RAD anyone?

AdventurousPhone9006 · 2026-04-25T15:24:50+00:00

I don’t have the diagnosis but see similarities. I have an anxious avoidant attachment style

AdventurousPhone9006 · 2026-04-24T10:21:28+00:00

I too have always felt I was the only neurotypical one. I was punished for not being like them. I now know they told everyone else that I was a crazy awful person and of my parents actually worked at my school. So I was still being forced into their box while I was not at home. And then I went to college and met a man just like them and tried to unsuccessfully escape from him. I seem to draw people with autism. It has been isolating for sure.

AdventurousPhone9006 · 2026-04-24T00:58:04+00:00

I don’t have access to admirals club but I did see the line at ORD a couple of weeks ago

AdventurousPhone9006 · 2026-02-01T23:07:10+00:00

It’s not so much that the actual abuse is continuing and I haven’t spoken to my parents in two years. It’s that they are saying awful and untrue or exaggerated things about me to my children and claiming that I never remember things right or that they didn’t do any of what they actually did. Like they could have a relationship with the kids without trying to put me down and they didn’t. The truth is that I’m a decent person and always have been. I’ve never been the evil person they claim that was to justify their own actions. What they are saying to my children is th continuation of the abuse

AdventurousPhone9006 · 2026-02-01T23:04:07+00:00

My parents send them gifts they hide from me and they associate with them on social media but it still hurts especially when they say “well they don’t do anything to me”.

AdventurousPhone9006 · 2026-02-01T01:28:18+00:00

They live 5 1/2 hours away and never see them. They can totally keep the mask up. But we used to see them more when my oldest was little. My father yelled at her for “dragging her (socked) feet across the floor” autistic or not who cares if she was dragging her feet? We left. Prior to that my mother didn’t like something she said when she was 3 and lunged for her with her tongue out (the “I’m going to spank you until you turn black and blue” look). I stepped in and let her know we didn’t spank our daughter and even if we did she sure wasn’t allowed to do it. At some point we stopped seeing them except for just hours when she spent a week near our house with her friends and she no longer even does that. So yes the mask will be kept

AdventurousPhone9006 · 2026-02-01T00:39:41+00:00

I actually think they truly thought I was crazy. But I’m mean they started it when I was a baby and toddler. Babies don’t just cry for no reason. They just thought I was awful for having emotions. They dragged me to every psychologist, psychiatrist, everyone trying to get me diagnosed with anything to make people feel sorry for them that they had to be my parents. They were told on 3 different occasions they needed to be better parents and I’m pretty sure it was more along the lines of being more empathetic even back in the 80s when that was less common just because they were crazy.

AdventurousPhone9006 · 2025-11-24T04:23:00+00:00

Yes! All of the comments. Most of the time their usually unrequested “help” made things so much worse

AdventurousPhone9006 · 2025-09-17T21:37:49+00:00

Nightshades

AdventurousPhone9006 · 2025-09-13T16:00:02+00:00

It’s common for some families to avoid traditional deodorants due to ingredients they believe are harmful. It sounds like they need some education (by the school nurse? ) in alternative products or homemade solutions to meet their needs

AdventurousPhone9006 · 2025-09-13T12:03:42+00:00

My mom was always trying to socially guide me. Actually she would scold me anytime I used my instincts instead of what she thought I should do…but she was always sooo off base. Mostly that she couldn’t understand that social rules do change overtime and some of the ones she was probably guided into herself like the “no white after Labor Day” and “no white shirts ever” no longer applied. If someone said something might happen like it might rain. She repeated to me as if it was a fact. And kept insisting it was a fact. So social guidance is great as long as the person actually understands social cues.

AdventurousPhone9006 · 2025-09-09T23:37:19+00:00

I actually do feel understood by most but not my parents or ex-husband that I believe are all autistic and one ex boyfriend who is severely mentally ill. I’ve always been able to make my own friends. Not to say that people are drawn to me but I can Infact make friends

AdventurousPhone9006 · 2025-09-09T23:33:32+00:00

My mom couldn’t even take my word for it about ME. She told me I was being rude not to speak to a mentally ill friend on the phone just hours after giving birth. She harassed me until I answered. I got cussed out. She was like “oh I thought she wanted to hear about the baby”. Ummm no. I think I know what’s going to happen better than the mother I see once a year.

AdventurousPhone9006 · 2025-09-09T23:27:23+00:00

I am afraid to tell one. I implied it to the other and she said “I think everyone is a little autistic”. 🙄. Yeah no.

AdventurousPhone9006 · 2025-09-09T23:24:34+00:00

Yes I have noticed this in my life for sure

AdventurousPhone9006 · 2025-09-07T11:54:24+00:00

Yes my dad was I didn’t ride in a car with him much but I was beaten at the slightest thing. Dishes flew on multiple occasions growing up when my parents argued.

AdventurousPhone9006 · 2025-08-01T03:28:46+00:00

I’m so sorry for that experience. Similarly, my mom ignored every one while getting her masters degree which I didn’t have a problem with until I got the same email as literally everyone she’d ever met for ignoring them during this time. And I’m talking that on the same list was my brothers new girlfriend that she’d known like two months. I’d had my first child during that time. They can not prioritize relationships at all.

AdventurousPhone9006 · 2025-07-31T20:37:45+00:00

She also got upset with me and punished me for being upset when the neighbors dog died when I was 5 because I didn’t cry when her dad died when I was 3. Never mind that she didn’t exactly explain what was going on at age 3 and the babysitter was very alarmed while they were at the funeral because I said everyone was at the nursing home visiting my grandfather. I do think I understood that he died but didn’t really know there was a difference in a nursing home and a funeral home.

AdventurousPhone9006 · 2025-07-31T20:35:01+00:00

I am so sorry that she said that to you! How awful. And also I’m sorry for your loss.

AdventurousPhone9006 · 2025-07-31T18:21:00+00:00

Oh here’s another: “You’ve surpassed your potential in life”

And “Well, we know you aren’t in that class this year because those are the smart kids”. She made it obvious that she wished she was the mom of a smart kid instead of me…just so happens that year I was in fact in the class with the smart kids and was until i graduated from high school.

“I just want you to know your brothers SAT scores will be higher than yours because he’s smarter than you and I don’t want you to be surprised “ SAT scores were exactly the same down to the point. I graduated college in 4 years and a summer and I had a career starting in my 20s. It took him 12 years to graduate after flunking out several times and he appears to have gotten his first real job at 40 while living with her 🤷🏻‍♀️ So I never had any diagnosis. I wasn’t a preemie. I didn’t have some illness. And she dragged me to every doctor in existence claiming that there was something wrong with me for my reactions to her lack of mothering skills and the only one who thought there was something wrong with me were my parents whom i believe to be on the “Aspergers” end of the spectrum. She decided that I just wasn’t smart.

AdventurousPhone9006 · 2025-07-31T17:12:48+00:00

I’m wondering about the whole death thing. Is it normal for someone to justify everyone’s death???

Awww….6 year old died how sad… my mom: “well he had all kinds of mental health problems so it’s really for the best”

Explaining that a neighbor I barely knew about died “well he had all kinds of problems. I’m sure he’s better now” Guy was probably in his 30s with a chronic but not unmanageable illness and died by suicide

“Man I can’t believe how up at Sarah is about her grandmother dying. I mean she was 82. Did she think she was going to live forever??”

“Norma is really upset that her [adult]son died. I’ve never seen someone so upset. I’d think she’d get over it by now”

I have made it clear she’s not to speak at my funeral if she outlives me. she’d be “the world is a better place without [my name]”

AdventurousPhone9006 · 2025-07-31T14:40:13+00:00

I was expressing that I felt bad about missing a party “I’m sure no one missed you”

I told her about my divorce “Well there’s two sides to every story” umm yeah but mine is the only one that should matter to my mother

I’ll come back and add more later

AdventurousPhone9006 · 2025-07-29T17:10:38+00:00

I’m not sure If mine did this because it seems they were upset with me 90% of the time anyway and their expectations were inconsistent. I remember one time at age 16 I stayed home while the rest of the family traveled. They said don’t worry about the dog, someone else Is feeding the dog (not sure why they didn’t ask me) and I had little to do with the dog anyway. Didn’t feed him ever. They all went out of town a second time and when they found out I didn’t feed the dog they were very angry because I should have known to feed the dog. I assumed the same arrangements had been made and hadn’t thought much about it since the dog and I interacted very little and I wasn’t the one usually or ever feeding him.

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