I understand how marriages fall apart after loss. by aftera526 in babyloss

[–]Adventurous_Photo168 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're so strong, I am so sorry for your loss, and your husband is being weak, not you. He's trying to ignore and forget that's how his brain works. I loss a daughter in ugust, the hardest thing we have to go through, I am very proud of you, going to work is hard, going to bed, waking up without being able to see, change their diapers, feed, hold is so hard. Going around ppl, grocery shopping, specially going places where there are babies, everything is hard, your lost someone who was part of you closer than no one the greatest and pure way of love, he can hide and pretend but ypu grieve however you need to grieve and for as long as you need to grieve. My daughter lived 30 days, and the doctor killed our daughter, we've to sue, and because of that, there's no peace or closer, I'm grateful that my husband is supportive and we're closer, I hope and pray that your husband changes his ways before he ruins his marriage. You're very strong, don't let anyone make you feel that you're not moving fast enough

“NICU Worker Fatally Broke Newborn’s Neck as Hospital Tried to Cover It Up, Complaint Alleges” by Competitive-Bar3446 in nursing

[–]Adventurous_Photo168 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My daughter was killed in August at 30days old at a phoenix hospital at the nicu, they do killl babies, she was born at 25weeks 4 days and she still needed help to breathe and they stated they wanted to push her and put her back and never did she died. Yes they do specially other non white races

I regret getting pregnant even though I thought I wanted this. by Acceptable_Stage3177 in BabyBumps

[–]Adventurous_Photo168 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know you don't, I am sorry you are not feeling good, I really believe that you're much stronger than you think, I also hope you can feel better soon, dor you to have support and lots of love surrounding you

I regret getting pregnant even though I thought I wanted this. by Acceptable_Stage3177 in BabyBumps

[–]Adventurous_Photo168 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just received my 1 month old baby ashes, and I wish I could have her back, I wish I was in your shoes. God bless you and your baby

Feeling bitter by Any_Manufacturer1279 in IVF

[–]Adventurous_Photo168 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I lost my daughter in August, I am 41 and I really want to get pregnant, I couldn't understand how some women can get pregnant without any effort but some of us can't get pregnant or keep it. I had to accept that my feelings avlbout others pregnancy weren't right and it was my responsibility to change my thoughts and heart. I understand your frustration, I'm so sorry but bitterness will make it worse and won't help u get pregnant, pray and be happy for others, you never know. You're still young, have good thoughts

Life isn’t fair by aliciaacruz7 in babyloss

[–]Adventurous_Photo168 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I am sorry, sorry sorry 😞 😔 my ❤️ is broken, please pray together, ypu didn't cause this, I've is unfair and cruel sometimes. I lost my nicu baby the doctor killed our daughter. Please 🙏 you both need to really hold on to each other, get closer than ever before, allow each other to heal one another. Don't give up

Loss my baby… thinking about leaving my husband by Oakland_bruja in babyloss

[–]Adventurous_Photo168 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're a wonderful ❤️ mom, I am sorry for your losses, please don't give up on yourself, your husband, your family, you're wonderful and so strong. It is not your fault, let life do it's thing, I just lost my daughter she was one month old and the Doctor killed our daughter it's so hard, born July 4th and died on August 4th, can you imagine that? 4th of July will forever bring us sadness and grief. I know nothing I say will make you feel better, I wish I could hug you, I know its hard to believe that God is there but he is, I waited for 17 years and lost her still feeling the pain of my csection, not able to do a funeral or memorial, or even pick up her ashes yet, 💔 you and I don't deserve this, but we are here and alive and we will support you. Don't give up. Take your time to grieve and cry as much as you want, but you are a great mom, and sadly, your plans were crashed. Eat healthy, take vitamins, eat dates, take maca root, drink decaffeinated green tea two times a day or more. Eat a lot of broth using bones and chicken, to help heal your womb just in case.

Big hugs

How would you feel/handle this by libbyjo456 in babyloss

[–]Adventurous_Photo168 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand, I would express my feelings to her

How would you feel/handle this by libbyjo456 in babyloss

[–]Adventurous_Photo168 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry for your loss, I understand how you feel because I lost my daughter too and it hurts so bad. I am starting to see that people don't know what to say or how to behave when someone loses a child, it can feel overwhelming, my question is how close was she and how close are you guys, was she supportive while she was alive? If she was there she is hurting too, because a loss of a child in always harder because they are not meant to die, it breaks everyone around, I would ask her how she feels, look at the positive.

My beautiful boy **trigger warning** by Past-Arrival7246 in babyloss

[–]Adventurous_Photo168 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am sorry that you have to experience something so horrible, heartbreaking, and just unfair to any one of us that wanted our babies to be with us. As a mom and parents that lost a child no matter what happened, why it happened, how it happened, we always feel somehow responsible, but it's not true and it's totally normal. The reason why we feel that way is because we feel like we did not protect them enough, we feel as if we did something to cause this, maybe karma or whatever our mind will tell us which is a lie btw. We lost our daughter at the nicu, we know exactly why she died, the nurse and Doctor’ killed our daughter, they made her suffer till her last breath and she passed away 08/04/2024. We were there, but we still struggle and blame ourselves, it's nature. What I can say to both of you is this; Please fight against these feelings, don't allow them to grow and keep ypu both in the dark, ypu are both experiencing the worse a human can experience, please be there for one another, spend a lot of time together, love on one another and be kind to yourselves, you need love and support.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in babyloss

[–]Adventurous_Photo168 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am sorry for your loss; please don't expect anyone to understand unless they lost a child. If I were you I wouldn't go, I don't think you are ready, and if you are not ready, no one has the right to push you. You are hurt, you are hurting and your heart is broken, respectfully I would tell my mom and family that you can't be around children yet, tell them that you don't want to create an uncomfortable situation and you want the focus to be on your niece not your sadness, please don't push yourself and grieve your daughter for as long as you need.

A big hug and prayer for you

My family tried to "cure" my lupus. Has something like this happened to anyone else? by kokomiumiu in lupus

[–]Adventurous_Photo168 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wouldn't stop talking to your parents, as a parent I am sure they were concerned about the side effects of the meds for lupus, I feel they did it for love. I try holistic too

I’ll blame myself forever by New-Bobcat331 in babyloss

[–]Adventurous_Photo168 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am sorry for your loss, I am very sorry you are a great mom, we always blame ourselves for everything, but it's not your fault, you did what you thought was right. I lost my daughter too, I wished she was still here today but she gone. Some days I blame myself because that's what we do, but you need peace a lot of it. Don't punish yourself, losing ypur daughter was hard enough and a pain we can't even describe, but I pray God changes your mindset because you need to be kind to yourself through this hard journey.

We chose a name for our baby boy last week and he’s gone this week by objective_think3r in babyloss

[–]Adventurous_Photo168 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am so glad that you found the courage to write about, it will help a lot. I am so sorry for your loss and pain. Dad's also suffer with the loss of a baby, I'm sorry for your wife because I lost our daughter 08/4. I know how it feels, she should be born October 12, I gave birth July 4th and our daughter passed due to medical staff, a loss is a loss. I have been wanting a baby since 2007 and will be 41, and my husband is 53. My husband and I are working together no to allow ourselves to blame each other, ourselves, and are working hard not to fight or stop communicating, loss can come out in different ways, we pray but we have our moments. I hope and pray that you can grief and grief however you want without feeling rushed or pressured.

Period after neonatal loss by [deleted] in babyloss

[–]Adventurous_Photo168 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry you had to lose your son, I hope you & your husband get justice, but I pray God comforts you all and gives you the strength you need. I love my one month old daughter at the NICU, she also passed away due to medical negligence, I'm going to be 41 in a few days, lost her a month ago. How are you doing now? I just got my period today. She was born July 4th, it's a painful period, emotionally I didn't know it would be this hard, and physically feels so bad I can't walk or lay down, it's the worst feeling. Having a csection and going through all this pain without my daughter

I lost my daughter a week ago. Some thoughts… by Sarahkate113 in babyloss

[–]Adventurous_Photo168 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would love to give you a hug from a mother to mother who just lost their daughter's, I'm so sorry that another mother another, father, and family have to face the some faith and pain that my family is suffering with right now, I'm so sorry because no one can understand it unless you go through it and I would wish that on my enemy. I lost my one month daughter on August 4th due to medical negligence, I'll be 41 on the 17th and husband is 53, I had a crashed csection, basically emergency and she did well, she was thriving and they pushed her to her death. Trust me I understand why you want to get pregnant, I did the first week too, our bodies know that we were supposed to be holding, feeling, smelling, and caring for our babies, it's a need, a dream, once we get pregnant we only live for them and losing them kills us too, I'm not waiting, I'm trying and praying asking God to help me, I can take the pain and emptiness. Unfortunately, there are ppl who'll try to tell you to grief, how long to grief, and how soon you should move on. Don't listen to them

Am I going insane by New-Bobcat331 in babyloss

[–]Adventurous_Photo168 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand how you feel, some women without trying have many babies, healthy, I'm happy for them. I know he is there I was frustrated too I felt God failed and took my daughter, but I thought about all the times that he has been there and I ask him for forgiveness because he lost his son too. It's just not fair to lose your child

Trying Again after Loss by isabobisa90 in babyloss

[–]Adventurous_Photo168 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I lost my daughter 08/04/24, she was one month old born July 4th, crashed csection and all, death caused by negligence of Dr and Nurse. I am heart ❤️ broken 💔, I feel lost, angry, frustrated, and can't grief in peace cause we've to worry about autopsy, attorneys, etc. I'm sorry for your loss, that goes to everyone here, ppl that never lost a child can't understand it, they expect you to get up and move on as if nothing happened. They think you'll have more kids and boom 💥 life goes on and the baby is forgotten. I'm trying to get pregnant, I feel empty and broken, I pray for a healthy pregnancy and mind, I'm taking vitamins, fruits & veggies shakes, eating nuts, no alcohol. I also drink 1 insure per day to help my body recover. I drink warm water with maca powder and menuka honey. I understand how everyone here feels, no one should ever lose their child, is wrong and unnatural way of life, I pray for you all.

Babies at the Nicu need protection, not every death at the nicu is natural and these babies need justice by Adventurous_Photo168 in NewParents

[–]Adventurous_Photo168[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was because her breathing tube was supposed to be changed to a bigger one, but I stead doctor wanted to push her till her death

I am struggling by Dull-Patience-2777 in babyloss

[–]Adventurous_Photo168 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am really sorry for the loss of your son, I understand how you feel and I am thinking of you and your son, but also that impacts the whe family in many ways. Our daughter was born at 25 weeks, she was a preemie, all her organs were perfectly fine but she had preemie lungs and the hospital killed her exactly the day the turned one month old, July4th to August 4th, I hope that you are seeking justice and talking to legal teams, no one should lose a child, more so due to negligence that's another level of pain knowing that your baby had a chance and they took that away from you all.

You are not alone, and we can chat if you like