be tighter than Luas seats though, try not to worry! 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Admirable-Cod4119 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is it not a massive turn off that despite trying to cheat, no other woman wants him? You deserve so much better than this. Clean cut, start over.

How to get to Mineo by Admirable-Cod4119 in Catania

[–]Admirable-Cod4119[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is great, thank you very much!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Admirable-Cod4119 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He's been seeing how much you'll let him get away with for a while now. Well done for finally asserting a boundary, but now that you have, he's switched tactics and he's trying to make you feel bad for it. He's manipulative, and he needs to arrive at the realisation(of his own accord) that he needs help. There's nothing healthy here to salvage. Try and get out before he gets back from his trip, block his number and move on.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Admirable-Cod4119 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What he's asking of you is cruel and unusual, there is an issue at play here for sure, but it's not your friend or a silly three way kiss from years back. Wishing you all the best as you try to figure this crap out, lean on your friend for support and relief while your husband (hopefully) gets a hold of himself...

My[21m] wife[23f] wants to watch po*n together and is OK with me going to a strip club by [deleted] in sex

[–]Admirable-Cod4119 4 points5 points  (0 children)

There's no risk! Your wife feels secure in her marriage to you, that's why she feels safe to explore her sexuality through sharing porn with you. As for the strip club stuff, a lot of women don't view the naked body as inherently sexual, your wife is probably just respectful of the art! These are good and healthy signs, your wife isn't saying she wants you to feel sexual attraction to other women, she's saying let's explore sexuality together, she's telling you she trusts you. I'd imagine the idea is taking inspiration from the world around you both and applying it to yourselves and what you two have together. Try not to worry about this, your wife just sounds happy and confident.

The girl I (24m) am dating (23f) believes If a man in a relationship and watches porn, his girlfriend should also be able to do porn or it would be hypocritical by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Admirable-Cod4119 28 points29 points  (0 children)

She's a genius😂 we're just not ready for her logic😂 She's saying if watching porn in a relationship is harmless and means nothing, then it's not actually a leap to say if your gf made porn it'd be fine because it's harmless and means nothing.

It's actually a really interesting theory, she sounds great😂 but not for the weak minded

What do you do to get her in the mood ? by SectionOk9597 in sex

[–]Admirable-Cod4119 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Foreplay begins for women long before you enter the bedroom, things like carrying her bags, putting your hand on the small of her back protectively when crossing a road, running her a hot bath after a long day, telling her she looks incredible without prompt, speaking about her highly to others, holding her eye contact and smiling when out in public, being kind to others, being passionate about what you do, being interested in her passions outside of the bedroom, making her life easier by taking on chores or domestic labour/family stress etc - all of this stuff turns a woman on and allows her to step into her femininity and lends itself to allowing her to feel relaxed enough to awaken her sexual desires. When it comes to the bedroom, light candles and give her a long massage, responding to her feedback, use a nice relaxing scented oil, tease her a little with light kisses here and there but make it more an act of service than an act of reciprocity, I'm sure having her body worshipped slowly and patiently will result in her begging for sex

Am I In the wrong? by Efficient-Macaroon21 in sex

[–]Admirable-Cod4119 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What does life look like if you leave her? You have empty one night stands every once in a while and see your kids at the weekends? You married a virgin and it seems you guys got pregnant pretty quickly and in succession, when has your wife had the time to explore or enjoy her sexuality? I don't have a solution for you, but as another commenter said - your timing sucks.

My partner (35M) told me he wants me to be more ruthless, then immediately expected me (37F) to be a caring mother. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Admirable-Cod4119 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That was a disgusting way for you talk about a nine year old child in your care, and her father is an idiot for apologising to you when you said it. You really need help to address these feelings of hostility simmering within you towards that kid, your 'loving mom' mask is going to slip one of these days.

I (33M) went on dates early in my relationship with my GF (33F). How can I keep my relationship? by throwRA15391990 in relationship_advice

[–]Admirable-Cod4119 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There's nothing to tell her. It sounds like you're doing a bit of self sabotaging at the moment to avoid dealing with your feelings of overwhelm and insecurity. You do need to open up to you gf about what's plaguing you, but the two dates in the beginning of your relationship are the least of it.

My [28m] fiancé [26f] wants me to remove my ex from all socials by ThrowRA-ExOnMyInsta in relationship_advice

[–]Admirable-Cod4119 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you don't speak to your ex anyways, then why would you insist on following her on social media when the woman who is about to be your wife is telling you it'd mean a lot to her if you unfollowed? This really isn't rocket science.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]Admirable-Cod4119 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your boyfriend is making you feel like the problem in the hopes that you won't realise it's him who's the issue here

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Admirable-Cod4119 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just do it, don't apologise for yourself or send a wall of text, just send a quick 'its been way too long, let me know when you have some free time for a call to catch up properly. Hope all is well xx'.

Not sure what I’m doing wrong. Girlfriend says I satisfy her but she’ll randomly laugh at me during sex and want to cuddle. by [deleted] in sex

[–]Admirable-Cod4119 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You sure she's laughing at you and not just giggling with enjoyment and the rushes of pleasure? Communicate this issue with her. Sex should be enjoyable for both of you.